I would like to ask the board for some advice.  There is an independent provider who others have seen and reviewed.  She has "mixed" reviews. I have noticed her a lot more on the "ad circuit" and she has more reviews lately.  I saw this same provider on 3 occasions.  Each time was a little different, but I learned more about her each time.  Without going into details, the last time I saw her ended really badly.  To the point she threatened to call the police, to kill me and made me give her all the money I had, go to the ATM and get her even more or she wouldn't get out of my car, etc., etc.  Trust me...not a fun situation to be in.  (Oh before I get all the questions about what triggered it...she wanted me to stay with her the night, I wanted to go home...one of the reasons I am in the hobby is for no drama...this situation was a lot of drama).  
I really don't want to go into all the details in this post, but would like to know...should I post a review and "let the cat out of the bag" about her.
I really don't think she would ever hurt anyone, but I almost feel people should know what they are getting into when they contact her...
I have struggled with this for the last few months.  
Thanks for any advice...

Respond to a PM from those who would be interested in knowing who it is as opposed to doing a review then it would be "Buyer Beware" !

this type of information is exactly what this forum is about...

I would say for sure that you should reply to PM's requesting her ID. I think if you post her name here it would just become a train wreck that the moderators would just remove. I think this is a serious safety issue for everyone in the hobby.

Who threatened to kill you.

Perhaps you've given her some valuable information that she used as leverage to make a fool out of you?

If that's the case I would not post her name here.. instead just pm the guys that wish to know who she is.

And stick with well reviewed gals they're less likely to do this kinda shit to you.

All these women getting upset and NASTY when we wont take them home & fuck them proper.
  Well just last month I had a provider show up at my door ,pounding on it for 15 minutes,  and then she started yelling for all my neighbors to hear, demanding I give her my hot ROD !!ROFLMAO
Well it did happen but in fairness & need for full disclosure ....I know it had more to do with her needing/wanting $$$ than my GOLDEN ROD!
 Sorry just having a little fun.Seriously ,threats to call police cause she wants an overnite with you.Then tops that with she will kill you, if you  dont "DO" her.
 Thanks for the laughs this morning ...here I thought I was only one having fun.

I would post it, then she would have the opportunity to respond.

If your post is the truth it is your obligation to post her name in public

Blackmail, theft, murder threats...

How is this even a question?

Of course you should write the review explaining the gory details.  And, of course you should post a mini review here as well.

1.  She threatened to call the police (you didn't say why but doesn't matter)
2.  She threated to kill you.  Uhhh, ok?
3.  She made you go to the ATM.  Uh, sort of like blackmail or robbery right.

I am really disappointed that this happened a few months ago and you are only now mentioning it albeit absent any actionable information for anyone.

If you don't do the reviews, then I really have to question what you are doing on this board in the first place.  I mean, the whole concept is to share important information and to be recipient of what others share.  Right?

I have no idea who some of the posters are in this thread, but I absolutely agree with PWilley on this. Will such a post cause a trainwreck thread?  Probably; trainwrecks have been caused by far less serious stuff.  

But whether it causes a trainwreck or not, how would you (jjdog69) feel if you got trapped by such a lady only to find out that she had done it before with some other guy that did not do a review or post a report?  This place is for sharing the good and the bad and with over forty reviews to your credit, I am honestly surprised by your asking.  

If there is any question that you misinterpretted the situation then you were foolish to make this post.  Or, if you have a hidden agenda to get back at or harm a lady's business with such a post, then you do have legitimate reason not to post anything further.  But, I do not think that is the case here.  At this point, not following through with review or post will play out as significantly as actually making review or post, at least as far as the TER court of popular opinion.  Sad, but seen it happen way too many times before.

And for those that think PM is the answer, how many times has a lady made a "questionable" post on this board that would have been better suited to the Provider Board and/or PM with the rationalization it based on fact that not every lady checks the Provider Board or has PM capability?  Not to be mean, but the exact same logic applies here.

Any answers? I am baffled. All the banter about this is a business. Would you date a provider? Would you marry a provider and hundreds if not thousands of similar questions.

Once the little head takes over, no turning back, is that it?

but the answer really depends on you. If you have given her (intentionally or accidentally) information that could hurt you, then I would suggest don't do anything. The risk you that with this route is that she may use the information anyway and you may be screwed no matter what you do. If not, then by all means post. The hobbyists have a right to know what they may be getting in to if they see her.

Since you've already brought it up, you could always answer PM requests for information, assuming you can use PM's here. However, the risk there is that you don't know to whom you're responding and it could be one of her "friends."

Tough choice. Good luck.

I appreciate all the responses.  Some very good feedback and advice.   Thank you.
I want to clarify something...from a TER "review" perspective...you rate a provider by "appearance" and "performance".  
This particular provider would rate very well from an "appearance" perspective and would rate very high from a "performance" perspective.  
I guess you could include some of the examples I mentioned in my final meeting with her in the "details" section of your review, but she would still rate very high in what TER asks are included in a review.  

This was part of my dilemma.  

If you would like to know who the provider is, PM me and I will be happy to tell you.  
I will not write a "review" on her.  

Thank you again!

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