I'm 61, and I feel like I'm just coming to the steep part of the curve that you might already be in.

In any case, it is true that almost every medication does something to screw up sexual functioning.  In fact Viagra, while allowing for an erection, which is good, can inhibit ejaculation.

Over the past ten years, my cholesterol and blood pressure started to shoot up, so my doctor wanted me to start taking the medicines for those.  I said no way doc.  Those thing put a damper on sex.  So instead I gave up fried foods, butter, salt and anything else that would cause these problems to persist and managed to get the number back down into the safe range, much to my doc's surprise.  It is just a matter of priorities, and it's nice to save the dough I'd be shelling out for the meds too, and save those for the hobby.

I have had some difficulty in coming while wearing a condom, so after the gal gets off during intercourse, I take the condom off and get off doing something more interesting such at CIM, COF, or Russian or Italian.

It helps if the gal is a bit freaky and gets you to be excited by that.  Plain vanilla just doesn't cut it with me much any more.

Fantasies are good too if she is into that and can pull them off.

Here's hoping you can stave off the inevitable for a while more.

I put a thread here a while ago, about a problem I had reaching an orgasm..very new to me and very disconcerting..

I've been reserching causes.. in my case I can reach an orgasm on my own but not during sex.. I have had it happen twice now with two different providers.. a few days ago, I was not feeling the tension during sex (but don't misunderstand me, sex was very pleasurable) she got off.. andwas taking a break and was riding me and breathing hard.. said "wow, you are giving me a work out today !".. .. so I asked her for a BBBJ.. I felt the tension, felt like I was about to cum.. didn't give her a heads up.(she has told me no CIM.. but I have been with her many times and we know each other well) and felt badly that I was breaking her rule..I aplogized & she said "you did?".. I was sure.. she then started using a Hitachi on me and I popped immediately.. so obviously I had not CIM and that was strange too..it really felt like I did..  
So I have been researching this.. it's bothering me a whole lot.. it's embarressing too.. so I have found that antihistimines may impede an orgasm in men.. Huh?  So, maybe that's it.. every morning I take a 24 hr. allergy pill.. not because I need it.. but to reduce possible congestion issues that might occur during the winter.. and then before a session I take a Viagra.. and that makes me congested so it's almost a ritual that I use nasal spray to get rid of viagra related congestion... so, that's a double dose of antihistimine..
I am curious if anyone else has made this connection and if anyone knows if my connection has any validity.. This whole trouble with cumming thing is very new to me and it's freaking me out..  
I'm 64.. and age does result in some very undesired changes.. what a change from not so long ago and I would get off way too fast... Groan... I despise getting old..

Interesting about Viagra.. Hmmm.. I had no idea..

I am on BP meds.. I had a friend that I've known since were kids together in boarding school.. who had his carotid (sp?) artery blow up.. they put him ina coma and it healed..like cut skin when they allowed his blood pressure to go up.. 18 months later he had an aortic anuerism.. he's still with us but all of that was blood pressure related.. so I appreciate the value of the med.. and frankly had no issues with ED until about 6 months ago and then I got my hands on Viagra and all was well & good until this most recent reminder that time does not stand still.. I bring my own condoms (with a regular she keeos a supply of the what I bring) and in fairness.. in the last week, I was with her 3 times.. Tuesday, thursday and again on the next tuesday and I was fine until the most recent visit.. but she pushes my buttons and I find her damn near perfect..and despite that I was disgusted with my in abililty to get off during normal sex....  
I am "swearing off"now for the next few weeks.. I have an appointment made with a "VIP" type (whatever that means) provider  in the Orlando area when I will be down there on business.. so we will see.. I have made my excuses to the two regulars that I see so they won't feel slighted when I am unable to see them for awhile..but honestly.. I will be traveling a lot so won't be around.. Hopefully he axiom "Time heals all" will apply.. THanks for the input..

...and will happen eventually to most all guys due to a multitude of reasons as they add on years.  I'm in my early 60's and have had experience similar to exit9 for almost a decade (success on my own but not always during sex).  Many factors can play a part in whether or not you get off in a session:  ED issues and whereas Viagra and other ED meds are an answer to achieving/maintaining an erection, they can work against an orgasm.  The mental thing as in anxiety over cumming/not cumming can work against you too.  The decreased sensitivity with a cover on.  The list of reasons could go on but almost all are in some way related to the aging process.  Health issues and certain Rx drugs can be at cause too.  If you haven't done so already, ask your doctor to order a testosterone test (simple blood draw test)  

Yes, you can experience the sensations/spasms of orgasm without ejaculation.  Been there, done that, numerous times.    

