The OP made some great points but just as it was already mentioned, if it's out of my price range, I'm not looking anyway.
I will say this, my best experiences have come from Indy providers, in fact, I have not had one bad experience with an Indy.
I have never had a great experience with an Agency, ok at best, but nothing extraordinary.
Posted By: bwcoyote
I did not want to post in Mya’s thread (four or five threads below) since this is borderline off topic plus I suspect there could be drama forthcoming from my opinions. Neither is fair to her. By way of reference only, in one of her responses she mentioned a lady should charge what she feels her time is worth. No argument on that. She further stated that if a rate was too high for a guy, then he check out BP. I found that very prophetic. Because that is exactly what some are doing. Others are sticking with ladies they have seen because they are grandfathered in at a rate, and still others are simply not hobbying as much as they once did. But with respect to the excuses of recession, I do not agree, thinking it has more to do with rate changes and the way rates are conveyed than the economy.
I don't know why everyone is afraid of this topic. Supposedly, we are all adults here. Some don't say much about rates because of the inevitable drama and insults that come as a result of their stating their opinions. Sheesh, since when did having an opinion become politically incorrect around here?
So before anyone says I should go trawl for SW's or look elsewhere if a ladies rate is outside my comfort level - for the record, I get it - ladies can and should set their rates based on what they feel their time is worth and the type of clients they wish to have. Yet too often lost is the fact that gents have the same right to set their rates on what they are willing to pay.
I have not bitched, nor am I doing so now, about the inevitable hobbying fact that some rates are going to be outside my comfort level. For me, that ceiling is 300, there are many that are at 350 or 400 that I would love to see, but I see no reason to pursue seeing them or wasting their time because they are beyond my threshold. I do not think negatively of these ladies. However, it does rankle me when ladies come on and remark how poor the ATL area is for hobbying or how slow it is, or some other denigrating remark about ATL hobbyists when their rates are pushing my comfort level or beyond.
My perception is that in the last eighteen months, there has been an increase in published TER provider rates or maybe it is just an increase in ladies who are advertising at a higher rate. It is immaterial whether the pre-adjusted rates were lower than other cities; it is the relative change that surprises me. Naturally, I am speaking in generalities only - there are notable exceptions. For our independents, fair or not, many of the reputable agencies here have not had any rate increase. For those of us that would prefer an indy encounter, such disparities make it even more difficult to pull the trigger. This is typically where the subject breaks down into the argument that indies have more expenses than agencies. Like the overhead of any other business, that is not a buyer’s concern - a harsh fact that seems to get lost in a discussion on rates.
IMO, I sense the following scenario is too often played out –
Lady A, with little to no reviews or was predominately known as a BP or agency lady (referencing price point only,) tries to market herself at a rate she sees other indy-TER ladies listing. In turn, the TER lady sees this and justifiably thinks she is worth more and raises her rates. What gets lost is Lady A typically doesn’t get that higher rate with any consistency or is not around very long. And then with everyone advertising a higher rate, touring lady B thinks she should be able to come to ATL and command this new established rate. When it doesn’t happen, she is told business is slow or ATL is not a good touring city.
And then there is the whole topic of discounts. If a lady offers a P411 or DateChek discounts, then great - but majority of ladies advertising on P411 or DateChek in ATL do not (which makes me question the usefulness of those sites for established hobbyists.) Occasionally a lady will offer a discount in TER ad section, most often being extended time for same rate or dollars off for spur of the moment. For those that plan ahead or for whom extended time is not realistic, these "specials" are nice, but not that incentful.
Adding to the rate conundrum, as has been previously pointed out there are too many instances where ad rates, TER profile rates and website rates are different. Most do not want to shortchange a lady, but neither does anyone want to overpay. And there are many hobbyists and providers alike that do not want to discuss rates prior to a meeting. Which ties to the perception of an increase in hobbyists who want to negotiate. For those ladies that post a rate of X for their time, believing that a guy will negotiate to Y - then they are losing missing out on gents who might otherwise be interested but would rather keep looking than to try and negotiate.
So, to sum it all up – ladies, set your rates where you feel your time is worth and for the customer base you wish to attract, but please take the time to make sure your rates on consistent in your advertisements, your website and at least your TER profile. Just understand that hobbyists have the same right to accept a rate for the exact same reasons.