I don't think it is a given that all provider's SO is  a loser. When I think of a loser, I think of what THEY do or do not do, not the SO. For example, if the SO is not working, not providing for themselves and not doing what it takes to grow as a person.. then yeah. They are, in my mind, a loser. Regardless of what their woman does.

it may be that we have lost our definition of a "man" in the last 20 years, but I in a woman's heart she knows if she is with an equal partner or someone they are taking care of. Any man who is with a woman and she is providing him with more than he gives her... is... to me.. a child and she is acting as his mother.

Of course i have this whole long rant on why so many "men" today are just overgrown boys.

And it works beautifully as long as the gentleman involved hasn't shelved his balls someplace.  It's not unlike being in an open relationship where the partners are free to engage with others sexually while still being devoted to one another.  The problem is, however, that your average sniveling hobbyist wouldn't be able to handle it after the novelty of trying something different wore off.  He'd be too worried about the next guy's cock size, and constantly biting his nails at the prospect of being outdicked by clients.  For examples, just do a board search for "what's the average cock size of the clients you see" or something along the lines -- or ask a provider how often she gets asked "do black men really have bigger penises?"  

Dating a provider while worrying about other gents' dicks = shitty relationship.

It seems to me that it would be too difficult. Have her banging someone new all the time,and when and where does she make time for the real realationship. I m just not sure why you would want to get in that type of situation

What people see in each other can't be quantified but
If she has a Mr Wunnerful and she does not tell him it could
Lead to some really bad karma.  
I can't imagine being married to a provider and not know it.
I mean just why does the countess have all that lingerie?
Where does all that axe body wash for men go?
Why does she buy so much lipstick and listerine
Why does her pussy always have a faint latex aroma?

Speaking from my own experience, and mine alone, I will offer this:  I became involved in a long-term relationship with a dancer/intermittent escort.  I consider myself a normal level headed heterosexual  professional male, and she was (and still is, although we are no longer together) a warm, caring, honest woman.  We met through her escorting, and something just connected between us that was unique and unexpected, and we soon carried it into a personal relationship.  I was able to help her get out of the need for escorting for financial reasons after a time.  During that time, what made our relationship work was we maintained great openness and honesty between us.  I didn't want honesty into the erotic details of her work, but openness as to our relationship.  For instance, we treated it as work, and both of us were determined to not let our work get in the way of our relationship (albeit her work was a little more unconventional than mine.)  Now, I must say that all people being imperfect creatures, the road got at times a little bumpy.  I will admit there were times my mind would wander and wonder about things, or I might be just having a bad day, and I was not as amenable to the situation as I should have been.  Likewise, at times she might have been tired or just not feeling particularly romantic (hey, doesn't that occur in any relationship sometimes?) The bottom line is that it can at times be tough, but it can be done.  I don't consider either one of us as "losers" at all (for any of you wondering, we ultimately split up not because of this, as she got out of the business while we were together, but rather for other personal reasons relating to family, etc.)  Every situation is unique, and the problem with people addressing a question like this is it is all too easy to make assumptions and generalizations, and paint the picture with a much too wide brush.  Bottom line- it worked in my case, although at times it was hard (no pun intended.)

Thank you for sharing.

Any 2 people can make a relationship work if they want it badly enough.  There is stress in all of them, even between mere drinking buddies.  When feelings get involved, those stresses multiply.  Honesty and tolerance make things work that people would guess wouldn't.  I'd rather spend my life with an honest hooker than a manipulative bitch.  Then again, carefree and reckless isn't horrible either, lol

I would say that it's highly possible that a provider can have a happy, loving, functional relationship with a man who is not using her in someway.  Anything is possible, but I am also of the belief that all possibilities begin with the persons involved.  One can't have a highly functional relationship if they have not done any work on what makes them dysfunctional and dealt with their personal baggage.  A guy or girl cannot have a drama free relationship if they are constantly seeking drama as a way of validation and garnering attention either.  

Perhaps there is a guy somewhere who doesn't mind sharing his woman with numerous other anonymous men, but I highly doubt that it would last in the long run unless she left the business.  Although I am not a proponent of the fallacy that humans are monogamous creatures (ROTFLMAO) the fact remains that we tend towards possessiveness and singularity in love.  We like knowing (or deluding ourselves) that no one has laid a hand on the broad shoulders of our man or sucked his cock in the way that we do daily.  What man wants to imagine that the same set of breast he caresses were licked and teased moments before his own lips touched them?  There would have to be some sort of don't ask, don't tell policy in place that kept the emotional health of the relationship intact.

But...all things are possible.  Calculus theory deals with possibilities.  No real world current application but hey mathematically possible.

Meh, just my personal thoughts.

Alexandria Fox

I think absolutely that a relationship between a "civ" and a provider could work out if there was total trust involved. Don't know that I could do it though.
I can't help but remember the post from a guy several months ago who'd fallen in love with a provider, was dating her, helping foot her bills, etc. Then he found out that she had a significant other and then it turned ugly with she and her real boyfriend taunting this guy and making fun of him for being so gullible. If memory serves, she had told the guy that she and her SO were on the outs and he was no longer in the picture. Scumbags both, in my opinion.
Always remember that there are some BAD folks out there, male and female!

I feel its a matter of tolerence, bounderies, and understandind, as with any other relationship. But remember, she will almost never be a housewife.