Okay, it's the guys turn !!

I earlier posted asking the ladies about times they were with a guy that "just did not get it" ...

Here's a chance to share a bit (No names, please!) ...  Have you ever spent some time with a lady who "just did not get it" regarding what makes you feel good? Oral talents not quite right to the point of not being enjoyable? Too much position changing to get into "the rhythm"? She favors a different position than you enjoy? You're thinking, "If I can only get off soon ..."?

And, again, none of us are mind readers, and MAYBE we didn't communicate our wants well, but, ...

Any brave guys want to share some stories?

In my limited experience, communication is the key to success.
Don't expect anyone to be a mind reader.

that were not as pleasing to be with. Light licking of the clit is nothing more than a show (if someone else is watching) and barely doing me with a strap on (or dilldo) is the same. There have been a few girls though that rank at the top for my best orgasms.

To critique myself, feel that lack of communication and the desire to do so much in a time frame tends to mess things up. My focus may be a rock hard cock in my a$$. His may be eating p*ssy. He may have trouble with erection while I am putting something on his cock to numb him up so he will last longer (that is a disaster, but with enough oral, guys can generally overcome). It is really all about communication and the mindset beforehand (expectations). This should discussed. Individuals should up front and honest. There are some things I have avoided telling guys I do not like for in the heat of the moment who wants to hear about what you do not want to do or uncomfortable doing perhaps. I am uncomfortable riding the face while facing the guy for some reason. It is enjoyable, but you have to be comfortable to let yourself enjoy it. I know I can always enjoy and be comfortable doggie style in p*ssy or a$$ (and many other positions), so why not just do that instead of riding a face. What if that is what the guy had wanted beforehand? And, he did not tell me so. You have to talk about it somehow.

I know this is for the "guys", but I have done girls before so felt I should qualify.

Jolie

I have had many wonderful experiences all over the country however most GFE providers automatically go with DFK, BBBJ, DATY and finish cowgirl. It seems well rehearsed and too cut and dried. I do enjoy all of that but I enjoy other activities too.

So, here quite a while back I found my ATF. I've had ATFs before but she beats them all hands down. Fortunately for me (and her, I hope) I see her exclusevely. When I travel she is with me if possible. She fills my needs like no other. We have become personal friends, BEST FRIENDS. We communicate daily, have shared family photos and info. Talked abour children, etc.
There is a strong bond and trust that is priceless.

Guys, she is the real deal and will remain anonymous as I.

All you guys and gals should be so lucky as to find someone that you really connect with.

QUESTION:
Would you marry someone you met professionally?
I just might.

One other thing.
Before you say NO to that guys, what difference is there between what she does as opposed to your hobby activities?
So, the heck with all the people she has seen. How about all the people you have been with?  
IMHO



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Crash,  you are soooo right, and I know of one that has a relationship with someone, not me, that is mirror to what you say is your ATF. She would be a good catch for the guy she is close with, or maybe it is you. She may know I am speaking about her because she has shared some info with me, I would love to have her but I know it will not ever happen, so if it is you , YOU ARE LUCKY.

To the point,  I try to comunicate always, most of the time it is done by actions and some conversation, they can tell by my actions what I like and I usually can tell hers, not always though, so comunication is essential.

Here is my question and observation, most will ask what is your fav position, then if you ask HER, most will say "doggy", why is that?? Is it so they do not have to see you??  This has been a question of mine, glad it came up here as I would never ask in person as it may make the lady uncomfortable answering. Jolie, can you answer that since you sort of eluded to it with your post, I have never been with you, not that I have not wanted to, but you retired before we got together, have conversed before tho.  

As another said above, the "ordinary get it over with" light kiss, daty, BJ, then Cow girl(str or rev) without stopping I feel is just that, "get it over with" and I do not return and usually do not post or review as it may be ME that is the turnoff and it would not be fair to her to give a poor review.  

Now if it starts off the same then a short CG then she rolls off and says lets do another, or says I want you different or some sort, then I feel she is NOT trying to rush you. Also if extended DATY is encouraged, then I feel she is enjoying you and your company. I feel I should always try to satify the lady I am with this way, if she wants, never know how fast I may finish, and I hope they are enjoying my company as I them and that they may want satisfaction just as I. Maybe I am WAY off base here, yes I know it is a business, but everyone has feelings.  

This is a great thread, and I am sure we all will learn from it.  Thanks for bringing it up,   Jimmy

First off, Jolie, your comments are always welcome. (Glad to hear from you again.)

I think some guys have already mentioned how scripted (my words) a session can become. At least Jolie told you what she preferred, but I think was willing to do otherwise (with enough coaxing, that is ... because she REALLY likes it that way.)

I most completely agree that comunication is the key here. And, I like others, may be more prone to letting the lady "control" the time together. Whether this is from being a bit shy (as I sometimes am), or inhibited (again, sometimes), or just not knowing what is okay and what is "off limits".

One lady was quite verbal with instructions, not telling me what to do next, but more of an "encouraging cheer". Since I was in a very sensitive area, I was glad she was encouraging more. (But, I also wondered if this was just some of the "vulgar banter" some people use thinking it excites me. It doesn't.)

Good comments so far ...

Jolie,
 I'm sure there are many of here that wonder how you are doing.  We all know you had surgery so, tell us are you better, ok, not?  Interested out of concern.


Tired old Marine

This sounds terminal.
Good luck to everybody involved.

Remember, eyes wide open before marriage.
Half closed after.

Iron Man

Tried to speak my mind on this topic as it is one we have discussed before.

Could not put the proper words together to relay my feelings.

Condensed Version: One visit with a provider will let you know if you want to come back and find out what else there is.

Strike

Okay, well, 2 things I have had happen that put a damper on a session ...

1 - an overactive gal in cowgirl. I know, some guys are saying that's not possible, and they like that, and ... But, maybe it's because I am on the short side that I've had 2 occasions where she could have caused a serious physical injury. (I guess they think it's made of wood and won't break ...)

2 - Then there's the just too rough with the oral. Too rough to get me to the edge where I need to be.

Most of the ladies I have seen were just simply wonderful to be with. That's our Atlanta ladies.