Through my hobby experience, I met many providers. However, I am still nervous in meeting. I am not a great conversationist. Sometimes, my nerves get the best of me. I guess maybe shyness or lack of self esteem. What are some great strategy to overcome this problem. All opinions are definitely welcome.

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Best place to start is to be honest with yourself about why the nervousness.  Is it really conversation?  It's clear from your writing that English isn't your primary language.  Is there something about you physically that you worry they will react negatively to?  Do you fear performance issues?  Endowment issues?  You can't fix it 'till you figure out what's broken.

I can't think of an environment in which there is less to be nervous about in terms of meeting a lady - excitement and anticipation: yes, but nervous: no.  They are very skilled at putting you at ease and with working with you on any other issues.  Almost universally, their focus is entirely on you and meeting your needs.

So, if the problem is something other than conversation, then be upfront at the start.  If it IS conversation, then you need a little ice breaker maybe.  Godiva makes a nice little box of truffles - hand it to her when she steps from behind the door and I'll guarantee a smile and a conversation start.  If the problem is that you just have too much time to worry, then develop a good relationship with Sunny, Misty or one of the other agency heads and do some short-fused "who is available" sessions where you don't have time to worry.

Or you can do the old nervous speechgiver's trick of picturing the audience naked.  Oh - wait a minute - she really is going to be naked!  What's not to like?  

PS - Looking at your reviews, you've seen a lot of Atlanta's best and I know many of them.  The response above is pretty generic intentionally, but I can't imagine that any of those wonderful ladies wouldn't have been totally cooperative with resolving nervousness and putting you at ease.

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Joe is just shy,  English is his first language....he's sweet and very kind.  I get nervous when I meet a new person too.....Joe don't worry, you are doing very well!     xo

 
K

judging by your reviews you are doing A-ok.

But what you could do is arrange an appointment to where she comes to your place, your turf,
Homefield advantage.  Or maybe meet for a drink first.

Wtf is ur damage?

Seems he came across a tad miffed......huh......

There's always a sense of anxiety/fear for these kinds of things:
Will she look like her pictures?
Is she mentally stable or a complete flake?
Is she (or should I be) dominant or a bit submissive?
and a myriad of other thoughts come to an analytical mind...and that's just on the first date!

This is Normal. Anxiety/fear of the unknown help keep most of us from being utter a-holes.

My advice for overcoming your nerves:  
1) Your reviews are fair, honest and your account is that the ladies enjoyed themselves as much as you've enjoyed yourself.  That said, I think you're probably over-thinking the whole awkward thing. Breathe, take up Tai-Chi or Yoga, and chill a bit. You're not delusional, You've got game.

2) Research!
Most gals do offer a "bit about me" type sections on their personal (of the agency's) websites, in addition to the fan fiction of the TER reviews. The women I have encountered in the Hobby tend to love Confidence and Intelligence. If you can confidently talk about things you know interest her, with coherent thoughts on those topics, your appearance score goes up (if she were to review you). Bonus points if you have a shared interest (photography, travel, etc.) and you can nerd out for a moment or two. She'll relax a bit and you'll relax as well once you notice that change in her.
I often find that research to be a bit relaxing. Anything I can learn and do to prepare for a situation makes me more at ease. Knowledge makes me more confident than appear arrogant (confidence you can't back up).

My two cents, ga_kosh

You have nothing to worry about.  You're a nice guy and that's really all that matters.  As was already mentioned, the ladies here are very good at putting their clients at ease and making them feel at home.  If you are respectful, on time, have good hygiene, and the proper donation amount that's about all that factor's into it.  

In fact, one of the best times I had this year we probably said less than ten words the entire session.  It was pretty amazing.  So great conversational skills are definitely not required.

But if all that doesn't help your confidence, I will give you my secret weapon in being able to talk to girls.  Please don't tell anyone - as this is a most powerful tool.  Are you ready?  Good.  Listen close...

Women (yes, even the very beautiful ones) are just people.  That's it.  They are human beings and they live in the same world, they have (basically) the same needs, desires, fears, and frustrations we all do.  They eat much of the same food, watch the same things we do, hate the same politics, and despise the same traffic.  Many of them even laugh at the same jokes (although admittedly that is very ymmv  LOL).  We (men and women) are much more alike than we are different.  Except when it comes to our naughty bits and the wonderful way they compliment each other.  That's when the real fun begins...