I had to get over that hump of letting myself down and "freaking out" at leaving a session without having had release.  I no longer stress about it and enjoy the hobby for what in the end is more important to me; i.e. the touch and scent of a woman.  

I've gotten in the habit of taking the pressure off of myself and the provider by mentioning that I may get off or I may not, that if it happens it happens.  Often times I've been told that I'd be surprised at how many guys do not ejaculate during a session.  So you're not alone exit9.  Good luck at coming to grips with the aging process, and getting back to enjoying your favorites.

because of allergies and the winter dry heat etc. issues like you. When I first started using Viagra (doctor's prescription) I would skip all usual over the counter meds because of possible interaction. I take no meds of any kind other than over the counter antihistamines, decongestants, and ibuprofen. After a session I would take advil (Viagra headache) and use nasal spray. I called my medical insurance nurse line and asked if sudafed was contraindicated with Viagra. I was told no it shouldn't be a problem. I prefer nasal spray. Even though I don't take the full dose it's quicker and more effective. Usually I still don't take anything until after the session. I have discovered over time though a half Viagra (I cut the 100 mg in half) works well. I also discovered the side effects are reduced by doing this. Additionally over time it became clear the Viagra worked quickly on me so I stopped taking it one hour before the scheduled time. I take it just before entering the in call (or she arrives out call) as well as use the nasal spray. Greeting her, shower, and foreplay is enough time for it to take effect. With one exception (noted below) the Viagra has always worked and I've had no problem reaching climax and ejaculating.

I had heard about Viagra making it difficult reaching climax, I experienced this on one occasion and wondered if it was the Viagra. Shortly after that because in another session I took an especially long time to orgasm I started waiting to take the pill figuring the longer it was in my system the more it would/could inhibit orgasm.

Since I began doing these things I have not had any issues with reaching climax and ejaculating.

A time or two I had taken the 12 hour Claritin because I forgot not to but it didn't seem to cause any problem. I don't use the 24 hour Claritin because I take Benedryl at night. I do sometimes take 12 hour Sudafed. It hasn't caused any issues when I did. I stop using the Claritin and Sudafed after the April pollen season.

I'm 60. I started using Viagra at 57. You're correct it's embarrassing when there is a problem with getting an erection or reaching climax but it pisses me off more than embarrasses me when it happens. Two of the three times it happened and I then knew I  needed to get it checked I was with a provider.  

I'm not a doctor and this isn't medical advice. It's just what I've done and what works for me. The more I read on here about this stuff the more it becomes clear we are all effected differently by it but from time to time we find something that is common to someone else.

It'sgood to know that this sort of thing happens.. I just getpissed off.. There I am with a gorgeous girl  having a great time and... HUH? makes no sense.. I was ready to hang up my condoms and forgewt about the interaction.. true, the scent and feel of a woman are very hard to beat.. so I will modify my OTC  stuff a bit .. In thinking about it, every time I have had an issue.. I toof the Viagra a while before the problem.. so I will derfer until I know I am about to enter the fray and see how that works..

so wait for the late 60,s, aging makes it more elusive.  I see just one lady, she is perfect, high turn on, kissing, bbj, female condom sex, high connection,,,, perfect. and I have told her of the removal and it is more difficult for me. erection to start are no problem but may not always last, no fluid and sometimes no ejaculation and sometimes have to hj.  just cant let it bother oneself, it will only make it worse, aging is what it is. I enjoy talking about the surgery and proud I still can do it. no fluid means can do cim, great.  last time it took it so long for her work and mine for me to finally cum. and I am in excellant health, no meds, no V.  as it was said, they see all of that.  so don't be embarresed.  I just wonder what the 70,s is going to be like.

I just want to let you know that we as providers know some of the difficulties you men may have. We don't judge you but we do understand, so please don't feel embarrassed.

You posted some great, useful information and you are to be commended for that.

