Last night, I had set up an appointment with a provider who works in an apartment off Roswell Road.  The apartment complex was in a decent part of town, but it still seemed a little shady.  I was given the apartment number and drove around for about 10 minutes trying to find it because there were no signs on the buildings and no lights in the complex.  When I finally found the correct building, I noticed a parked car that I had driven by a few times that had somebody sitting in there.  As soon as I got out of my car, a man got out out of the parked car and basically stared me down for a second or two. It freaked me out and my first reaction was to get back in my car and drive off.  I called the provider to tell her I was sorry that I was leaving, but I was really freaked out by a man who got out of his car at the same time as me and stared at me.

I guess my initial thought was that he was waiting for people to come to that apartment so he could mug them.  If there were lights in the complex, I probably wouldn't have been so freaked out.

My question is was I being paranoid or did I do the right thing by driving off?  

Always go with your gut instincts. It might have been okay-but was it worth the risk to find out? Incredible-you thought with the right head. What's your secret????

Whenever I go to a new provider location, be it hotel or apt complex, I make a point of scanning the parking lots. I am sure this has saved me problems in the past as I have seen 2 guys who did not look like they belonged, sitting in a car on the backside of an extended stay place, donuts and coffee gave them away.

I left and when I called the provider from a pay phone she acknowledged that the hotel manager had just asked her to leave and the Donut Duo was there to escort her out.

Always go with what is the safest for you.

Good Hunting!

Pheonix

When you think of it, this can be a really sketchy hobby...  
I think at incalls (known & unknown), you always need to have eyes in the back of your head.  I always leave anything of value (watch, credit cards, etc.) at home.  Whether planned or not, you never know when  a husband, boyfriend, cop, dealer, or other bozo, could pop out and try do you harm....

Every so often I browse through one of the other boards and am amazed at the risks and bad decisions people make all because they need some action.

Stay alert.

when I have arrived at a location that is either a single home or apt or condo and there is something that strikes me as not being safe.

Good work, I have a hard time thinking with the right brain when I have made it that close.

Yes you did the right thing.

Something similar happened to me last year. Went to see a provider for the first time at a motel and the coast was clear. Got there and knock on the door. She opened greeted me and asked if I could get her Pepsi from the machine downstairs, went looking for the machine when I noticed LE parked close to my car. I passed the patrol car, went to the machine, got her Pepsi, brought it to her and told her I was unconfortable there and left. The provider got a little angry but she understood the situation. Too bad cause she was hot but I wasn't that h*rny.

Ya know, that Pepsi thing alone raises suspicions.  The please go get a soft drink or ice, or both almost always involves multiple floors.  The tone of voice, the excuse that  she doesn't have change when the vending machines take paper bills, and when the can may have been opened but remains full, you know you it wasn't a genuine request.

If she gulps it down while expressing how thirsty she was and what a swell guy you were to get it, it may have been legit.

Most times it's probably a relatively benign ruse to get you away so a customer, pimp, or bf can get out, she can clean-up, or hide something or induldge in pharmaceutical.  Sometimes I'm sure it's so you can get checked out by the associate's eyes that happen to be placed on the critical path to the vending area.

If she does the prelims and receives the donation, before sending you to the vending-ice machines, be really careful.

I have not had this problem in a good while but like many of the Ladies say "if in doubt move on". You did the right thing to call the Lady and she should understand your concerns. Sometimes times thing just don't feel right. Trust what is inside.
Strike

You most definitely made the right choice!  Always go with your gut instinct - and obviously you did just that.  I am very strict with my "reference checks", but it's because I value not only my safety, but want to create as close to a "safe and secure" scenario for my dear friends too!

Whoooo....just reading your post made my heart race!  So glad that you are safe!

Hugs & Kisses,

Alexis
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Ter serves a purpose.  I see very few women.  Those that I do see are those that have posted on Ter forever, have reviews from well known people on the site, and, preferably have met in public.  Not only does it cut down on anxiousness, but it also makes it a much better experience overall.  One lady that I see has been "out of the business" forever, but still sees me.  Other than her, I only see a few people who meet the criteria above.  Why go looking when you hit on some ATFs?

Bill