Both.

Preferably hard please lol

If we are discussing strokes both por favor

By hard do you mean I'm spreading your legs wide open, and doing you so hard I hear slapping sounds and you're getting pushed into the bed hard? Or doggie style so hard that I'm pushing the back of your head into the bed and slamming so hard your entire body is almost flat?

By soft, do you mean short and slow gentle strokes. Long and deep gentle strokes? Not moving at all and letting your throbbing pussy squeeze my cock?

So many variations.

... ladies (yeah, doesn't rhyme, so sue me. 😜).

Whatever drives them wild, I like.  Sometimes it's slow and shallow (hitting her g-spot), sometimes slow and deep (sometimes a little of both i.e. The Countdown), and sometimes (especially with doggie) hard and slap-py.  And often all of those in one date--variety is the spice of life!