I've been debating on whether or not I should pose this question for a couple of days.  I have searched for other threads that may answer the question but I haven't been able to find any so here goes...

This has been a discussion between me and a couple of other body rub therapist that I know. (I mention that we are massage therapist because, I assume, escorts may have a different relationship with their clients, especially their regulars). Do clients mind or even like if you contact them first via text or maybe even a phone call?  I have a therapist that I work with that says she contacts her regulars weekly via text to ask them if they are going to come see her.  I, on the other hand, am not judging her but I would never do that because I feel like it's unprofessional, I could be "wrong", the provider who does this could be "wrong" or there may not be a right or wrong practice.  I would just like to get the thoughts of some clients and providers out there.

Would you mind if your provider did this?  Would you prefer your provider do this?  I know men want to feel special and thought of too.  I also, understand this would be determined by certain factors i.e. married men, out of town visitors...

Opinions please...

I think the answer is that a provider or massage therapist should not be making an unsolicited contact with the client.  Most hobbyists have emails for the hobby and with their permission would be glad to hear from you once in a while depending on your relationship.  Once a week sounds like too much if it is just to drum up business.  As for texting, you never know in what setting that text is going to appear.  Texting should never be done unless it is in response to a text or previously agreed upon.  

That's my half penny....

I don't have a problem with text or email! phone call would be bad

I think it is never acceptable without permission. But if you ask a client of yours if its alright if you reach out to them once in a while and they approve then that's fine. But as far as contacting them every week I think you would want to ask them specifically if you could reach out to them that often.

Definitely just a place where you want to ask permission rather than forgiveness.

There will be several answers, all of which will some appropriate answer for you.  Here's mine.

Because what we do whether with a masseuse or a full provider happens under the cloud of illegality and the vast majority of the guys are married or in a relationship that would be at risk if the partner found out and sending texts or other announcements without prior permission, would be a BIG problem.  My suggestion is to discuss in a session with each client about wanting them sent, how often,etc.  I think you'll find that most will say no but you'll have a few that say yes and will let you know specifics of what they want.

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I don't mind a text as long as there isn't too much info included. I actually would rather text than call sometimes.

are you keeping phone numbers? Obviously if you (or the other therapists you are referring to) are able to text/call your clients then the numbers are in your phone. I doubt anyone is hand-entering 25+ phone numbers each week in order to send a text.

That is, IMHO, a big, big no-no.

For myself I don't really care. I have a hobby phone that is only turned on when I am in fact scheduling a session or on my way to a session. At all other times the phone is turned off. In addition the battery, card and phone are all disconnected from one another.

Paranoid? Maybe. But I know I will not be receiving any unwanted texts or phone calls.

Now, let's assume (please no ass-you-me jokes) that the clients have given you permission to keep their contact information. Then, only after they have told you beforehand that it OK to text/call/email would it in fact be OK. If you ask permission after you've done it and the wife/SO has heard the message or has seen the text then it could very well be too late for your client. In this case the old saying of "It's better to ask for forgiveness than beg for permission" (something like that) is 100% wrong. Ask beforehand.

Personally I hope no ladies here ever keep contact information. However, I know that is also akin to hoping I find that little green fuckers pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

As always, be safe and have fun

I think this is a big no no. Some hobbyists have a different phone for their fun but I do not and you never know the situation the person is in. If he wants to see you he will contact you.Just my .02

i agree with Nedster & Ziggy.  it's definitely something that will depend on the client & what they feel comfortable with.  i would think that a regular *may* be more willing to be contacted, but in reality a regular probably wouldn't need to be contacted.  i wouldn't recommend it with a new client or someone who you've only entertained sporadically.  SO much of it will depend on how comfortable you are with each other.  

i'd say NEVER call, because you don't know who will be around when the call is answered.  stick with email or texts.

note that sometimes a "hey, how are things going?" text/email communication will generate more visits than a "when are you coming to see me" message...again, depending on the client and your rapport.

On second thought (I shouldn't have responded so quickly), I would get creeped put if you sent me a text. That does mean you've kept my number and I would prefer for all emails and texts not to be kept.

Great point... regulars shouldn't need to be contacted

If the Red Cross can call/email people to remind them to donate their time and bodily fluids (platelets and blood) then why not ISPs? lol

I do not like unsolicited phone calls and texts at all, but email is ok, because who doesn't get questionable/'junk'/'do I know her?' type emails all the time?

In fact, one of my Hobby ATFs recently emailed me and got me thinking "Man I really want to see her again"... to the point that a couple of weeks later I found a way to see her. We had a really good time once again. Well worth her efforts to contact me from both of our POVs.

So emailing your faves or client list is not a bad idea at all. Good Luck.