So be yourself, don't overthink things, and if you do feel like talking - just talk to those girls like you would talk to anyone else.  But maybe keep the fart jokes to a minimum around the ladies - for some reason they don't seem to appreciate them as much as us guys do.  

Well I hate to disappoint, but I don't have a single bad thing to say about Joe.

Big guy, just take a breath and enjoy the moment. The ladies here seem to love you, enough to go out of their way to mention you by name on more than one occasion. So whatever you are doing, keep doing it as it seems to be working.

neener, neener. surprised you all, didn't I? lol

Folks, are there any empty, human-sized pea pods lying around???
Be on your guard...
Spooky.

Just check out my last few posts on the Fla board and you will see I can be as ornery as ever.

The difference here is Joe from everything I have ever heard, is a genuinely nice guy, and being genuinely nice is worlds apart from simply being a spineless suckup.

That's something that I do. I have scrawny legs but I tell myself well it does make my dick look bigger. It doesn't bother me at all. If you have a self-image issue then the hobby can help. It boosts my spirits when I get s hot 20 something to come and hangout.

As far as conversationalist, I am the worst at it but if the lady is any good at her job. Then she will have you believing that you are Sean Connery in the James Bond movies.

Remember you are the one paying. It should be about what you want. If you want a BBBJ for the whole hour then it shouldn't be an issue unless she only does CBJ in which that's on you for not doing your research.  

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going soft in the hobby.

I'd like to see a gal do a blow job for an entire hour....it's NOT ALL about him.....it's about both....some guys yea,  want it to be all about them...but there are so many who want to please the lady as well......I'd hate to see a guy that just wanted to jack off on my face....that sort of type.....IF that is what he wants that's fine....but,  it wouldn't be my most memorable moment....

The strategy I use is one or two drinks. Gets the job done every time.

Some guys just want to DATY a lady for the whole hour in which that doesn't make a lot of sense to me personally. That's like a chicken paying you to eat him. I don't jack off on the lady's face. However, having a lady do a BBBJ works the best for me. Condoms don't work on me. I can't feel anything with a condom on me.

I don't expect a lady to do a BBBJ for the whole time. We do it til I am done with the round. Then she snuggles up with me while I catch my breath. That's about 20 minutes of the session at least. Then I am ready for the second round. Then we cuddle for awhile and then we get cleanup and dress. I kinda describe the session as the GFE on your birthday in which the lady only cares about what the guy wants.

I admit it is not too much fun for the lady but most seem to enjoy their time with me.  

Anyways, my post was intended to make Joe feel more confident about the hobby. Sorry if I offended the lovely Khori.

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With your premise....the topic is "it's about the guy who is paying".....that, my dear is all I need to hear.....

I know that is NOT the way you are....but,  that is the type of guy I couldn't have recourse with....but,  do.......I get off on him getting off for the most part.....if he is kind and gentle....    that makes it much more special....  

 
We all enjoy different things....I try to enjoy them all....  xo

 
Khori

after do you really want to be leaving still hard??? lol

if one or two drinks is a good thing, wouldn't splitting a bottle of tequila be even better??? lol

As for me, I hardly need anything in order to relax. I love sex and I stopped being nervous about it back when I was a teenager, but that doesn't mean I don't still like to "just get and screw" and I certainly am not one of those guys who avoids alcohol before sex.

One word of advice for those who haven't figured this out for themselves already. Alcohol does have a side effect of desensitizing you "down there" making it a bit more difficult to cum. Now this can be a good thing if you are a "two pump chump" but if you already have difficulty cumming, it can certainly exacerbate the problem

I always wanted to have one of those 4 hour erections cialis advertises.

Yeah, I'm after your heart and more . Wonder where we'll end up after splitting that bottle of tequila haha lol

because you really don't. You're not looking for a wife here, so who cares about your conversation skills. A good provider should be articulate enough to bring those things out of you, and not make it worse. Find providers who are more laid back and easy to talk to... ones with a brain also help lol.