I am not going to pout because I got a bad review. I realize I can not be 100% perfect for 100% of the men out there 100% of the time. But I do believe it is a little one-sided at times in regards to these reviews. It's wonderful when it works out that the client and the provider hit it off well, and everything naturally just flows. But in the real world that is rare, so why should it be that much different in our world? Why? Because if you have a bad day, you can't let it show. You better not have a bad hair day, get locked out of your room, get stood up by your ride, get in a fight with your roomate. None of those things matter, in fact YOU DON'T EVEN EXIST except when and where and how the client wants you. You can't afford to be 5 minutes late, you can't take a chance on wearing the wrong outfit, or forgetting your lipstick. When he arrives, you better just put on a damn good smile and make sure he is content ... because if you don't, he will make you look ten times worse than you really are at your worst moment. And he'll say it was bad because you really hate men and must have gotten some friends to write your positive reviews, because NO WAY could it have been his fault that the session wasn't a dreamy rendition of his favorite fantasy.  But what if he was physically rough? Verbally condescending? Aromatically challenged? (smelly) Is the girl then automatically at fault and held responsible for him not enjoying himself when it was really just a factor of his personality not melding with hers?

I believe we providers ought to be able to review the hobbyists. No really, why not? There should be a form we can fill out and tell our side of things. Like, appearance, attitude, activities, manner of speech, hey how about that? If we were telling all the intimate details of your body and ability, maybe you would be a little more understanding of how the session went and why.

Example: one fellow (who will remain unnamed) was extremely rough with me physically. He used vulgar and condescending languge towards me and was not very attractive. On top of that he had been drinking.  I went through with the session to his completion, experiencing major discomfort in doing so but trying to be pleasant anyway. Well, afterwards the guy writes not one but two nasty reviews of me, even implying that my other reviews were bogus. I didn't deserve that and I still have no recourse.

Meanwhile, all the focus remains on the bad not the good reviews. I have to say, it is annoying because each and every one of my reviews have been legitimate. I feel bad that I wasn't able to please them all, but hey... I'm still averaging 7,8,9 performance points so I must be doing the right thing MOST of the time. What can I do about the bad ones? Just this: I promise you I will do my very best to see that your session with me is enjoyable and satisfying. However, I cannot please you if you are impossible to please or for some reason are not attracted to me, or if you are arrogent, rude, rough or dirty.  I appologise to those who felt my performance was not what they hoped for. It isn't really my fault if we didn't click ... we didn't click.
Better luck next time.

And I really love men and love what I do. I don't like men who are demeaning to women, but I don't punish all the men for the actions of a few. Those good reviews are a true reflection of how my sessions normally go, provided the man is a gentleman as earlier stated. I am a little different than other providers, I try to get to know someone before hopping in the sack. If that means 10-15 min playing chess or chatting, it is time well invested. No wham bam thank you mam here, unless the client demands it that way, and I don't like the way it makes me feel.  I am human. Is 15 minutes really too much to ask when you are about to engage in a sacred activity in the most intimate way? I mean, really, its my body and soul I am giving for the session. Don't think it doesn't have its own price tag.

Come and see for yourself ... I will treat you like a king. Just respect me and come prepared to have a good time!

You need to remember that men are paying for your service and $$$ is not a small amount of change.  For that amount of money, men should expect to get excellent service no matter how your day is going.  $$$ can go a long way outside of this hobby so imagine how frustrating it is when you spend that kind of money and have a bad session thinking about what else you could have spent it on.

I'm glad to see this post here.  I've made you the first entry on my PM ignore list, so I won't respond privately to your latest hate mail.  I should never have responded to any of the others.  There are a few things I want to address from this post.


I am not going to pout because I got a bad review. I realize I can not be 100% perfect for 100% of the men out there 100% of the time. - Then quit sending me hate mail...actually send away.  I can't receive them anymore.

Because if you have a bad day, you can't let it show. You better not have a bad hair day, get locked out of your room, get stood up by your ride, get in a fight with your roomate. None of those things matter - Correct.  Of course, you COULD say something like, "tonight is not a good night for me.  Can we reschedule?"

