Re: Hey bud do yourself a favor and go find yourself a civilian GF!!

Why try to analyse a "working" woman's thought processes when you've got your SO's to figure out! If there's too much drama just move on to the next bus!

It couldn't of been that bad?  Maybe you are overthinking this.  There is no blanket answer, especially not knowing the details of what you said...

it might work if you got along as good as you said

good luck!

I don't mean to sound harsh, because I've had similar feelings where I was afraid I had inadvertantly offended a provider I'd really liked.  But wake up!  This is a business transaction!  She's not doing this to meet her next boyfriend, and you sure better not be doing this in hopes of meeting a girlfriend.  She's doing this for the money!!!!!!!!

To put it bluntly:  If she'll suck the dick of a perfect stranger for $300, then offer her $400 to suck yours if she means that much to you. Otherwise, wait a month or so, and send her an email saying you'd love to see her again for two hours.  Trust me.  Unless she's physically afraid of you, she'll greet you with open arms.

...telling a provider to "hold your spot" at 6pm on a Saturday while you wait to hear back from another provider first isn't that becoming.  Telling her it's a "toss up" between her and another lady and saying "don't book anyone at six on Saturday because it may be you" would probably encourage any lady to tell you to go fuck yourself.  I, however, would have a bit more class and say it a bit more politely.  Maybe something along the lines of "I find it highly offensive for you to ask me to hold a spot for you while you wait for your first choice to respond."  

Any lady in her right mind would find this rude and offensive and would most surely NOT be holding that spot just for you.

Hey, any guesses who the lady in question is?

I sure wouldn't have ever brought this to the board, not even the provider board to vent my annoyance, but since you want to talk about it, let's.

I DID respond to you in telling you how rude I thought it was, and that I didn't have any availability left.  You responded by apologizing again but yet reiterating that it was still a "toss up."  My only piece of advice to you is that the next time you are trying to decide between two ladies, be a gentleman and make your decision before contacting them.  Then, perhaps if that doesn't work out, contact the next lady.  Considering we had both met with you before, screening wouldn't be an issue.  "Hold my spot while I decide" won't work with me.  Variety is the spice of life, and I enjoy meeting  new people just as much as the hobbyests do, don't get me wrong.  But telling me not to book another confirmed appointment and rather wait around on you to make up your mind is laughable.

First of all, I have to agree with the provider.  It's BUSINESS.  Not personal.  Believe me, I too have a provider that I like VERY much.  But she's just that...A provider who SUCKS AND FUCKS for MONEY.  The fact that you would even post what you did KNOWING she would read it shows me you aren't very smart at all.  Yet like the woman said, after a few days, you'll get horny, call her, she will treat you like just another client, do her job, take your money, and then it's on to the next one.  

Second, I find it sad that some men think that because you have a "great time" with a provider that means she should call you sometime.   Look, you paid your money, got a great fuck, MOVE ON!  She will!  TRUST ME!  Most high class escorts have the business down to a science and will NEVER let you get that close to them because they won't risk allowing a "dick in the cash register." They won't risk having a different relationship with a man because once you get tot close, it fucks up the income.  If you really like her, work your ass off, make plenty of money, then call her every other week and screw her brains out.  You'll love it because you're seeing her a lot, and she'll love you because you are paying a third of her rent every month by yourself!  

Keep it simple:

Call, meet, pay, fuck, leave, smile!

Life's Good!!!

CDAV

totally missed my point I do not have feelings for this girl I think she is totally cool and the complete package. what I wanted to see was....ya know fuck it you all have your opinions instead of asking me in private if you didn't understand my question you all just assume what I am trying to get at and you all know what they say about assumeing. the only person who seemed to get what I was asking was smallbiz and smallbiz I thank you for your advice with out being an ass about it.

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Stuff happens between men and wopmen all the time. Sometime
Good sometime bad.  But
Bringing it to the boards is only gonna piss her off and
Make you look pathetic. Sorry!

I read Alyssa's post and thats really uncool.  I once was trying to arrange a threesome with two providers as a first time meet between the two.  They were able to do it at a time that I was already working on with another provider.  I told the first two ladies that it I was busy and continued with my meeting with he other lady.  

When I finally did meet for the threesome they stroked my ego and said why didn't we do this sooner.  I responded that I had done the honorable thing and followed through with my commitment after explaining the decline for the the first meeting.  Point being at the end of the day you are paying for these ladies time which includes advance preparation so holding firm commitments on our part is only common courtesy.