I mean the obvious is sex with someone you want to have sex with with little or no effort and zero obligation.

But
is there a hidden cost or benefit.
i have heard the hobby saves marriages, but I think
only if kept secret.

Definately its an ego stroke for a beautiful woman to be into you, but only for time paid.

what do you get out of it?

the thrill of the hunt and the obvious.

You crack a nut for one thing!

Audie

What you get out of the hobby is a "sure thing".

I saw the term thrill of the hunt used.  What hunt?  There is none involved when sitting behind a keyboard, and monitor, searching for the next lady who will literally date you if her time allows, and you have the suitable donation.

Hunting is for mainstream.   Being out, and about, making eye contact, perhaps initiate conversation.  There is always the probability of rejection, or not which makes it tough for most.  Fear of rejection is certainly one reason why the hobby flourishes today.  Rejection is taken out of the equasion unless you've had honorable mentions on the National Blacklist, or have a bad reputation among providers in general.

Part of the thrill of the hunt is the intense eye contact, followed by flirting, and exchanges of phone calls, and emails.   Even the proverbial one night stand would be considered a hunt because you're forced to get off your ass, get out, and go find that special someone.

I've often wondered about the term Happy Hunting and the Hobby.  I think the more suitable phrase would be Happy Prospecting.



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well the obvious is sex with young women who wouldn't give me a second glance if I wasn't  a client.

But the biggest thing I have gotten is a group of friends, both hobbyists and providers who I socialize with, meet for luncheons and dinners, have parties and go places just like my other friends, except these friends know my dirty little secret so I can actually be more of myself... a horny old freak!

As for the Hunting part, I'd have to disagree. Part of hunting is not just bagging whatever is in your scope at the moment but selecting a prized trophey that you can gaze upon even if it's just in your memory and recall all the subtle details of the initial contact and the ensuing struggle. I have memories from 25+ years ago until now of certain ladies and my times spent with them.

I don't know if I agree with that.  I spend much more time online parusing the listings on CL and Reviews here than I do actually persuing the hobby.

I think part of the thrill is seeing who all is out there.  Variety is the spice of life and all...

If you are so inclined to partake then there is some degree of the thrill of the hunt.

I decided awhile back(I'm 33) that I didn't want a girlfriend or a wife. There's way to much variety in life to be tied down to just 1 woman. This way, I have my bachelor freedoms, and can meet any woman I want, nsa.

I have to say the hunt- prefer mp's and new (if reviewed) providers and a way to kill time when I travel.  Places like TJ too!  Also some guilt, worry about catching things and drained funds...

I'm not married so I can't comment on the effects on a marriage, but I get a lot more out of the hooby than the obvious physical ones. The emotional connection is just as important, if not more so for me. The conversation, interaction, and emotional touching goes hand in hand with the physical touching. I have fun for the time I am with a lady, and what ever might be going on in my life is pushed to the back. Call it an escape, if you like.

I think we live in a time where everything seems to be complicated, and sometimes we just need to have fun. As long as you're not hurting someone having a little fun is ok, and sometimes we need to be reminded of this.

even the hobby.

Relationships are one of the things I'm passionate about. I love really digging into how relationships are constructed and how they end and the hobby has given me a completely new perspective on relationships. My best hobbying experiences have been the intense GFE encounters in which there was some very real emotional depth, even if only for an hour or so. Encountering that kind of waxing and waning in that brief period of time has been extremely interesting for me and I've learned how to be much better at doing that myself, at establishing connection and then moving away while avoiding attachments. Very Buddhist in a way.

Plus, I get to have sex with lovely women! What a bonus!!!!