I had began my experimentation in bondage many years ago (well before the interent and TER) whereby I was occassionally lucky enough to find gals (strippers in those days) that were into (or at least for $$$ let me play) restrictive bondage.

When I got into the TER world my primary focus had been on escort relationships only.  But I got "brave" one day last summer and asked a gal (who I had never seen) to play a bondage role play for me (and to my surprise and delight she gleefully accepted).

Since then I have asked a number of gals that I had seen initially if they would consider this type of role play for sessions.  And surprisingly (at least to me) many of them accepted the "challenge".  And by challenge I am suggesting that some of these gals had never experienced (or so they told me so) being tightly and inescapably bound.  Several of the gals (after the initial session was over) asked when we could do this again...and they were suggesting scenes that they would like to play out (and it would typically be the damsel in distress scenes).

I have had a number of guys PM me with inquiries on this type of play.  As many of the gals I have seen (and I didn't write a separate review assuming I had seen her several times, except for one who wanted me to do so) don't advertise this type of play, I just wonder how many gals out there really do get off on being bound and gagged (hence they are probably very submissive in nature?).  One gal told me that she had never "cum that hard" and just attributed that to being "helpless".  Which is the part of the scene that I also get off on.

So I am asking the rhetorical question of "Are there a lot of escorts that would really get off on this type of play?".

I've tried to dabble in this with escorts, but have found most to be resistant.   My GF, who used to escort and is naturally submissive, drew a very sharp line between her personal life and professional life and was almost never submissive in a session.

What flavors do you most enjoy?

I've got to feel really comfortable with you, but I am absolutely a submissive at heart. I'm not big on a lot of humiliation, but one of my favorite clients.... he is super-dominant with me and I LOVE seeing him!

I've found the men who tend to see escorts tend (not always, of course) to be more on the submissive side.

I'm trying to get in touch with my own dominant side, because I know it's there and I've been having fun with it. So you'll probably be seeing more dominant posts from me... but I'm really more of a sub at heart

Being submissive I love this.  Actually love anything that is exciting and non vanilla.  I look forward to my sessions to guys that like kink.  Vanilla sex is grat dont get me wrong.  But the kink makes me feel alive.

It's interesting to read that comment. I see a provider who enjoys it as well. Very into it in her personal relationships, but not often with clients, as she finds little call for it.

During a session where she was bound helpless and brought to orgasm, she said she hadn't "cum that hard."

Good times. Good times.


HH

I don't allow myself to be bound in my personal play; I'm not about to allow someone I don't know very well to do that to me. And I've NEVER allowed anyone to gag me, not even in personal play.

That said, I have an alter-ego to Jolene who allows canings, spankings and hairbrushes on my fanny in a p4p situation.

I make attempts try this with providers that I see all the time. I bring my equipment and discuss it with them. 50% let me put the restraints on them. The other 50% say no way or tell me they are willing to try if I come back for a 2nd session.

I never do this in a 1 hour session a 2 hour or longer session.

I put them in restraints pretty fast. Blindfold and then ballgag. Then the heavy breathing starts and tell them you seem pretty nervous, lol.

Ahhh, canings are my favorite, along with OTK spankings! I usually don't mind being gagged because I've never been gagged tight enough to not be able to get out of it. And I'm a pretty sneaky bad girl and can get out of most bindings. You earn my respect if you can bind me without my being able to get out of it... but that's more of a personal thing, not business because there has to be a LOT of trust there.... although there are a couple of clients I'd trust in that department.

I can be a pretty bratty sub, too. Not always, but sometimes.

I have been a practicing Dominant for quite a while.......and I have found that many providers embrace the opportunity to not have to be in control of a session......not necessarily bondage.....but that if approached properly.......many providers find it refreshing and exciting to relinquish control.......and over the last year or so.....I have developed many non-traditional relationships with providers who find that they CRAVE the uniqueness of the submissive experience that I guide them through.

The gals that I have played with for the most part are not BDSM players.  What they did tell me was it changed the dynamics of a session (as you well know).  It does seem that some are more into it than others (and my basis for that is the size of the wet spot

What I find very enticing in playing with relative novices is the looks on their faces once they realize just how this game is played.  I show them the toys...explain the predicament they will be in, but still it seems like once they are immobilized the reality of it rapidly sinks in.  And for me, that is a major turn on!

And there are some that we have begun playing with this more frequently, which allows the expansion of the type of play that is involved.  Are the gals really into it?  Frankly, I don't really know as this is P4P and I just assume that they have enough trust to allow this type of play for the $$$ involved.

Like many girls mentioned here, I love being more submissive but the safety awareness one must have as an responsible escort or an in-charge domina really negates being able to do bondage...


Cheers, B

My experience as well. It is the very rare escort who would even think of allowing themselves to be a submissive. Most escorts lack the skill or the interest to be a domme or a sub.