Why try to analyse a "working" woman's thought processes when you've got your SO's to figure out! If there's too much drama just move on to the next bus!

Seen a provider that just rocked your world. Chatted with you on the phone in text messages a few days after seeing her cause she was that cool and ended up saying something to her pissing her off then wish you hadn't done that you have apologized to her but haven't heard from her yet? Did it get to you in any way and if so how did you deal with it cause knowing that you want to see her again and now may not be able to ? do not ask in pm or here not gonna say who it is or what was said that is not important.

It couldn't of been that bad?  Maybe you are overthinking this.  There is no blanket answer, especially not knowing the details of what you said...

it might work if you got along as good as you said

good luck!

I don't mean to sound harsh, because I've had similar feelings where I was afraid I had inadvertantly offended a provider I'd really liked.  But wake up!  This is a business transaction!  She's not doing this to meet her next boyfriend, and you sure better not be doing this in hopes of meeting a girlfriend.  She's doing this for the money!!!!!!!!

To put it bluntly:  If she'll suck the dick of a perfect stranger for $300, then offer her $400 to suck yours if she means that much to you. Otherwise, wait a month or so, and send her an email saying you'd love to see her again for two hours.  Trust me.  Unless she's physically afraid of you, she'll greet you with open arms.

Holy shit, SmallBizGuy- that's funny cuz it's true.  I agree completely, great advice!

...telling a provider to "hold your spot" at 6pm on a Saturday while you wait to hear back from another provider first isn't that becoming.  Telling her it's a "toss up" between her and another lady and saying "don't book anyone at six on Saturday because it may be you" would probably encourage any lady to tell you to go fuck yourself.  I, however, would have a bit more class and say it a bit more politely.  Maybe something along the lines of "I find it highly offensive for you to ask me to hold a spot for you while you wait for your first choice to respond."  

Any lady in her right mind would find this rude and offensive and would most surely NOT be holding that spot just for you.

Hey, any guesses who the lady in question is?

I sure wouldn't have ever brought this to the board, not even the provider board to vent my annoyance, but since you want to talk about it, let's.

I DID respond to you in telling you how rude I thought it was, and that I didn't have any availability left.  You responded by apologizing again but yet reiterating that it was still a "toss up."  My only piece of advice to you is that the next time you are trying to decide between two ladies, be a gentleman and make your decision before contacting them.  Then, perhaps if that doesn't work out, contact the next lady.  Considering we had both met with you before, screening wouldn't be an issue.  "Hold my spot while I decide" won't work with me.  Variety is the spice of life, and I enjoy meeting  new people just as much as the hobbyests do, don't get me wrong.  But telling me not to book another confirmed appointment and rather wait around on you to make up your mind is laughable.

I would never want another lady to read this post and be discouraged about seeing you.  You were a perfect gentleman in meeting, and you were right, we had a great time.  This post isn't directly about you as an individual, solely about the contact that went on between us, why you pissed me off, and how I feel about that.  

SmallBizGuy is right about one thing...email me in a while, and I'm sure I'll have gotten right on over it.  A barrage of messages is not going to ease my annoyance at the moment.  However, I am certainly not without fault, so I'll step off my soapbox now.

Is it just me, or has the TER Atlanta message board become a lot more fun to read the last few days.  I love all this gossipy stuff!

I like a scrappy girl.  I know nothing about Alyssa Anderson so I'm certainly not "white-knighting" her, but she's sure become a hell of a lot more interesting!  (Although her website has a lot of big words on it.  What the hell does "Appropriation" mean?  Sounds like something Congress does, which, now that I think about it, is probably something very similar to what a provider does!  lol)

But I totally used thesaurus.com when I picked that one!  

However, I just looked up "Appopriation" on Thesaurus.com, and it gave two definitions:

1.  allocation; setting aside
2.  stealing

Hmm.  You might want to rethink that one. lol  

Maybe try something like "Philanthropical Contribution" if you're going after the high-rollers.  

I know, but I typed "donation" into the search box on thesaurus.com and that's the one that I like that came up!  Looking it up on dictionary.com DID make me rethink it, even though "a specific sum set aside" kind of makes sense!

Hmmm...tough choice. Should you hold your evening open for a guy that has the arrogance to say he can't decide if he should honor you with his company, or spend his time with another lucky lady? And you both state that there had been a good meeting previously? I don't know you, but it's appreciated that you spent the time to respond to a post that never should have been put out there in the first place. There has been a few posts on both sides recently regarding the repect shown to the other party's time....he obviuosly had no respect for yours.

Alyssa is Suncoaster's pick for the week!  What a brown-noser….

thanks smallbiz and to all that is good advice.

Hey just cause I may have pissed her off dosen't mean I don't think she still rocks.  I fucked up not her.

