Makes me think about the amount of Okays I've given out on P411....not many given how long I've had an account with them.

I usually dont even think about it until the gentleman asks or if it's on my mind. Or unless it was an especially memorable encounter. I was asked for one recently and decided to go back to give out a few more that I saw didnt have any updated ones.

It's usually not on my mind. And also I can admit to forgetting that whitelists and okays are for ppl that you've seen and can confirm are safe. But you have gentleman that act differently with some providers than others. I gave a reference check to a provider only for her assistant to contact me the next day saying he ncns'd her. I got the feeling she was angry with me. Telling me her provider is out of money from getting the incall. I felt horrible!

So sometimes I'm hesitant to vouch for certain ppl. Especially if the encounter was....so, so. Not poor, not unforgettable but just okay, you know? I have regulars who started off that way but as we continue to see each other, it got better and I'll go back and then give a whitelist....again, if I'm thinking about it. I have no problem giving reference checks for the most part. I just do my best to reiterate that I'm only speaking from my personal experience with the person.

It's kind of a dilemma...🤔  

I'd love to hear other ladies' perspective on this. I'm glad you brought this up though. I could get better at giving out whitelists & okays in particular.

-Anina Love

I usually don't think to ask. Recently I travelled and hobbied with a couple of  nice providers and I did think to bring it up, since I don't have any new whitelists since the blackout was lifted. So far neither one remembered (or they both changed their mind)...could be they're not fully active on TER post blackout....
Thinking back over the years, there's been no pattern. In the cases of the whitelists I have received, I was just as likely to have not asked for it  and gotten whitelisted as I was to ask for it and not gotten it for whatever reason(no one I ever asked ever said no, so chalk it up to forgetfulness), and of course sometimes I did ask for and receive. It certainly has been helpful to have been whitelisted.

My personal experience is that only a very small percentage of ladies whitelist clients voluntarily.

I asked for it I got it.
I asked for it - was told ‘yes of course’ but never happened.
I didn’t ask for it I got it.
I didn’t ask for it and didn’t get it ... lol!

Also, in my experience. having WL is more useful in the beginning days of hobbying  and when one travels.