I hope you are receiving the gist that it is not just regulars that don't need to be contacted. Not rehashing what has already been posted. I agree it is a no no. But here are some other considerations.

Many hobby in lieu of GF so they don't get unsolicited contact. Part of the envelope is so guys can leave NSA. Also, sending such texts "could" be perceived as girl is hurting for business and leaves her even moreso open to negotiators. Last point I will raise that it often backfires when a client gets a text, responds and then gets no response. Then, a week later gets the same dang text. Result is ultimately exactly opposite impression hoped for in sending text in first place.

Not taking a shot at you for asking. Good question. Hopefully you got your answer or at least enough input to determine ifthat is right for you.

Thanks BWC.  Mentioning that "regulars" don't need to be contacted was so because I do have regulars* and I have even had some not so frequent clients that will say "save my number".  I do this and I suspect they would like me to save their number so that I know that it is them when THEY call/text, which, I think, is understandable.  I would hate for a guy not feel special if they've seen me three times or more and I'm still asking "who is this? when the call/text". BUT, IMHO, EVEN IN THOSE CASES I still won't contact them first. I guess this question should/could have two strands (at least)-- for the regulars* or new clients.

Some of you may read this and think I already have my mind made up, which may be true, but I still really, really appreciate the input. Because of the input I am seeing all ends of the spectrum. Thanks.

Provider Dictionary:
*Regular: I consider someone a regular if the have seen my three or more times. If someone has seem me three or more times I will save there number in my phone.

If I have a relationship with a provider and I do with a few, then for us to stay in touch is great. If I let an area know I am coming to town and ask if anyone is around that is great as I have on my upcoming Atlanta trip.  However, if I start to feel hounded or pursued, or like I am getting messages from a solicitor like the calls and texts you get at dinner time, then I would cut that relationship off and move on....

I have a little different take on this. I agree for most people, unsolicited contact could be a problem. I am however  a single person and nobody has access to my phone. Even if they pick it up, the phone is set up with a lock out. I still don't like calls but text and emails are perfectly fine with me and I tell providers so.

I don't mean to pile on, but it is obvious from the variety of responses that it is a personal matter between therapist/providers and their clients/regulars.  From your (AshleyJ/Capri) perspective, keep in mind that this is a business (albeit a unique and personal one) and customer service and contact can be a useful tool.    We all frequently receive contact from our car repairman, plumber, insurance agent, and many more, who are reminding us of their services and in more subtle ways soliciting more business.  I personally have a few special ladies who contact me directly, by text and email, and I have no problem with it.  And I am under no delusions that their contact, even seemingly innocent to merely say hello, isn't geared to the further solicitation and continuation of our unique relationship.  Granted, in each instance I have given permission to be contacted directly.  It is just a matter of the relationship fostered between the provider and client, and communication and understanding as to what is allowed and can be expected.  My advice to you (if you even want my advice) is to ask.  No harm comes in asking, right?  Also understand, if I ever feel I am being contacted inappropriately I have no hesitation in expressing that feeling back to you.  Like I said, as in any relationship, communication is the key.

On a personal note, AshleyJ/Capri can text me anytime.  In fact, a text with dirty talk would just make my day lol.

Agree with hmrn that communication is key whether its a business or personal relationship.  All it would take is a little thank you note for a tip or a 'hey babe' email to let me know that she enjoyed it too, and I'd be up and out to see her again.   At least I know she'll be happy to see me (or will know to fake it).

Maybe business is so good that it's not needed.  Otherwise, a minute to drop a note will keep a steady stream of customers lined up for the long term.

Pre-emptively responding to 'she can't spend all her time emailing with men who have no intention of making an appointment'.....that is the nature of business development; keep  enough irons in the fire so you can make a living off the ones that catch.

LOL don't we know naughty boy!

Yes we do, naughty girl!

I would think that this would only be done with mutual consent. I, for one, would not be able to take advantage.

Several years ago I was a regular of Hannah, who quite simply did the most amazing body to body rub ever! At some point she decided to get out of the business, move, whatever. The best I can figure, (along with a couple of other guys I know), she sold her client list to a girl whose name escapes me, but she had a pimp/boyfriend who would call me at my office and leave messages with my receptionist about massages and this girls availability. WTF!!!!!!!!!! I think it happened 3 or 4 times in about a 2 or 3 week span and I finally called the girl and said, "Look, I don't know who this dumbass is that's calling my office and leaving non-voicemail messages, but it's gotta stop NOW!" She assured me that she would handle it and the calls did stop. BUT, I had to do some serious tap-dancing with a couple of people at work that I should have never had to do! Probably the most F'd up thing that's ever happened to me while "hobbying."
Aside from that, I've not really had a problem with regulars calling me as long as I wasn't currently married or in a relationship. Some have become good friends over the years.