You can't win the lottery unless you play. But only ask her if the both of you are single. If she's married or you're married that could complicate things.

To answer your question this has never happened to me because i tend not to analyze things , instead just enjoying the hour that I've paid for!

Seen a provider a number of times and started to getting feelings for her on an intelectual lvl even though sex was beyond great but your feeling a conection intelectually.But your not sure if she feels the same way or not. Do you keep seeing her or stop and let it pass and try again at a later time. All smart ass comments are welcome only because I know they are gonna be said anyway.

You're on the edge of forgetting what this is really about. Ok....maybe a bit over the edge.
It's not like it *never* happens that they share the feelings...but it's about as rare as winning the lottery. If you feel the way you do, it means she does her job well. It's a job...don't forget that. Only you can decide if it's worth putting it all out there on the table.
If you do...one of two things is going to happen. She'll:
1. Lie to you and tell you she is starting to have the same feelings....which will keep you coming back ($$$)
2. Massage your ego and tell you that she could have feelings, but her life is very complicated right now....which will keep you coming back ($$$)

Very rarely, if ever, will you find a gal who will ask you if you're totally off your rocker, tell you to get real, and say never see her again.
This is their job. Their income. How they support themselves....and it's a damn difficult job.

Bottom line is that it's no different than 'real life'. If a woman has interest in you.....real interest....you won't have to guess. She'll let you know. If she hasn't...then she doesn't.

Easy Peasy.

Just sayin'
DD

thanks for insite It really started out like that but to be honest my last visit with her was for two hours and we fooled around for half an hour and talked the rest. pretty sad huh.

Thanks DD that all crossed my mind I am really at that cross road right now do i say something or not. I don't want to not be able to see her any more cause she is freaked out about it but at the same token not sure i can deal with seeing her. I might just cool my rocks for a bit and wait some time and try again later.

Been there, done that and will likely be there again (LOL!) .... My advice, the best defense of the hooker heart is a good cock offensive... Go bang as many others as possible.  Trust me, there is always hotter, younger and more enthusiastic providers out there...  DD is right - It's a business and sometimes you need to make a business decision...  My $.02 worth.... Bluntly yours... MM69

I had a similar situation occur. Have been doing this for a long time and started having feelings towards someone I had seen a number of times. She started sharing details of her life as did I and we began talking on a almost daily basis. I still see her but decided to not talk about personal things as much . It began to feel to much like a real relationship. Keep in mind it is a job and if they make u believe it's real u will come back more often and not see others

Well maybe more enthusiastic but I highly doubt younger this girl is as young as the law allows which is unusual for that young to be so intelligent.

True true I agree the more real it seems the better for them on the return visit. In a way I hate when I get like this but at the same token I am glad I seen her. And yes you are right there was a lot of personal chat being thrown in the mix.

she is a hooker..you are a john..even a rocket scientist knows that much..

... ask him to slap the sh#t out of you.

You pretty much hit all the points.  

You have to remember that the entire encounter is based on getting something from the other person (from both parties involved).  The provider gets their dough and the hobbyist gets whatever fantasy they desire.  It's a pretty selfish senario (from both sides).  You have to remember the odds of something "real" coming from a relationship based/started from "wanting something" from someone is not going to magically become a geniune situation.

When you catch romantic feelings for a provider, a lot of it is your own fault.  If you spend a lot of time with an attractive women, in general, that you connect with and have a lot of fun with (not even including the sex) then of course feelings are going creep in (we're only human).  So with a provider you have to actually make a conscious effort to block that out.  Somewhere along the way you let your guard down (getting really personal in conversations is evidence to that).

Not trying to preach or anything, just a friendly reminder.

P.S. what I do after I see one of my fav providers, is remember that she is going to bang several other dudes between now and when we'll meet again.  Any "special" feelings that I might have had immediately dissapates lol

If you take sex and $$$ out of context, is there anything else you two share? If so, do that, no sex, see if she wants to kiss you some day and if not, leave her and never come back. If things work out, are you willing to support her choice of work if you become a couple and won't call her nasty names and feel guilty? If so, will you stay exclusive and won't use her job as excuse to see others? If you feel you have to see others in order to deal with what she does for living, you don't love her unconditionally. If you convince her to sleep with you for nothing in return, while seeing others, making her feel like it's all her fault, she will realize you're using her and will break up with you sooner or later.    


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Well took longer then I expected for the smart ass answers. LOL But I will say thank you to all you answered with helpfull answers. I have made up my mind with the advice that was givin by the helpfull people.

personal experience?

Good luck joe. Happens a lot.
Play it out see what happens. You will learn mucho
About her.

Even if she says she feels the same way, watch yourself. There's a few "maneaters" out there that will say and do anything to get what they want from you and have absolutely no conscience about it. If things tend to "not add up," run the opposite direction immediately!

Not so sad. I have a really good friend that I met as a provider. We definitely connect on that intellectual level. Towards the end it was surprising if we even got clothes off for a session. We both have other people in our lives who know about what we do. It wasn't romantic feelings more of a we make great friends, so in our case the business relationship was ended and we are just friends. We talk, visit but there is no sex or expectation of it on either side, and no money exchanged. For my situation that was an ideal result.

Seems as if most of the responses treated that as feelings on an emotional level, which is probably what you intended.  I believe intellectual feelings is probably an oxymoron.  Nevertheless, it's an important distinction.  Along with a lot of others, I enjoy getting to know a bit about my lady friends and letting them know a bit about me.  Enjoy occasionally doing lunch before the date.  It's still a commercial transaction, as others have noted, but adds an element of "friends with benefits" that enriches the physical interaction for me.  However, that is very different from engagement at an emotional level, which is where most of the comments are directed.  If that is the case, then the first thing to do is to be absolutely honest with yourself about the nature of your feelings.  If it's "I think I'm falling in love," then I think you have an issue, especially if she is very, very young as you noted.

Well I strayed on my own choice and contacted her and laid it on the line. To my surprise she told me the same thing . But on her end she added " but I have to tell you " . First she liked me but could never be with some one my age. Second I found out she basically quit today because she is going in the airforce in acouple of days.

"The blood that flows to your dick comes from your brain.  Only enough for one or the other!

We've all been there one way or another.  Good luck with your future friends!

I thank you so much for all your help and responces. I am a firm believer in their is someone out there for everyone. Just sometimes I can't control when my heart jumps in. this happened with another girl here and i had to wait till i was basically over her before i saw her again now all is well there.

Maybe you should  write  Dear Abby if you dont like responses you get on a Fk board.

Yep............

I think u dodged a bullet. Your comment about AirForce makes me know exactly to who your referring and I think her reponse to you about similar feelings was full of it. Thats just my opinion from my dealings with her but again I believe u dodged a big one

boards on a hooker site. Sheesh !

Never said I didn't like them it amuses me when the smartass people feel they have to be dicks and have no common courtesy.

Just out of curiousity what do mean I dodged a bullet. she was pretty sweet to me hell she even told me her real name, I think.

If you really love each other, your relationship will survive obstacles and you find answers how to make it work. I know at least three happily-married couples who met each other through adult entertainment. I wish you both to be happy together. Prove pessimists their wrong.