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I nominate this for post of the week.  Well done

Game, Set and Match.

I couldn't have said it any better myself!

First of all, I have to agree with the provider.  It's BUSINESS.  Not personal.  Believe me, I too have a provider that I like VERY much.  But she's just that...A provider who SUCKS AND FUCKS for MONEY.  The fact that you would even post what you did KNOWING she would read it shows me you aren't very smart at all.  Yet like the woman said, after a few days, you'll get horny, call her, she will treat you like just another client, do her job, take your money, and then it's on to the next one.  

Second, I find it sad that some men think that because you have a "great time" with a provider that means she should call you sometime.   Look, you paid your money, got a great fuck, MOVE ON!  She will!  TRUST ME!  Most high class escorts have the business down to a science and will NEVER let you get that close to them because they won't risk allowing a "dick in the cash register." They won't risk having a different relationship with a man because once you get tot close, it fucks up the income.  If you really like her, work your ass off, make plenty of money, then call her every other week and screw her brains out.  You'll love it because you're seeing her a lot, and she'll love you because you are paying a third of her rent every month by yourself!  

Keep it simple:

Call, meet, pay, fuck, leave, smile!

Life's Good!!!

CDAV

totally missed my point I do not have feelings for this girl I think she is totally cool and the complete package. what I wanted to see was....ya know fuck it you all have your opinions instead of asking me in private if you didn't understand my question you all just assume what I am trying to get at and you all know what they say about assumeing. the only person who seemed to get what I was asking was smallbiz and smallbiz I thank you for your advice with out being an ass about it.

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Stuff happens between men and wopmen all the time. Sometime
Good sometime bad.  But
Bringing it to the boards is only gonna piss her off and
Make you look pathetic. Sorry!

Agree with your comments, but not your subject line...

He did in fact solicit advice ... then replies that almost everyone misunderstood him? And responders should have pm'd him ..? How about not posting about the mistake you made, and just make it right in private with the other person? What am I missing here?

Apparently my whole second post.

My goodness, not only is this lady smoking hot, she comes across as very intelligent.

Dude, what were you thinking? Hold the 6 p.m. spot for me, I might take it. Kinda hung on yourself eh?

This lady has every right to be angry.

Small biz guy is correct with one exception, not only will she be over your comments, she probably will not remember who you are or what you said.

that no one asked you anything "in private" because you made it clear in your first post that you would not entertain PMs regarding who said what or what was said.

Therefore, everyone made their assumptions based on what was stated on the message board.

And I wasn't being an ass.  I prefer "bitch" if you must begin name-calling.

You already look good in the thread. Let him go on it makes
No difference at this point.

Btw. See my review of this girl total surreal experience.

The Georgia game was boring me...

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I won't ask you what possessed you to say something so incredibly stupid, I will only agree with you that yes, it was a very stupid thing to say.

The thing that really puzzles me is why you would want to bring this to the board to begin with, I say stupid shit all the time, but I certainly don't advertise it. Not unless I want to give the board a free laugh at my own expense that is .lol

In her, and I guess your defense as well. She seems to be taking it rather well, I would say that with a little time and definitely a rather large tip, she will forget all about it. lol

Does that pretty well sum it up?

and in my defense, I don't really know how to do this without being an ass about it. Nor do I plan on learning. lol

You do realize that half the fun of this board is making fun of people who do stupid shit. Don't worry, by this time tomorrow someone will admit to something five times stupider than what you did and your faux pas will be yesterday's news. lol

BTW didn't you specifically ask for people not to PM you for the specifics? How can you now criticize them for "jumping to conclusions" because you wouldn't provide the details that Alyssa finally did reveal?

but I like that in a woman, especially a hot one. lol

I bet this thread just got you on at least a dozen "to do" lists.

In all seriousness for a moment, it's a fine line that a provider has to walk in cases like this. You have to defend yourself without coming across like a vengeful bitch.IMO you passed with flying colors. CK should take lessons from how you handled this. Of course it helps when the facts are in your favor. lol

I read Alyssa's post and thats really uncool.  I once was trying to arrange a threesome with two providers as a first time meet between the two.  They were able to do it at a time that I was already working on with another provider.  I told the first two ladies that it I was busy and continued with my meeting with he other lady.  

When I finally did meet for the threesome they stroked my ego and said why didn't we do this sooner.  I responded that I had done the honorable thing and followed through with my commitment after explaining the decline for the the first meeting.  Point being at the end of the day you are paying for these ladies time which includes advance preparation so holding firm commitments on our part is only common courtesy.

I was actually wary of making this post at all, for all the reasons you just stated.  A very fine line indeed, but hey, I'm not the type to be walked over.  The only time I'm EVER submissive is BCD.