You can't afford to be 5 minutes late, you can't take a chance on wearing the wrong outfit, or forgetting your lipstick. When he arrives, you better just put on a damn good smile and make sure he is content - Correct.  That is what he's paying you for.

I believe we providers ought to be able to review the hobbyists. No really, why not? - Because we aren't the ones getting paid.

I appologise to those who felt my performance was not what they hoped for. - You have a strange way of apologizing.


You know what it was that finally convinced me to take you up on your "special" despite your history of erratic behavior?  You had a link to Jaclyn on your website.  WOW!  Talk about polar opposites!  There could be no better mentor for you to learn the art of courtesan.

I may step on your toes here but I gotta put in my 2 cents. You are supposed to be a professional. I have been watching your posts for a while. It seems you have not established a line for yourself on the personal level. This all seems way too personal to you. Professional does not mean you can't be personable. To pull in the high hourly rate you must have the ability to create a positive  feeling regardless of circumstances and no not 100% of the time maybe 98% of the time.

The other issue is the sacred intimate act as you called it.  You are not being paid for a sacred intimate act.  Save that for someone you love.  If it is sacred each time, don't do this anymore, you will suffer irrepairable damage. Each person that approaches you is looking for intimate recreation.  There is a gigantic difference between a session and when you are with someone you madly love.  Have you ever experienced that?

You also say that in the real world it is rare to have things flow, that is a telling statement.  You are not working in the real world, you are working escape land - fantasy land. This is a higher level play ground and accepting that money means you are prepared and professional.  Imagine if you were going to splurge on a professional date for yourself.  Not because you couldn't get anywhere else but because you wanted the experience. Most I have met could get it elsewhere, we are an indulgence. I have considered it and may still do it myself one day.  In the very least I would want him clean-squeaky clean, dressed perfeclty and totally focused on me.  Think about it from that angle.

This job is not for everyone it takes more than being pretty.  You should take a breather and get your head on straight before you get more negative effects. The fact that you let someone treat you bad and you continued to try and be pleasant makes me think low self esteem. You do not have to book each and every appointment.  If you are having a bad day....reschedule.  If an impolite drunk shows.....say goodbye.  If you don't feel comfortable....don't do it.  I really do not mean any of this as insulting but jeez girl go back and read all of your own posts.  You seem to be in pain and headed for more.

I think I'm going to bookmark this post. I couldn't have expressed my feelings better...especially the last paragraph!

I end up talking to a lot of ladies in the hobby. Unfortunately, self-esteem is a real issue in the business, ON BOTH SIDES OF THE AISLE! Ladies PLEASE DO NOT LET YOUR REVIEWS CONSUME YOU! I have a friend in the business who can tell me from memory, "JoeClient gave me an 8-8. He gave Suzie a 7-8 and he gave Maureen a 6-7." No kidding.)

Here's a very short list of "Dos and Don'ts."

Don't read your reviews. (Even good reviews can upset you because of what is revealed.)

Do learn to say no.

A provider who I was once very close to could be talked into anything. Don't forget Ladies...YOU MAKE THE RULES! If he leaves, there will be another.

Don't EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER,...(my fingers are getting tired but you get the point let somebody talk you into lowering your set donation.

This is a very intimate exchange. You are not going to feel good afterward. If someone tells you, "you're not worth it" aren't you going to feel even worse if you accept his offer and thereby agree with him?

Don't ever take the job home with you!

Even if your personal life isn't exactly what you want, at least it's yours. You need to separate work from life to maintain self-respect/self-esteem. No matter what a "sugar daddy" gives you, he can't possibly compensate you for your self-respect.

Don't barter!

This piggy-backs on the last point. Last Christmas, a provider was looking for a hard to find toy for her daughter. She posted looking for the toy, offering a barter arrangement. I took the post down, first because TER doesn't allow barter posts. However, I knew her a bit so I wrote to her and suggested, "Do you really want to look at your daughter playing with that toy knowing what you did to acquire it?" If you earn the money and then buy the toy at least you are separating work from home to some degree.

