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anubis74 696 reads
posted
1 / 6

I dont understand the hostility on here.  I just read a post of someone calling someone else out, then a post about the post of the one person publically calling the other person out, then a post about that.  I dont understand all the hostility in the threads.  it seems there is more beefing lately than actual good topics, legitimate warnings of LE or safety issues. I mean this is might as well be the one of the hip hop news site rumors section with all the beefing.  

Honestly, I have had beef with about 5% of the providers I have seen and I, have been in the hobby for about 5 years.  I have seen multiple ladies from ATF, JFL, adult film stars, and  independent ladies, NEVER HAS IT CROSSED MY MIND TO GO ON A FORUM AND TALK ABOUT THEM PERSONALLY.  If I was stood up I would mentioned it, if my safety was in danger I would mention it, if it was a bait and switch I would mention it; however, some of these post I am seeing concerning other posters and people are petty and high schoolish. If you dont like someone ignore them, if you think someone is a douche bag ignore them... tying up the board and having back and forth arguments on the messageboards is a complete turn off.  

I really dont come here to see which provider is beefing with another provider or hobbyist.  As beautiful as some of you are I hesitate to even see you because of this type of stuff. I am fearful if we have a misunderstanding I can expect to get flamed on a message board.  Is this really the place to air out beefs... in front of potential customers and in some cases complete strangers?

FrenchFriedTaters 348 reads
posted
2 / 6


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GaGambler 436 reads
posted
3 / 6

If the experienced and respected members here simply ignore him, the newbies will take this as tacit approval of his actions, as no one will be taking him to task for his transgressions. So I respectfully disagree that ignoring him is the answer.

Personally, I plan on continuing to do my public service and warn the newer members of our community, especially the young ladies who are by far the most vulnerable and with the most to lose, about any and all predators in our midst, and I would encourage every one else here to do the same.

BTW, I do realize your post is in basic agreement with mine, I just had to add my three cents worth (adjusted for inflation. lol)

toad5456 32 Reviews 408 reads
posted
4 / 6

I mainly lurk.  Have posted some.  I think the new people should be warned and believe it can be handled with a few reputable people responding to his post(s).  The problem seems to be when everyone wants to add something to what has been said.  The topic then takes up a whole page instead of dying.  It ends up being more attention.  IMHO

Posted By: anubis74
I dont understand the hostility on here.  I just read a post of someone calling someone else out, then a post about the post of the one person publically calling the other person out, then a post about that.  I dont understand all the hostility in the threads.  it seems there is more beefing lately than actual good topics, legitimate warnings of LE or safety issues. I mean this is might as well be the one of the hip hop news site rumors section with all the beefing.    
   
 Honestly, I have had beef with about 5% of the providers I have seen and I, have been in the hobby for about 5 years.  I have seen multiple ladies from ATF, JFL, adult film stars, and  independent ladies, NEVER HAS IT CROSSED MY MIND TO GO ON A FORUM AND TALK ABOUT THEM PERSONALLY.  If I was stood up I would mentioned it, if my safety was in danger I would mention it, if it was a bait and switch I would mention it; however, some of these post I am seeing concerning other posters and people are petty and high schoolish. If you dont like someone ignore them, if you think someone is a douche bag ignore them... tying up the board and having back and forth arguments on the messageboards is a complete turn off.    
   
 I really dont come here to see which provider is beefing with another provider or hobbyist.  As beautiful as some of you are I hesitate to even see you because of this type of stuff. I am fearful if we have a misunderstanding I can expect to get flamed on a message board.  Is this really the place to air out beefs... in front of potential customers and in some cases complete strangers?

ga_kosh 22 Reviews 313 reads
posted
5 / 6

Though I agree with Gambler's 3 cents (adjusted for inflation) given, even he must understand that putting up with certain posters is the price, the tax if you will, you gotta pay to play on the Board.

Gambler, I SOOOOOO agree with you but "certain people" (those I Ignore User and will not name) are allowed by the TPTB on this Board to have a voice - same as yours or mine. The nature of a free society is that we often hear things that offend us just as we hear like minded opinions.  

Unfortunately, our Only Option at this time is Ignore User. Until we have a Moderator that will Banish predators, we will have predators like 'certain people'.  

Fortunately, those of us here who have been around a while can help the newbs (if you will) instead of take advantage of them. The best we can do is Educate the new providers we can and pray for the ones we can't (if that's your thing).

It's a bit sad in this day of 'free info' that so many young women do not (for whatever reasons) do any research into Hobbying before providing. These are the targets of 'certain people' - the young who wander from the herd and get picked off for hyenas (to use an AnimalPlanet analogy)

I have heard stories from various providers over the years who have said "X provider as taken me under her wing",  "I worked for ABC agency for a while" and even one that spoke of a client (much more respectful than "certain people") who recommended working with X or ABC to help "learn the ropes" - chains, whips and such.  

When asked, more of us, as clients should refer to resources like TER or an ATF or one of the many great agencies in this town.  

Paying taxes as I go,
ga_kosh

P.S. - and before I get flamed or anyone starts an agency vs indy debate again - "It's not exploitation if both parties benefit." - Andrew Carnegie

LeslieAwnwoodxxx See my TER Reviews 371 reads
posted
6 / 6

Hi All,

As Im sure most of you know I do not post frequently on TER. Its not because I do not appreciate what the sites done for my business and the great people its connected me with its the unnecessary drama I see every time I look at the boards. No this drama does not have to do with me but it scares me from socializing on the board for fear of unfair judgment. Maybe its a coincidence, maybe not... Its a discussion board so controversy may and will happen but there MUST be respect for one another.  

Cant we all just get along and make peace and love? MUAH love you all....

The '"quite on the board" Miss Leslie Awnwood

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