Just common curousity, If a provider asked for a review and you review her well, and in return you asked to be whitelisted and she declines to whitelist you after you have given her a review.  What would be the correct way to handle this? pros or cons are welcome....

It's not worth the trouble to waste your time on things like that.

My personal preference......

As far as your question at hand, I'm not really sure how to handle the dilemma "after the fact." However, if this had happened to me, I personally would much rather have discussed the "Whitelist vs. Review" topic before either or has taken place, to help prevent the possibility of any sort of negative aftermath.  Mainly because I'm a gal that doesn't "whitelist" Although I have been asked by a few to do so, this is something I will not be doing anytime soon.  While I feel confident I haven't....I still pray I haven't silently given the impression....."Write me a review and I'll Whitelist you." If this assumption has been made by any of my friends, then I apologize for not making my decision about this subject clear from the start. If this has happened and someone wants to "remove" their review of me, because I do not whitelist, then I'm perfectly okay with that too.  

I am utterly okay with my decision to not "whitelist" the friends I've seen. In place of that......I will always and eagerly oblige to give a SUPERB referral for every friend that I've seen. (I only say SUPERB Because all my friends HAVE BEEN SUPERB, thus far.) I love giving referrals and love to speak highly of the friends I've seen, because I do think highly of all I've had the privilege to play with. My personal protocol instead of whitelisting, is that when a provider is in need of a referral from me, the first thing I do, is email my friends to verify that are indeed needing a referral, once they say yes, I promptly email the provider with the proper referral information. This simple step is a personal preference of mine and although it's just a "feeling".....I feel it's safe for all parties at hand.

Grace Kelly

"You give me a review, I'll give you a whitelist"
Where is integrity in this? When the client hasn't seen the provider, he has to rely on the reviews and if the review is written for the favor and not so much for provider's impression, is that the honest review??




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just use the contact us and see


tyvm,P.T.

I have been around long before TER and I am using an alias because i dont want to offend anyone but I only found out about being whitelisting a couple of years ago and all though I do have a few listed, I feel that if I ask someone if they want a review I will write one and and return ask if they would whitelist me. It just seems like alot of ladies are requesting whitelisted people as a reference.
I does not bother me one way or the other I know who I am and so do the ladies that I want to see....
Thanks for your responces
BTW- I never would ask for a review of a lady to be removed...

I can't send you a pm because you're using an alias. Just wanted to say I understand you better now, you seem like a gentleman and I'm glad you have other ladies whitelisted you. It's sad to see some people let's say feel surprised/hustle, if girl didn't share the same good pleasant experience. Have you asked her why she wouldn't whitelist you? Like, "I would appreciate if you could give me a hint what didn't go well maybe?" If she doesn't explain why after your polite question, may be she feels possessive and she likes you too much after all. In that case, take it as a complement