That's my short list but it's long enough.

thirsty  

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I have had a few reviews that are not so good... but on the most part they are pretty stable... Here is something I wish .. I wish all provider would take these reviews like a grain of salt.. we can all learn from them .. i wish the guys would be more honest.. even the ones that do not have such a good time.. constructive criticism is always good I say .. how do we know what we are doing wrong or what you think or whatever .. im just not so happy about hearing hobbyfellows tell me about the bad experiences.. and they dont post .. why is that .do you want other guys to go thru what you did.. or what .. . oh well just my 02.. have a great thanksgiving.. hugs deanna

U need to stop raving about the bad reviews!  U are losing business, and the more u rave the worse its going to get.  You have to accept that oppinions are like a$$holes, everyone has one and either they are good or bad!  The more you rave, the worst its going to get!  I hope u take everyones advice. Life is to short, to worry about one or two bad reviews.  Get up, brush yourself off and go on!  Everyone gets bad reviews, and yes, they hurt, but if u don't go on with life instead of worrying about the past you aren't going to make it.  Maybe u do need to find a different line of work, this is not the easiest!  

Rondarae, you go girl!  U rock in my book!  
Keep Smiling,
Kris

IMHO you owe the guy a partial refund or a discounted session. If I'm going to part with $$$ I'm doing it to escape my OWN world, not to experience someone else's myseries. If I'm trading 10 hours of MY time for ONE hour of your's, it better be damn pleasurable!

IMHO, Fox that Rocks is not only confused but tend project all kinds of personalities through posts on the board.

Fox is not a newbie, so I would think she knows better. It looks to me the reviewer who posted the bad review, had a bad experience.

May Fox didn't like him whatever. I don't know too much, why don't providers turn someone away, may not be possible for the high drama that could be potentailly created by a pissed off hobbysts.

One cannot please every one and at the same time when one starts to defend oneself on a public board, many opinions will suraface.

This is a classic case of one trying to defend their action to a group and digging themselves deeper.

Let it go. It will go away in time. Make an issue, it will linger on

Ronda Rae, This is gem of a post.

Rhiannon, focus on the level of service and not the reviews. It takes time to build a good name and reputation.It doesn't happen over night. When you are spending time with a client, connect thru the eyes & the heart and not his wallet!

Smile from your heart.

Sex doesn't have to be so serious. Have FUN and be creative!

Tip the hotel Valet well ~ "To know you - Not to know you." They will take good care of you the next time they see you!

Request a romantic table for two when making dinner reservations for a Dinner Date. Remember the the waitstaff's name and smile.

Treat people the way you want to be treated.

Always have a good CPA & Attorney.

Bringing Out the BEST in People. How To Enjoy Helping Others Excel. Great book! by Alan Loy McGinnis

Be kind & supportive with Providers.

Open doors for others instead of letting the door hit them in the face.

Always follow up with a "Thank you email" after spending time with a client.

Spread as much good Karma & positve energy as you can.

Get your heart rate up at least 30 mins a day. It's amazing how you feel once the Endorphins kick in!

Schedule a massage for yourself at least once a week.

Smile & laugh!

Take time to masturbate!  LOL!

These are just some tips that has made my business a success!

xoxo
Keri

It seems as if you have a problem with reality.  You expect nothing but good reviews because your so impressed with yourself.  You should spend more time improving your service and demeanor instead of getting on here and wining about a truthful review of your bad service, which seems to be occuring more and more.  I caught a lot of shit a month ago because I was your first bad review.  Now there are several and all you can do to refute them is bash the men that go out of there way to see you after you give them way way way less than thier moneys worth. Maybe you should consider a singing career(LMAO)!
Anyways good luck to you and quit bashing us providers!!!!

What a great post. Lern from it. No wonder Keri is the Fireball!

I agree 150% with MrE's statement.

