All,

I'm still indulging in the AMPs and other massage outlets but want to meet with a provider one on one.  The screening thing makes me a little nervous because they want a lot of personal information -Information that could really bite if it ended up in the wrong hands.  I respect a provider's need to verify that we are who we claim to be, but it's hard to give up that much info.

If anyone can shed some light on how this info is used or how it is maintained, I would appreciate it.  Has anyone been burned?

Thanks,

I have never had a problem with providing enough information to make a provider feel secure that I am who I say that I am. I certainly can understand that a provider needs to make sure that clients are who they say they are and not LE or some sicko that will do them bodily harm. Rest assured that no provider I know keeps a black book of client info.  Once they are sure we are who we say that we are they discard the info.

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I always love this topic!! As I have said in the past, please be careful on what personal info u give to some providers, because it has happened in the past if u piss her off she will make your life hell!!!!!! Screening is a must as well as discretion and being careful on who u see, but it also works both ways...The client has to be careful just as much as the provider especially when some providers state that they don't keep info on clients....Even the tightest screening that some providers do, doesn't help because they have been busted!!! Just do alot of homework when u do decide to see a provider.....I feel there has to be a comfort level between the two people!!! Alot of my clients know alot about me and I have no problem with that, I have nothing to hide........Just be careful but always be safe but have FUN!!!

T

Ya know what ALWAYS amazes me......?
The hobbyist's that will use a credit card. They dont want to give up their names for screening but, then give alla that personal financial info to a voice on the phone or to the escort with a swiper......................? 'Cuz its easier to finagle the monies?
I have heard tell stories of "office" help selling those numbers to others that then do much more damage than me having your name.
tyvm, P.T.

You're right... its probably TOO hard to give up the info.  Me personally, I dont think I'd be able to do it, and havent so far.  But if you lookin to spend some money with some EROS quality girls without having to give up info holla at me and i'll tell you what to do.

Cash only!

My friend Heather has had alot of people concerned with screening.  I put together a FAQ section on her site.  This is the Q & A. . .

Q~ Why do you have to screen new clients that are interested in seeing you? I don't care to give personal
information about myself.

A~ Screening is very important, not only for my safety, but for your own.  I understand discretion and will NEVER
violate anyone's trust.  You will find that most providers now a days screen any new clients that contact them.  If
a lady does not screen her new clients then trust me she is careless and reckless and is NOT concerned with
her own safety and discretion nor is she concerned for your's.  Remember, I screen any new clients that have
an interest in seeing me, I want us to have a relaxing and sensual time together.

If you see a well reputiable provider you should not have any promblems with screening.  There are alot of hazards to the hobby guys and if you want to see a Lady it's the risk you have to take in order for her to feel safe and comfortable.  The way I see it is that these Women offer something very personal and don't mind sharing personal information to you about themselves.  Like Sofia said, you know their number, where they live and who they are.  Some Women have ended up with stalkers and that gets pretty scary.  It's a 2 way street here, it's not like the Women are wanting to get a photocopy of your ID, they care about their safety as well as yours.  loosen up a bit.

Kisses,
Monica

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A few things here...

First of all.. do you have a website or pics? I would like to see who you are if you are a courtesan..

Secondly you said, "  Screening is very important, not only for my safety, but for your own.  I understand discretion and will NEVER
violate anyone's trust. "

I have been browsing this message board occasionally over the past couple of months or so and I've heard horror stories of the women posting other guys information and that type of stuff WILL NOT fly with me or any other professional that has something to lose.

You also said, "There are alot of hazards to the hobby guys and if you want to see a Lady it's the risk you have to take in order for her to feel safe and comfortable.  The way I see it is that these Women offer something very personal and don't mind sharing personal information to you about themselves.  Like Sofia said, you know their number, where they live and who they are.  Some Women have ended up with stalkers and that gets pretty scary.  It's a 2 way street here, it's not like the Women are wanting to get a photocopy of your ID, they care about their safety as well as yours.  loosen up a bit."

What type of hazards to the "hobby guys" you talking about. And I know exactly what you are talking about when you say that the girls need their safety because this guys end up being stalkers ( some idiots have the mindset if they pay for something they own it ) but on the flip side, what about the girls end up getting attached and trying to stalk ME and it wouldnt be a problem for them because they have my info? explain that.

