I'm curious what people think of how a provider should handle a missed appointment. I understand extenuating circumstances, but am more interested when the provider just decides not to meet their obligation with no communication.  I'm not looking or expecting anything, but a little something is always appreciated.  Fortunately I didn't pay a deposit. After being burned a couple of times, I never pay deposits.  

I have had three ladies over the last few weeks miss dates. All three were from out of town touring. I learned they were coming via "P411 Visiting Ad." I booked all three well in advanced. All Three decided not to come citing  slow business in Atlanta and not enough bookings to cover expenses. But in each case, none of the three let me know they decided to skip Atlanta. It wasn't till the morning of the appointment when I enquired when I would get location details did they inform me they were not coming. All three took full responsibility and offered an apology. I didn't get upset or give them a hard time; I was cool about it. However, one lady, who is based in Birmingham, AL, offered to drive to Atlanta, a 2.5 hour drive, to come see me only. I was impressed by her gesture and felt this was going above and beyond. I took her up on her offer and we had a great time and I tipped her well.  One of the others took full responsibility and apologized profusely. She felt so bad, she had me feeling sorry for her lol. She offered to give me first dibs when she does come. We agreed on a future dinner date. The third accepted responsibility, but simply offered,  "I'm sorry."

Obviously the ladies should have let you know a day or more in advance that they canceled their visit. Aside from that, there aren't any options for an out of state lady to make anything up to you. An apology (or a favor if she visits at a later date) is the most you'll usually get. The lady from Birmingham made an extraordinary effort, but of course that's not something that can be expected. You were fortunate with that one. We all have occasional disappointments. Spending time with another lady will help you feel better about it.

…sometimes you get disappointed or just flat out lose, if not worse. I’ve been robbed! Twice! I’ve been disappointed. I’ve lost. The other poster is right. Sometimes you just have to charge it to the game and move on. But learn from your own experience. I like to keep options open by taking care to let companions I trust know that I appreciate them. If you don’t know what that means then think harder. I also have more refined rules that I live by to reduce risk of disappointment or worse.

Same thing happened to me but I lost a deposit on a high end provider. She told me this was her third time not coming to Atlanta and wasn’t going to reschedule. I just chalked it up to a lesson learned but I understand what you’re saying. Seems like a double standard because if we did it then we would be listed probably. I try to stay clear of the traveling providers unless I can see them when I travel for work. I’ve also had locals cancel too. I don’t do deposits anymore either because of it.

I agree with everything you said. I would only add that you'd think a provider would want to communicate to avoid a bad review? I've seen reviews where men have given ratings of "1" for similar infractions. I would never do that. I would never attempt to harm a lady's business reputation over something as harmless as a missed appointment. BTW, where have you been all my life? I just checked your website and reviews. Just reading those have me feeling better already!

I think it is worth noting how lucky Atlanta is to have such a strong community of local providers. The last few times I have tried to see a touring provider it has been problematic. Similarly I have paid deposits only to learn their travel plans changed and now will not be in town on my pre-arranged date. This has happened twice. Both times communication was last minute regarding the change and even though, I honestly feel the provider had the best intentions regarding returning the deposit, in each case the process and timing became overly problematic. One did not have it immediately because they had to buy a plane ticket. The other had changed banks. In both cases CashApp or Venmo seemed to be suddenly not working, passwords had to be reset? and "can"t get into my email because I changed phones"? "I was hacked" seemed to be very common in later conversations until I eventually gave up. I believe the ladies intentions were legit. Both had high praise from respected reviewers. But I think travel comes with uncertainty and  money has a way of disappearing in unexpected ways when you're away from home.  Oh well! you win some, you lose some. What Miss Valero said is the best advice! It's all part of the game. Price you pay for playing!

This comment deserves to be repeated.

So that means I'm given my photographer a deposit a 50% deposit and I've already booked my flights! I add one extra day to see no more than 2 gents while I'm in Atlanta. I don't put an add up on the Buzz Board for Atlanta until everything's set and I've booked my flights first.  

I like to have a break the ice" phone chat before meeting a new to me gentleman and only ask for $100 for hold a gentleman's spot. After we've chatted by phone, or bare minimum, texted, then the deposit is due. I make it as easy as possible for a gentleman to book a date with me when I travel to Atlanta.  

I realize this isn't the norm. That being said, please note when I visit, I'm serious about meeting a few gents as an added bonus.  

 
Steph XO

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Maybe you should pay deposits if you’re getting stood up without any cancellation it’s not good business. I have integrity it’s almost impossible to find. If I have to cancel I am refunding your deposit & I am communicating to let you know ASAP. Find a provider who appreciates your business, and values your time.

Meena Valero mentions "Occasional Disappointments"     .......Sometimes the disappointment of a "No Show" is the best thing that could happen!   And keep in mind.....if it appears to the gal that she will lose money on a trip---she should cancel the trip with those that have booked....she should send them an email, text---whatever---to keep those in the loop....but......if she schedules you-----then no shows......consider yourself as to have dodged a bullet !

I experience about a 30% cancellation/reschedule rate with local providers. These are all $700+/hour ladies.

Nope, never pay a deposit. Been burned before. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. There are too many ladies that don't require a deposit. I'll take my chances with no-shows. At least when that happens, I'm only out on my time.

Last year my favorite touring lady from Ukraine decided to bypass Atlanta, because of the poor response she received the prior year. She's in her mid 20's, tallish, blonde, attractive, natural, good English speaking conversationalist with an overall 8.5 TER rating, who charges the average rate. That being said, I noticed on the E site most of the ads are from Latino-Hispanic ladies, so maybe that's where the touring market lies locally.

Deposits just make things so much  easier , i remember  back 20+ yrs ago when guys wanted to pay with credit cards we would  require full payment  before travel to ensure  process and then make an imprint of the card and have the guy sign the imprint and put the license  # on the sheet and have to send it in to visa or master card every month. Now just send a lil 50 and be otw ,we do refund  every  time if the model cant make it . Maybe guys should  write more reviews  on the providers  that have a legit  Deposit process and actually give refunds