Atlanta
Ok so I am gonna get all "deep" and esoteric on you guys and dolls this morning but deep throat has to include deep thoughts too from time to time 
1. Everyone is sexual: Your grandmother, great-uncle and the girl with the coke-bottle glasses and buck teeth that bags your groceries. Sexuality is not a privilege or a gift presented to an exclusively selected mass of people. How (& if) we choose to manifest our sexual nature is as personal & unique as the color of our eyes.
2. Sexuality is/can be fluid.
As much as we’d all like to think that our sexuality can be housed within rigid labels, it’s not as simple as that. The sexual energy that resides within us isn't specific, it just is what it is: erotically, carnally, instinctively sexual. Sometimes you are born with an innately specific orientation. Sometimes you can choose. (And by “choose” I mean explore.)
To choose flexibility, to choose exploration, & to accept the sometimes flightiness of our sexual nature… this is your right.
It’s important to know that the box we tick underneath the word “Orientation” doesn't have to be cemented for the rest of our lives. Just as we evolve, so does our sexuality & the preferences we have within them.
3. Your sexuality is expressed in many ways. Not just within the act of sex (or intercourse) but in other things. The art you create. The tone of your voice. The way your hair naturally curls. The rhythm of your heartbeat. The manner of which you walk. The poetry in the words you speak. These things contain sexual energy because you contain sexual energy. You do not need to have sex to be a sexual being. You already are one, even as you are sitting here reading these words. Perhaps you don’t feel as sexual now when compared to when you are fully aroused. But trust me… your eroticism is there.
4. You cannot get rid of your sexual nature. You can diminish it with negative thoughts. You can scare it away with religious dogmas. You can abstain from sexual pleasure for decades, but you will never be without your sexuality. You can never stop being a sexual being. Your carnality is always within you & it will always be a part of you.
5. Your sexuality should be explored.
Even if you know for certain that you’re as straight as the proverbial arrow, examine the intricacies of your sexual nature. What does it mean to you to be straight? Did you choose the orientation you identify with or were born with it? What do your sexual desires look like? What has the propensity to turn you on? In what ways do you express your erotic hunger? You could even take a gander at The Kinsey Scale.
Experiment. Stay curious. Ask questions. Your answers might surprise you.
Maintain a state of intrigue about your sexuality & all that it encompasses. Wander through the complexities of your sexual nature (because it is quite complex).
6. Your sexuality is sacred.
The expression of it. The definition of it. The way it makes you feel. All of these things, no matter what it looks like, is beautiful. It is yours & no one else’s.
There’s no need to compare your sexuality to the way it is expressed/cultivated by others. Just as there is no one identical human being on this planet, there is no one identical expression of sexuality.
There is also no preferred type or demonstration of sexuality. It can be as subtle, as broad, as passionate, as unrefined as you like it to be.
And that’s just it. Be.
Go easy on yourself & the desires you do (& do not) have. Celebrate the uniqueness of your carnality, don’t disregard it. Keep your heart open to the possibility of change & refinement.
Mind your sexuality. Honor it & keep it safe.
Happy Tuesday Everyone!
Alexandria Fox
1. Everyone is sexual: Your grandmother, great-uncle and the girl with the coke-bottle glasses and buck teeth that bags your groceries. Sexuality is not a privilege or a gift presented to an exclusively selected mass of people. How (& if) we choose to manifest our sexual nature is as personal & unique as the color of our eyes.
2. Sexuality is/can be fluid.
As much as we’d all like to think that our sexuality can be housed within rigid labels, it’s not as simple as that. The sexual energy that resides within us isn't specific, it just is what it is: erotically, carnally, instinctively sexual. Sometimes you are born with an innately specific orientation. Sometimes you can choose. (And by “choose” I mean explore.)
To choose flexibility, to choose exploration, & to accept the sometimes flightiness of our sexual nature… this is your right.
It’s important to know that the box we tick underneath the word “Orientation” doesn't have to be cemented for the rest of our lives. Just as we evolve, so does our sexuality & the preferences we have within them.
3. Your sexuality is expressed in many ways. Not just within the act of sex (or intercourse) but in other things. The art you create. The tone of your voice. The way your hair naturally curls. The rhythm of your heartbeat. The manner of which you walk. The poetry in the words you speak. These things contain sexual energy because you contain sexual energy. You do not need to have sex to be a sexual being. You already are one, even as you are sitting here reading these words. Perhaps you don’t feel as sexual now when compared to when you are fully aroused. But trust me… your eroticism is there.
4. You cannot get rid of your sexual nature. You can diminish it with negative thoughts. You can scare it away with religious dogmas. You can abstain from sexual pleasure for decades, but you will never be without your sexuality. You can never stop being a sexual being. Your carnality is always within you & it will always be a part of you.
5. Your sexuality should be explored.
Even if you know for certain that you’re as straight as the proverbial arrow, examine the intricacies of your sexual nature. What does it mean to you to be straight? Did you choose the orientation you identify with or were born with it? What do your sexual desires look like? What has the propensity to turn you on? In what ways do you express your erotic hunger? You could even take a gander at The Kinsey Scale.
Experiment. Stay curious. Ask questions. Your answers might surprise you.
Maintain a state of intrigue about your sexuality & all that it encompasses. Wander through the complexities of your sexual nature (because it is quite complex).
6. Your sexuality is sacred.
The expression of it. The definition of it. The way it makes you feel. All of these things, no matter what it looks like, is beautiful. It is yours & no one else’s.
There’s no need to compare your sexuality to the way it is expressed/cultivated by others. Just as there is no one identical human being on this planet, there is no one identical expression of sexuality.
There is also no preferred type or demonstration of sexuality. It can be as subtle, as broad, as passionate, as unrefined as you like it to be.
And that’s just it. Be.
Go easy on yourself & the desires you do (& do not) have. Celebrate the uniqueness of your carnality, don’t disregard it. Keep your heart open to the possibility of change & refinement.
Mind your sexuality. Honor it & keep it safe.
Happy Tuesday Everyone!
Alexandria Fox