Sweety, we can say "what if" all day about this and go in circles, like I said it goes 2 ways for Hobbiest and providers.  First of all TER does NOT permit providers to place personal information or names of hobbiest up on the boards.  The only time I have seen Women post on hobbiest/clients if they have done something bad such as ripping the girl off, hurting her, or just being a plain ass.  The Ladies on this bord back channel to eachother and there is nothing wrong with them giving eachother that information.  They are not permitted to post personal information here.

What I am saying is there are concerns on both ends, but when you weigh it out the Ladies really have to watch their backs and take care of themselves.  NO amount of $$$$ is worth going to jail over, it's humilating and degrading.  Reputable good providers screen PERIOD, thats just the way it is.  Both hobbiest or providers are still taking chances either way, but screening does help providers relax a bit better which makes for a better session for the hobbiest.

If a hobbiest is concerned then he needs to back channel himself, check the Ladies reviews that he is interested in, ask other hobbiest here about them and if they are trust worthy.  The members of this board will be more the obliged to help you I am sure of it.

Kisses,
Monica

P.S.  My photo is below.
If you wish to discuss this matter privatly you may email Me at [email protected]

Hey Chief:

Perhaps if you saw higher class providers you would not have to worry about being compromised.

...and it has little to do with the quality or class of provider, as you state below.

I know of several ladies who have released hobbyists personal information, either to other providers (a no-no without prior permission), to other hobbyists (another no-no without prior permission), or on a public forum such as TER (a HUGE no-no, regardless of circumstances).  Some of these were reputable providers.

As recently as yesterday, in a fit of frustrated anger, Lundon Strapp posted personal details of a potential client's emails in a TER thread (not mine, although she mistakenly identified them as me).  However, for showing she is capable of such irresponsible actions, she's been crossed off my list forever, and I would recommend anybody else who values their privacy to do the same.  With me, this is a "ONE STRIKE AND YOU'RE OUT" rule.

In several situations, the info would not have been available to share had it not been kept by the provider.  You're living with your head buried if you really think no records are being kept by anybody.

atl_mgr

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Atlanta Manager, To say that Lundon posted personal information of a client's identity is so untrue. You act as if she posted name, address, phone # etc. She posted the type of service she thought you contacted her for and then upon realizing her mistake she made a public apology to you which in my personal opinion was very admirable of her to do so, Especially after the way you accused her of being responsible for Pilar's level of service. She never even mentioned this guy's screen name or email address. Lundon could have just left the original post as is without an apology to you. You are trying to grind an ax here it appears to me. Lundon would NEVER jeopardize a clients personal information! She has showed me the in and outs of this business.

For the record I'm not affiliated with Pilar, and I'm an individual. I don't know her and I don't appreciate you all destroying my post with accounts of her alleged bad sessions,reviews,etc. I think that was really tacky. I'm just glad there were gents who looked past all that drama and gave me a chance. THANKS!

apparently from a pissed off new boyfriend of a provider I've seen in the past.  Apparenty, she had saved my name and number in her cell phone, and he got a hold of the phone and decided to call all the guys listed in the Contacts and let them know "she was his girl now".

First time I've had anything bad happen related to the hobby in a long time, and it did get me thinking that I might need to be just a little more careful in the future.

I never stated that "Lundon posted personal information of a client's identity" - those are YOUR words, not mine.

What I DID say was true - she shared, ON A PUBLIC FORUM, details of  personal email messages she received from a potential client, and (falsely) identified ME as being that client.

That is a serious breech of privacy, regardless of the fact that she was mistaken.  If you don't understand that, then I suppose we need to cross you off the list as well.

atl_mgr

My comment is know the provider and her reputation. There are providers in the area that are professional and have built their business around total privacy and respect for the clients they serve. Their business is a tribute to their beliefs & actions. To state all providers keep personal information is simply not true. There are Providers in the Atlanta area who have gone to great lengths to protect a client, it is sad that the tacky unprofessionals always seem to grab the attention and are discussed. Bottom line, you get what you pay for and know the provider that you are with, if it is that important to you.