A few days ago I started a list of providers with a particular attribute that is not tracked by TER in hopes it would be a resource for all of us. I invited others to contribute. As of the time of this post it has been viewed 551 times, 11 comments made, only 2 of which contained actionable intel, both of which were/are mine. One other comment as well as 3 other PM's implied I was being selfish for not supplying more. I've been a member of TER since 1998. Is this the new generation? It's ok to take, not contribute, and still expect more? To be honest I'm pretty disappointed and kind of regret trying to do anything constructive. Are we a community? or just a bunch of takers?
comments of you being selfish was me... when you pointed out that you had offered up some examples I apologized. When I first see a post asking for information I generally look at the OP and their review/post history. I want to get an idea of whether they contribute or if they are just takers. Honestly I saw member since 1998 and 1 review.... I thought you to be a taker so I made my comment. I was wrong, you did end up offering 2 pieces of actionable intel and I apologized.
It is almost laughable that a member of 22 years that has contributed 1 review, is disappointed, regrets trying, and refers to others as takers. Have you been a part of the community up until now? or just a taker?
It does not matter to me if you write reviews or not.... you obviously support the site financially. It really does not bother me if you do not write reviews and you ask for help finding your type of woman.... where your comments rubbed me wrong is implying that the rest of us were takers because we did not jump to provide you with intel
As a long time member - surely you noticed that the maximum life time of a thread pre-shutdown was a few weeks. Every once in a while we would have a nice train wreck that would last a while before the mods shut it down. This forum is really not a place you can make a lasting contribution. I think your expectations are too high.
I do reviews so that I can read the reviews of others and profit from their experience. Am I part of a community - No. As an example - am I really going to contribute to making bail for someone just because they are a "member of the community"? Am I a taker - No - because I do contribute back - just not the way you would like me to. I have seen a few ladies in Atlanta; the size and shape of their lady parts (which do vary...) really has never been a quality which defines whom I want to spend quality time with. Thinking about it - I am not sure how you would actually define it in such a way that TER could really include it. I like them all - innies, outies.... with drapes, without, sans bush, wild or trimmed; with jewelry, without - whatever ... never seen one yet that I didn't appreciate aesthetically and want to... explore further. "phat" is in the eye of the beholder... From my point of view - there was no reason to contribute to the conversation; others may feel the same way. So the thread dies; they come and they go. It is what it is.
I was sitting by the window in a Krystals restaurant on Ponce De Leon, when a panhandler came up next to me and asked for some money, so he could buy something to eat. I told him I wouldn't give him the money, but I would pay for whatever he ordered at the counter. His reply was, "I can't eat the food here."
Who did I ask for help? I offered something and thought it might encourage others to do the same. I have a list of young ladies that I was prepared to share as others clearly surmised since they started PMing me with requests.
Think of it this way... I was trying to throw a potluck dinner. Everyone contributes for the benefit of all. I brought my dish. Everyone else brought forks. How would you feel?
i guess I wasn't clear. I have no problem with the thread dying, except it wasn't/isn't dead. I just logged in and even after this post still have a slew of people PMing me for info that had not contributed anything.
Look I'm telling you what it looks like.... I really don't give a shit how many handles you have to protect your identity (that Walmart Manager job is tough to come by).... All I am saying is it looks bad. If you expect me to keep up with who has private handles and who is a moocher then you are seriously self absorbed. I apologized when I was wrong... You owe us an apology as well if you are really concerned about the community
Continue to play the Victim.... If you believe that your question was any different than the guys that ask about DT, puffies, Milf Threesome, etc.... then you are crazy
and trying to shame people for their lack of interest/participation is a better way to get a lot of comments basically saying "Go Fuck Yourself" than it is to get people to follow you.
Honestly, who the fuck are you to judge who is a contributor to this site and who is not? I've been on TER for sixteen years and I haven't written a single review, are you going to judge me as a "taker" and not a contributor? Now what if I happen to mention that I have well over 50,000 posts, that I have hosted, and paid for out of my own pocket, M&Gs in the Atlanta community, that I have moderated several TER boards and that besides having been a moderator on the Newbie board I have almost 2,000 helpful posts on that board alone. NOW who is the giver and who is the taker? My advice is to lead by example and be patient, not everybody is going to be interested in everything you post, personally I don't give a fuck about phat pussies, it's not one of the boxes I need to check off. That said, I am not here to piss on your parade, and if others are interested I am all for it, but this attitude of "I am a giver and you all are takers" doesn't set well with me, nor does it set well with anyone else if if the comments on this thread are any indicator. Why don't you take a deep breath, have a nice cold beer and try again tomorrow with something that more people have an interest in?
Did I sound demanding? I was going for disappointed.
Never said you were a taker. To be clear what I mean by "taker" is more about honorable behavior than a balance sheet. It is not judgement, just observation. To be honest this post was not really directed at anyone who has responded either to this post or the initial one, but rather more to the over 500 folks who read the first post in a particular effort to reach the cohort of which that thought it just fine to start private messaging me instead of posting in reply, clearly wanting for themselves and not the community, even going so far as to call me names when I didn't respond with a list of ladies and links. I was just hoping THEY would read this and stop. And in fact, looking at my inbox today it appears to have worked.
The 1 review was a mistake made as a result of a browser update and an unnoticed auto log in. That one provider is now waaayyyyy under the radar, so I just left it.
I don't feel victimized. Noone has taken anything from me. I do feel disappointed as I mentioned and annoyed that there seems to be so many people that back channel me for info and even send me nasty grams when my responses don't include the names and links that they want. And the guys who ask about all of those other things you mentioned, I'm not sure they have anything of their own to share, but if they did or even didn't, what's wrong with them asking? I don't understand what you are implying.
If you are going to hold yourself out as some expert that can talk down to anyone they please then expect some people to believe you have that knowledge. Those people will ask for help. While you are so concerned about the community but then complaining if it does not go how you want. I'm implying that you are acting like a whiny little bitch
As far as your 1 review, I am well aware of her and how far under the radar she is now. I'm more surprised that someone as important as you, that has to take huge precautions to maintain your private life, would make such an error.
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