Happy Valentines Day, sweety!

The first time this happened with a provider (it was during my first session with her) nothing was actually said. It was obvious after one try that penetration wasn't going to happen. I pulled back, pulled off the condom, and she began a bbbj to completion nqns. Very satisfying. I went on to see her about once a month until she left the business. Every session after that first everything worked as expected.

I don't think there is any way to not have it bother me though. It's how I choose to deal with it that is the issue. I don't go to every session worrying if things will work this time. It's whatever happens I'm going to enjoy myself. Over thinking will just ruin it. In this case there is such a thing as trying too hard.

...it's about enjoying the time and as I told the OP I do everything I can to see that everything works. I do not dwell on it however. Just go in and enjoy. If adjustments have to be made along the way then adjust and go on. I learned that long before this was ever an issue. That philosophy works in whatever you are doing.

instead of the antihistamines,
Give Homeopathic a try!
Like Boiron Cold Remedy or one of the homeopathic nasal sprays, totally safe!  
Sold at health stores, and on Amazon, just Google it.
I use the cold remedy when allergy season gets me stuffed up at bed time, and it works instantly for me.
Even tho it says 'Cold remedy' it can be used safely for other stuff, and there are many other products by Boiron that work, and other Homeopathic companies too.
And, Safely is the key word in Homeopathic - it will either work or it won't but won't cause harm
Ask you doc
 I am big on natural remedies!  I love homeopathic,  pretty simple how it works, and usually amazing results -  
cheers xo


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I am 65 and for the past 3 years have had difficulty with ejaculation. I have Parkinson's disease and take several meds for it which may contribute to the problem. I saw a Tantra provider who taught me that "life is a journey, not a destination ." I enloy all the aspects of sex ad have in some sessions gotten to pre-climax plateau state and felt a total body orgasm without ejaculation.  
     I hae also been using Viagra which can delay ejaculation but going without it I would tend to fade too soon and still not cum.  I switched to levitra which has been better for me and last week I tried anew way of dosing it and was able to stay hard and cum in a timely maner.  I took half the usual dose oe hour before the appointment and half as I arrived.  The effect was a boost in arousal mid session and a very pleasant CIM. Of course it may have been the exquisite skills of the lady involved, who by the way is 51',and an extreme natural hottie.  I will have to repeat the experient and control the other  
Variables.    Ahhh the joys of sexagenarian science!

Some sessions gotten to pre-climax plateau state and felt a total body orgasm without ejaculation.  

Are you sure you aren't having a retrograde ejaculation?  I have BPH and often have a retrograde ejaculation.  I ask my Urologist about it, he said if I feel satisfied don't worry , it doesn't hurt anything, except my chances of starring in a Porn Movie since nothing comes shooting out.

I guess I have been lucky. When I was in my 60' and 70's and my wife was alive I never had problem with an orgasm or ejaculation. In fact, I would often cum too quickly. We both enjoyed oral when I started having less than erect erections LOL. When my wife died and after 3 years of mourning and celibacy I needed some feminine companionship. I tried the match mate thing and couldn't get excited by women near my own age. Since I was retired and my daughter told me to "go for it" when I told her what I planned to do. As a research biologist I was used to getting as much info as possible before I started this hobby. Luckily I chose a real sweetheart and was 50 years old. I told her it would be all oral and she was very adept. I had a semi-erections and a great ejaculation. I branched out and had a great time with some really hot and sweet younger ladies. In fact, on my 80th birthday I had duo with 2 very hot and popular providers. No erection to speak of but a satisfying orgasm.
Then came an elevated psa test and my urologist (damn his soul) talked me into taking a shot of a medication that turned my testes into useless decorations incapable of producing testosterone. After 3 months of being a chemically castrated eunuch I decided I didn't want to live if I couldn't have some fun. So I didn't get a booster shot. I have been told that when the effects of the med. my testes will return to normal and the prostate cancer might get worse. But so far I am back to having a resemblance of an erection with an injection of Trimix but no normal orgasm and ejaculation. I have 3 wonderful ladies who trying their best to make me happy!
My advice---never give up!

I used to be involved in allergy studies and discovered the problem with erections and orgasms and mentioned it in the post study questions follow up and was told that yes, it is related to the medication! Hope this helps.