I just posted this on the newbie board and then thought that if anyone knows about toys, it would be people on this board.

my spouse just found some of my lower security hygiene items related to my hobby activities (my hair removal cream and my enema kit).   The phone, leather gear, condoms, and other toys are still secure in a briefcase in my car, but I need some ideas.  I have been at this 3 years and this is my first security breach but it has me rattled.  One thought comes to mind is a locking tool box for my car.  A tool box with a lift out tray where I could keep some tools in the top part and my toys in the bottom.  I definitely need something that locks, cause she was snooping when she found this stuff.  Any other ideas or suggestions would be welcome.

Having been in the BDSM hobby as a male top for over 15 years, I've accquired a large collection of toys. Including a fu**ing machine. I had rented a Public Storage unit for several years until it was robbed and all of my stuff was in the hallway. Very embarrasing. So I would not recommend public facilities.

If you have a regular sub I would recommend putting everything into a lockable case and leave it there.

Rx

I felt sad to hear that you felt that you had to hide things from your spouse.  Not to open up a can of emotional "worms" by asking this question, but have you ever discussed your desires with your spouse, to at least give them the chance to see if they might be interested in exploring your sexual interests with you?  You know, usually it's a "quid pro quo".  Your spouse might have certain activities that she (I'm assuming gender, since you didn't say) might want to explore and has been too afraid to tell you about.  Maybe you help realize your spouse's fantasies, and she helps realize yours.

I'd encourage you to listen to Dan Savage's Savage Love podcast.  You are certainly not alone in this, and he frequently advises callers who love their spouse and want to stay together, but want sexual adventure in their lives.  You might ultimately have to have a relationship conversation where you explain that you have certain "needs", and if your spouse is unwilling to fulfill them, then if the relationship is to go on, you both need to work out an arrangement where you are able to have your BDSM play on the side, with certain rules in place decided by your spouse (like, limitations on sexual play).

My two cents' worth, anyway.

Failing that, if your spouse is not the least bit mechanical, than perhaps a tool box.  If you own a pistol, maybe a gun safe?  Car trunk and storage locker seem like pretty good solutions. You're definitely going to have situations where those things can be broken into, as the previous post suggested, but it would seem that the odds are generally in your favor of that NOT happening.

I use to keep my stuff at work but not anymore because of the leather smell. I have it locked up in a rental place that has 24x7 security. I can only get to the place between 6am to 9pm.

All of my bags have locks on them.

I have to keep the stuff locked up because I don't want the kids to see it.

I use the equipment on the wife and with providers when I see them.

not a can of worms....but at least a small pint container....
i got into the hobby cause my wife and i stopped having sex due to her illness.  we have been married for 30 years and have not been intimate for 5.   she knows i have been getting sex outside of marriage and i thought she was content not to know the details.   i certainly do not want to expose her to the kinkier parts of my indescretions.

thanks for the tip about the dan savage podcast.  i have alot of respect for him as a journalist and am familiar with nhim from Salon and Bill Mahr om HBO.

I keep their toys with me in my home (and since I do outcall and live alone, it is always safe)and in a separate ziploc bag with a an ID I made just for them. I find that traveling clients do not like airport security looking at what is in their luggage or carry on. I love when I have someone who comes to the city and then goes shopping on 8th avenue around times square and then we use it later that night and hopeful the next night too. I love the idea of thinking about them walking into these very private stores and looking at each item and having thoughts about how it will be used. It makes them crazy with anticipation and I always ask them to call me after they have gone shopping and tell me what they have gotten.

Theres always those quickie calls in between making sure they are behaving till I get there..

i have grandchildren.  Amazing as that is, they are wonderfully behaved little human beings.  i have furniture i bought at Pier One that BDSM and Sex things go in and go out of site.

You can buy a cabinet from Downtown Willie to store your items in, build specifically for that purpose,  that closes up and looks like regular furniture.

Hiding things from your wife, if what she is now going to do is take the time to snoop through everything, and has any brain in her that she uses well, i wouldn't insult her to think that a lock or false drawer will stop her from exploring anything at home.

Sounds like you need a 24/7 available locker space that is secure.  it will be worth the investment.

~a