So I know when you guys meet a new lady you are excited but lately I have had some come in and say "I love to fuck" "do you like to suck cock?" etc.. then after "how much do I owe you?"  Most ladies I know have reviews (which tells you what the lady does and does not do) All ladies have rates on thier sites and on here. Please inform yourselves of all this before making a lady nervous
PLAESE dont mention ANYTHING of sexual nature or about $$. Whether you all know or not this DOES freak the ladies out.  I am posting this on behalf of myself and a few others as I am not the only lady this has happened to. It makes us uncomfortable as hell.  
We ALL want to have a RELAXING good time  
Thanks so much Rant over now lol
Hugs and kisses
TL

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do you think it has anything to do with that? Meaning a lot of BP advertisers are now on TER and that attracts the clientele that goes with it?

"I love to fuck" "do you like to suck cock?" etc.. then after "how much do I owe you?"  
Not what a gentleman would say...

Have read the providers site carefully (assuming there is one). Many providers have at least general guidelines for the handling of the donation. Some have very specific instructions, there was  one that was something like "not in an envelope, placed on table to left of door." Failing that here are some general guidelines that seem to work well. Know what the correct amount is, use a plain envelope (a card is even nicer but I digress), double check it before you put it in the envelope, place the envelope on a clearly obvious surface and FORGET it exists (Especaily on a first visit). Most ladies won't even acknolage it's existence.  
Never discuss what will or won't be done (espically with someone new), mood and costuming sure, experience type OK, but never specific acts, you should have a good idea from your research. Of course once engauged in play then is the time for direction but again if your going to see a provider who does not list, lets say Greek, in her activities and you ask for it during play, don't be disappointed if you are turned down.  

I've only had this happen maybe twice in person, but several times via email. Who contacts a hooker before he knows if he can even afford her? A dumb ass, that's who.

As mentally screwed up as I was on my first "date" even I had better sense than that. Totally screws up the illusion that y'all ladies are so good at creating for us. A little tact can go along ways. Like our wise guide of the erotic underworld London said its sad that this even had to be mentioned.

Any guy who says "I love to fuck" "do you like to suck cock?"  then afterwards says "how much do I owe you. That's unprofessional to me.. I agree with you there.

However I disagree about not mentioning anything of sexual nature or about $$. Maybe for Newbies

In my humble opinion I don't think that should apply to Respected Hobbyist/members.. we've earned  enough clout to ask about menu and the rate.

Well I dont have anything against BP but I dont advertise on BP and neither do one single lady that I am speaking of.  That honestly has nothing to do with this I dont think. I am simply asking NOT to say stuff that makes ladies nervous. A good smooth energy makes a major difference in an erotic encounter and if one person is scared the fucking hell out of inside, chances are the rest of the experience might not go as it should. I am trying to help us all out here and just give you guys the ladies perspective. It can be scary if the wrong things are said
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TL

No flame here TP

YOU are one of the most respectful gents I know and I have never felt anything but good times and that great groove baby! This is exactly how one should conduct themsleves IMO  
Listen this is all for everyones well being! We (providers AND hobbyist) sometimes never know what is on the other side of that door when you open it.  
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TL

Well really they are just nervous I think because all have been wonderful gents I am just known for being al little free spritied and so people feel comfy talking to me anout ANYTHING and I am sure most good providers are the same. When it is the first time meeting though, it can make a lady nervous. I am sure most mean no harm at all but I thought this should be brought up because in fact, given the right circumstances it can be very harmful.
I am hoping all can please keep this in mind when seeing someone new
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TL

Well if you are an Respected hobbyist then you should atleast have enough sense to do some freaking research and already KNOW how much the lady you are about to fuck charges and what she does. CLOUT ot NOT lol Not trying to be rude here but come on! I would expect a newbie to ask that stuff before I would a respected hobbyist Most seasoned hobbyist never mention one damn thing except when are you available and where are you?
I personally LOVE a gent that loves to fuck however this can be a sfety issue and not to mention why would you want the lady you are seeing not to be completely comfortable seeing you?

sometimes providers profiles aren't complete or accurate... for example daty or greek maybe listed as don't know on a ladies profile.

I just think if a seasoned hobbyist does it he should get a pass, but I totally understand your point of view.  

When the guy walks into your room, slam the door closed (preferably with him in the room) and don't give him a chance to ask such silly questions.  Maybe I am a pig, but sounds like a win-win solution to me.  

You pretty much summed up what i was trying to say

Any services and donation conversation should be handled on email or phone prior to the date.. Plain and simple...

Now I agree with that 100%

PER my website......My donation is for our time together and for my companionship alone.
Please abstain from relating my donation for "time" to anything
of a sexual nature. (Written nor verbally) These things mentioned are never to be discussed, not in a text, not in an email and especially not in person.........   I feel an experienced hobbyist should understand that message and if you're a newbie hobbyist, you should've read my site where all questions can be answered, or read my profile and reviews here on T.E.R. Sometimes I'll send a link via email to the link on that page if I feel the question of $ could arise.  