I also agree 150% with all of what tripnatl is saying as well......amen brother!!!

I was not bashing men.

I was responding to your horrible attempt to discredit me as a provider when in fact YOU were the problem.

You (I am speaking to souprdawg) are a hateful, arrogent and disrespectful person. The reason our session was cut short was
because you were too rough with me. But no one knows that, they only see the bad review.

I am tired of defending myself. I responded to your bs because I thought it was unfair. I only posted this recent post because I was trying to make a point. Everyone seems to have missed my point completely.

MY POINT WAS:
I know I am not for everyone. I can't please those who are impossible to please. I KNOW all these things everyone is responding and saying to me.  DUH! I am not trying to call attention to the bad ... its just that everyone focuses on the bad because it is more interesting isn't it. More readily acceptable that the good reviews could be bogus and the bad ones legitimate.  Maybe they are right. Maybe the gentlemen who wrote good reviews played up on the good points, made me look better than I am. Maybe the guys who wrote the bad ones exaggerated theirs to make me look worse than I am. The point I was trying to make is that without the providers side of the story none of the reviews are worth a cent. You only have one side. Now souprdawgs 4/4 review might not be so detrimental if everyone knew that he and I didn't hit it off because he was overly aggressive and rough with me. Perhaps ChuckD's rave review of me would be less beneficial if people realised we were very attracted to each other. I don't know. All I know is I love my job, I love men and no matter how many of you accuse me of men-bashing, the truth is I am just willing to say something when I am wronged. This is supposed to be for mutual education purposes I thought. It is not a clear picture if only one side is shown, and I really think it stinks that I can't respond to being trashed in a review (hich will definately affect my business) without being further attacked.

The truth is somewhere out there ... and it is closer to the middle than the two extremes.

And I don't think it is right for someone to go out of their way to hurt someone else. That is what is happeneing here.

Fox,

My suggestions for a Holiday fix up:

1.  Take time during the holiday and relax with family, friends or kids but make it a goal to get your head screwed on right and tight for a fresh start.
2.  Don't ever, ever, ever post another rant on the board!  Hopefully after a month someone new will be ranting and most of us will forget.
3.  Lower your rates, you'll need to until things blow over.  You'll only draw those guys that enjoy watching train wrecks at this time but it'll get better.
4.  Increase your level of service, go the extra mile for wvery one of your clients every day.
5.  Never read another review.
6.  Everytime you get frustrated with this business go down to McDonalds, Burger King or Taco Bell and sit at one of the plastic laminate tables filling out an application.  Then take a ride down Roswell Road and see the guys who just hang out waiting for someone to pick them up to do manual labor.  Now think about how nice it is to be able to do what you do.

Where have you been all my life.  I love a straight shooter.

You just dont get it!!!!!!!!! No one is going out of their way to attack you!!!  You are using this board to attack us guys(which pay YOU..not YOU paying us) that come here to simply state their tales of their visits to educate those that might come after them.  Its really pretty simple, you don't like the reality of having open honesty presented here on this site or these reviews.  I only write reviews to provide gratitude to the other guys out there that have wrote their reviews in turn to educate me.  I really dont have the time to waste by seeking someone out and bashing them.  Your earlier thread(oct 21) about my review of you was such bullshit!!!  I was never rough with you and you know that.  You just search with an un-educated limitless abandon for false blibs to try and discredit the truths provided by myself, scottytounge, and tripnatl.  If I and others could post your insane e-mails you so hatefully wrote me, people would see what kind of delusionalist you really are.  I really hope you can learn something positive from this as opposed to just being a hothead.  Good luck to you and please be more positive, you'll prosper more from displaying kindness than you will from bitching.

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trip is right on the money, as usual.  By the way trip, was the chess game charged against your time?  Call me an uneducated, aminalistic bumpkin, but I don't go to appointments to play chess.

There's lots of competition in the provider arena, full of nice ladies with proven track records.  I think I'll choose to spend my hard earned $$$s elsewhere, thank you very much.