Feel free to PM me if ya don't want to reply here. I keep seeing this place called Trapeze. Up here in the Neo-Christian state of NC we don't have anything like this, so while being well versed in the provider-client world I'm clueless as to how these kind of places work. In definatly gonna sample some of the fine ladies from here while I'm down there but was thinking of checking this place out on a Wednesday night. So my main question is would a decent looking mid 30's guy by himself look like a creep or actually stand a chance at getting lucky? Don't want to be a lonely dork sitting by myself at the bar like a depressed drunk watching everyone else go at it.  And to sound even more stupid would I look like a total reject in jeans and cowboy boots? (Long story but if I take off out of town with a new wardrobe the SO is gonna know something's up)

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If you're going to be there for one night, expecting to get any action, the chances are very high that nothing will happen.

As a general rule, single guys are saddled with the burden of being a creep, whether they are or not.  It takes time and a few visits for couples to notice you, to get to know you, and then think about having any kind of "fun".  

I have found that in the swinging lifestyle, the nicer guys to tend to go farther and finish in a better place than the actual creeps, but trust and understanding has to be built first.  And the best advice I can say is to go, expecting nothing at all, and to not even hope of getting lucky.  I'd say your chances are probably pretty slim, however.  If the club has a message board, it's a good idea to get on that board, and chat up a few folks.  At the very least, you'll have some fun conversation if you meet up with some of the chatters

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Trapeze is a really FUN & eXXXciting place to go especially with an open lady (not JUST a provider) who understands the swinging lifestyle. Swinging is NOT the same as hobbying AT ALL and can get you in just as much drama as it can pleasure with the wrong person(s). Your lady MUST without hesitation be able to hold the comfort factor for the both of you. Everything that happens will be based around the ladies wants/desires to please YOU!  

I personally visit a Private Swinging Ranch in SC with a Gent friend who has searched years for the right person. No one else he ever took was totally comfortable. We have been every month for almost a year now and although it's a small place it's still fun.  

As for Trapeze, I have been with a Hobbyist who was much older than you Case and he had his world rocked. We went as a couple and instead of going straight back we hung out on the dance floor and had a few cocktails to loosen him up. He stood and I danced for a while with/on him. When his smile was bigger than ever and he was moving a bit is when I knew he was relaxed enough and took him to the back. Once changed we met in the jacuzzis and soon after a couple joined us. I immediately kissed the lady/wife bc we had made eye contact and were both smiling so I knew it was okay. From there things were nothing but hot and we made several friends that evening.  

Usually you find your comfort place and chill in that area but occasionally you might want to browse around like in a supermarket, hand out a lil touch here and there and maybe slip a cover on more times in one night than you ever have! Definitely NOT for ladies who crave or want the attention all for themselves. This is a place for REAL Pleasers!

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Wow that's a ton of info!! Thank you so much, looks like my best bet is to take a gal with me. Sounds like fun!!!

Thanks for the advice, really got my imagination revved up now!!!! Sounds like a blast!!

So it looks like a fella going by himself is a major no no. So if a guy wanted to see if a local lady would be willing to be his personal tour guide how do ya find out whose game? So I guess if any of y'all ladies are interested PM me with rates or whatever else a novice might need to know beforehand. Thanks everyone for the feedback!!