Exactly

Well said AF! Thank you
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TL

Don't know if anyone has run into this situation but my bank informed me after the fact that counterfeit money is running rampant in Atlanta. (yes, the teller just handed it back to me) I don't even think the client knew as it was just one bill that was fake for a dinner date.  Also, being shorted my donation.  then recently a guy wanted to charge the session which I only deal with cash. (of course he didn't have cash on him)  I might have to change my method of exchanging money as too many problems with a closed envelope.  any suggestions?

I tend to have favs I repeat with and also try out new girls that strike my eye.  I'm not a greek freak, but enjoy it occasionally.  With a new girl, I research her profile and read her reviews, so I know is she "offers" it and also actually does it.  I know that, if you are going to do it, then the girl needs a headsup for prep - no one has ever told me that they do so routinely.  Finally, I know that the gentlemanly thing to do is to just  schedule it, spend the $100 and take your chances.  (Hopefully, this will diffuse some flame-throwing.)  

That good guys, like good providers are good to find.  
Fact is its in the numbers, a lot more hobby ists then providers
Out there.  

Hanna.  I am surprised that counterfit money does not show up more often, did. I think you can buy a colored pencil to check bills, thay way you are protected and it would be relatively fast to check.

the bill I'm talking about (out of China) does not show "fake" with a pen.  there is a silhouette of Ben franklin that can e seen when put up to the light and this is the only way to prove it's not real per person at bank...

the banker gave it back to me so I could redistribute it.....and did.  Bad technology is one step ahead of good.  This is really serious and I didn't think anyone had a solution.  I guess I was just wondering if this has happened to anyone else.  The gentlemen was from Germany visiting U.S. so maybe more caution should be given to men abroad....

I agree. It diff does change the vibe. I dont mind the talking dirty (i can believe that they maybe nervous) but I HATE IT when they ask how much! Or even if they dont leave it out in plain view. Most to all girls have websites for further info to give a heads up as well as these reviews. They clearly show what we do do or dont. Personally if I were a gentleman I would do my research just so I can be getting exactly what Im looking for. There is a ton of options and varity to choose from. That way you shouldnt be disappointed and everyone is happy!!!

Not really, unless the rate is NOT posted and she has no reviews. If both of those things are right in front of your face, there is no need to ASK about anything unless you are just trying to tell her you want GFE vs. PSE.

A sad day when one has to pay for ass with fake money, but not long ago a guy in Nashville was using Santa Claus money. I am not one who actually checks the envelope before play time, so I've been ripped off a few times in the beginning. Of course, only an idiot would do that now knowing how much of a bitch I can be when you screw with me.  

Simply saying, "I would like the PSE option" should get the point across, if she has two different rates for it...of course, it has to be discussed, but in a PG Rated version. You can request a service in a cryptic way, and most providers will get the hint.

But I have to agree to disagree with you on this.

Reece pretty much summed it up perfectly with her post below.  

If you are seeing a lady ..especially for the first time... Be sure to have all of the business questions regarding services, and donations etc ... have all of this squared away and agreed upon at the time of booking..

Any questions should be ask and answered prior to meeting. If a client is not sure of a particular service offered.. I don't see the harm in him or her asking prior to meeting, although all questions should be asked in a professional manner

You are correct, but I do not think all are as interested in having a RELAXING good time as you are.

Awww!!! Well you put a lady at ease immediately baby!  
Hugs and kisses
TL

Well, just to play the devils'advocate, I recently corresponded with a lady who hade NO rates on her website. We were trading e-mails, and she replied that it seemed more classy to not list them. We ended up not meeting due to travel times- but if there is one, there are others. But I knew to ask ahead of time. Also had one who had raised her rates (and said she had tried unsuccessfully to get TER to change it) Glad I broke protocol that time (rate seemed low for her level of care) Otherwise I would have shorted her, and would have felt bad about that, when I learned later

There have always been folks who use TER and BP and CL and and and.  For all the complaining about other sites (any of them), the men that look at them (again, any site with pics and ads) are as varied as the girls who advertise.  They are bank VPs, TER VIPs, business owners, tradesmen, clergy, stock boys, professional athletes as well as all kinds of douches and bottom feeders.  ALL types still look at the pics and ads no matter who they and how a person authors their emails is a reflection of how they relate to the hobby and how they conduct themselves - nothing more.

Put the money down...  I can see it, count it, whatever.  If you're already passed my screening and in the room - let's just get the business part out of the way and move on to the fun.  I can't see that an envelope makes a damn bit of difference.

It does seem many times TER will respond more readily to the guys in things like this.