learn how to explain, as simple as possible, your situation in whatever the providers language is.
Google isn't the best app for translating, there are others!
Hey team! (over 60 or not)
I have been experiencing not only reduced semen amount recently in ejaculation but just this week dry orgasm. I’m 65 and relatively healthy/good health. Not freaking out but just trying to get perspectives and how one lives and manages this phase of sex performance and enjoyment.
Any thoughts?
I have just about gotten to the same stage you are at.
I'm just happy to still enjoy the sex, and orgasm, dry or not.
I've spoken to my urologist about this, and he says there is little one can do about it.
Age gracefully.
older than either of you and experiencing the same, but the power of the orgasm seems unaffected. If anything, they are better than when I was much younger.
And am experiencing the same. If I do shoot a bit it seems to feel belter. Almost like the dry ones are not quite at 100%.
I have one provider who really gets how men work. I have been seeing for years but she lives in another state. On our last meet she brought me to a dry orgasm but instinctively knew more was to be had. She kept at with her mouth and hand and treated me to the one of the best orgasms I have had in years. I sure wish she lived a lot closer !
I'm on OLD codger, got several years on you "kids" and I've been having dry orgasms ever since I had prostate surgery several years (10+) ago. Before getting oral service, I always tell a new lady that I "shoot blanks" or she may keep trying after he gets quite sensitive.
This.
Communication is key and when there is no “product”, and especially if a gent is quiet when they orgasm, it is highly appreciated if they let me know when they are satisfied, and especially if they have reached the point of sensitivity.
... (conscientious ones or newboes) become concerned when they see a nearly empty condom, thinking they haven't satisfied me.
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That is the only problem I have with my dry orgasms. They feel just as good to me as ever. But dealing with providers who feel bad about them is a bit of a letdown or downer afterward. I try to mention it beforehand but often I'm not heard.
i wonder if i am headed in that direction .. my cum is now clear .. implying only fluid and no sperm .. now 66 yrs old ... guess no more babies for me LOL
I have been reading that flomax may contribute to dry orgasms and/or lower sperm semen, but the latter happens anyway when you age.
Have been on Tamsulosin for three years now and went totally dry a year and a half ago. Like others, I am in my early seventies and the feeling is still there, although a bit different (but still very much worth it).
Haven’t experienced the “disappointment” you mentioned. Maybe because the provider accepts my smile as enough proof. Personally, I don’t overthink it. I am sure that they have experienced far worse than me 
The biggest change over the last few years is my decreased need to see someone. I now enjoy my regular life far, far more than the “games” and I find it extremely easy to form friendships (non-physical) with civvies. It’s amazing how often that happens now that I am no longer seen as a “what-is-he-going-to-do-next”.
Getting old ain’t for sissies. lol My Mom’s favorite line I hear daily. I am a caring provider who is fully aware that life happens. Don’t sweat the small stuff. So you don’t ejaculate with semen, but you do still cum, so be happy. Celebrate your wins.
Smile for me! 💋
I never knew this was a thing. Nevertheless older gents are hot!
I want to know one thing from the Hobbyists who are 60 and older.........How many times per week do you actually have sex?!! It could be too much.
Tricky, and do you count masturbation too? At home, it is once a week at best with sex or masturbation. I don't use escorts at home, so I do trips to Mexico instead. To make those trips worthwhile, I see at least one chica per day on a 2-4 day trip. Popping for me is a goal, and it is hard for me to pop more than once a day. Sometimes the second and third days are hard to pop too, so I usually do a lot of rest and get good sleep on my trips. Not like the younger days when you could drink and party and screw twice a day.
Interesting that I feel spending $1000 + on a trip like this is more fulfilling than seeing an escort at home for an hour at $400-800, as the service (DFK, BBBJ, DATY) are usually readily available in Mexico but not in the U.S. unless you are paying significantly more. Plus the allure of being on "vacation" as opposed to leaving home for a couple of hours to pop (which feels like a fix) works better for me.
I'm 70 and had my prostate surgically removed about 4 years ago. So, I can no longer produce semen; hence a dry orgasm. This is tough to explain to a provider who doesn't have English as her first language. I'll say things like "dry cum" or show them my scar. This explanation doesn't translate well on a phone's Google Translate app. Yes, some girls will feel disappointment and some will keep on doing the HJ waiting for the squirt. For those who sort of understand, I will say something like "Cleanup is easy!" I still have to work on erections via prescribed Sildenafil and a penis pump. I remember the first time I got hard enough for the provider to get me off orally. You would have thought I just had glorious sex with a porn star! I guess I keep going because I really want to have penetrative sex at least one more time. When all is said & done, I really have nothing to complain about because all the cancer came out with the prostate and the surgeon saved the nerves.
learn how to explain, as simple as possible, your situation in whatever the providers language is.
Google isn't the best app for translating, there are others!
I've printed out brief explanations in Japanese, Mandarin, and Korean on paper and will show it to the provider. I go to WebMD and cut & paste the explanation in English before I do the translation. Showing her the small surgical scars helps, too.
Getting there is half the fun, its's crossing the finish line which tends to be a issue for me. At 64, Getting and holding a a firm hard on can be a issue at times, a semi is not so bad for me however some partners look at it in a negative way.
I found,,, ready? A cockring ,, yup I know, I know,,, but hear me out.
Applying a grip at the base, with hold the blood in the shaft making it a rager and better for your partner, I mean at this stage in life lets face it We are all getting up in age and just to have someone is a bonus,, is it not.
Heres a kicker,,, and this is just my personal issue, I find I have to finish off myself which can be a drag at times.
63,,, stress in life and funny thing is even tho money is not a issue things add up.
To the O.G. poster, you are not alone, its a age thing, NO diet or otherwise is gonna be a magic fix,, DATY well and allow her to enjoy what you have to offer, help yourslef to bust out a nut and snuggle up waiting for round 2...
It's not you,,, it's life and it's not all bad, I mean here you are right?
I’m 78, and never thought twice about it until seeing this thread. What difference does it make as long as you are enjoying yourself? I know I cum little because of blowjobs I’ve videoed. It doesn’t affect my pleasure.
Be aware that if you have BPH and are on any muscle relaxers for the prostate like Tamsulosin, sold under brand names like Flomax, it causes retrograde ejacuation and dry orgasms. If that's the case, I have found that abstaining from it the day before helps, so orgasms are close to normal.
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I had surgery for prostate cancer some years ago. A great surgeon did a great job. With no prostate, there is no semen. But I could still have something of a climax and still had the desire. Plus a pill. When I got involved with a local gal, we found a passion in each other. After the first time I explained my problem. No semen. She said some words that still ring in my ear. "That is a feature. I never really liked the taste and there is nothing to clean up after." What a wonderful thought. We have had many encounters since.