For years I enjoyed seeing providers several times a year whiel traveling.  Over the last couple of years (I'm now 59) I've had more difficulty getting and keeping a hard erection.  I woudl like to continue to see a provider every now and agin but I'm kind of embarrassed and anxious about doing so.  I can sometimes do OK with Viagra but it seems to work inconsistently.  I am wondering how providers feel about spending time with guys that have erectile problems.  There are still a lot of other ways to please your partner.  Just looking for some feedback particulrly from providers.
Thanks

I am now 63(WTF), I noticed 7-8 years ago my erections were not what they used to be. The doc prescribed Viagra, worked so good, I now knew what it's meant by "wood"!!!! Now 8 years later....not so much! Have tried lavitra & ciallis with hit or miss. My problem is the overcoat, as soon as I put it on...it goes limp. So I have noticed the young ones do not understand what's going on, the more mature ladies, not only do they understand, but they know how to over come some of this shit. It was not till I saw an older provider(40 or 45), and after I went flacid that she asked me if I ever used a female condom, I said no, and whipped one out. Put it in(not great visual) and she guided me in. WOW, now with Viagra and the female condom, I am good to go. Give it a shot. Why didn't my father ever tell me about this?? Getting older can suck.
But remember "Old guys rule" good luck.

cock rings.  I got silicone ones as part of my post op prostatectomy package.  Not the most aesthetic, but they actually work well.  (I'm allergic to V, C, A)  I sterilize after every use.  If you can get half an erection, the ring will firm you up and keep you going.  

In the years since my op, I have searched for better rings, and I've found that silicone wedding rings, in the large size work well.  I hadn't known that there was such a thing, but evidently they are made for soldiers and firefighters, etc. who risk being "degloved" if they have a metal ring on their finger, just like the accident that happened to Jimmy Fallon.

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Most insurance will cover with prescription.

Non evasive and works like a charm.  Vacuum action in the tube creates blood flow in the penis.  Apply cock ring(s) when hard, remove the pump, off to the races.  I use mine with ED meds.  The meds get me 1/2 way there while pump finishes the job. Most of the providers I have been with have had no issues with it, the others just had not been exposed to one yet.

Upside
Cock stays hard but you can only stay that way for 30 min.

My cock head becomes bigger than it normally did, which increases the ridge of the head and...so I have been told....is more pleasurable for the provider.

You do not have to mentally fixate on if you will stay hard.

Use Magnum condoms.  Regular size hurts as the front of my dick is so hard.

Downside
Cock rings can be uncomfortable.

Combination of cock rings and condom make it almost impossible for me to cum while fucking.  For ever 10 encounters I may get 1 in which I can get off that way.  Cum may not fill the bag, so when you remove the ring it most likely will drip out then.  Not harmful, just a watch out so you do not get your seed on her bathroom floor.  

I usually do foreplay, pump up Mr. Happy, fuck, remove the rings, and ED meds get me to the point in which a BBBJ will bring me to the finish line.

Sorry if TMI, but I had no idea about the pump until I provider told me.  

AND UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE BUY ONE AT A ADULT SHOP...QUALITY SUCK....IT WILL NOT WORK.  

Good Luck

As a provider, I wouldn't have an issue with this and I do have several clients with this problem. It is truly only a problem if you let it be.
 
  The female condom is a very good option ...as is visiting a doctor and/or using Viagra or Cialis. However as you already mentioned......there are plenty of other ways for both to enjoy

Certainly this gets more of a problem statistically with age, but it can happen and does happen to any man.  I find that this can really enhance a man's desire to please me and to really develop his skills in other areas.   Sensuality is not just penetration or sex at all!  Also many men I have met who may not get hard enough to really penetrate are still able to reach orgasm with tactile or oral stimulation without a full erection.  One way or the other I adore a vulnerable and sensual man.  Reach out anytime!

Thank you for the advice and encouragement.  I am actually not so concerned about my abiity to perform penetration.  I have always been worried that my partner would be disappointed/dissatisfied if I could not accomplish this.  I am fully capable of having an orgasm with manual or oral stimulation and frankly I really enjoy focusing on my partner.  Anyway,  I appeciate the support and advice.  Perhaps our paths may cross in the future.

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I'll handle that for you lol
Half kidding but not really. It takes time, no pressure, technique, and a good attitude.

...they you should really explore prostate stimulation, if you still have one of those!!  

By no means does prostate stimulation produce a hard-on, in fact quite the opposite.  Even in a young man with raging boners, the prostate stimulation tends to make one go soft.  Mostly because the prostate is greedy and steals all the blood that would otherwise be filling your cock...

The really cool thing about your prostate is that is is in control of your orgasm and can also produce intense full-body orgasms that shoot through your body like waves and seem to last forever!

Focusing on your partner can be a good strategy for enjoying sex with a partner without a hard-on, but if you're ready to enjoy focusing on your OWN pleasure, there are many women such as myself who derive true pleasure ourselves from focusing on OUR partner's pleasure, AKA yours!  And when it comes to prostate play, if you find a lady who is truly passionate about it and highly skilled, the results can be MORE than satisfying for both.

I have the most fun with guys with ED when they are open-minded enough to let me show them what their body can still do that they might not even be aware of.  For me it's a true joy and pleasure to introduce men to prostate orgasms.  Many ladies feel the same way because it's truly amazing!  Just another option to consider as you explore.  

Also- mutual rimming- OMG.  Super amazing.  Blissful like nothing else in this world.  No hard-ons required.  

I, too, have ED issues.  Even before my prostate surgery things weren't great and after, well, I can still have orgasms and I use V and a cock ring.  I had an amazing time with Zoey, she is perhaps the most passionate woman I've ever been with and is open to just about anything.  The mutual rimming, I agree, OMG.  And she did bring me to two earth shattering orgasms, one with oral and the other with the FC.  Thanks Zoey!  You're the best!!!

A good erection is all about healthy blood flow. Get a physical, find out the cause.

I am here to please you. If you love the seduction, the process and you feel good despite the erection... no problem. Just let me know. If I know in advance what I'm working with, I can create a lovely session. Some men can come without getting hard at all. Some can get hard but can't come (blood pressure meds).  There are so many variables. My orgasm has nothing to do with your hard on. I love hand an mouth play... toys too! No two clients are alike. Providers are endlessly creative. Give me the parameters to ensure the best outcome. If your desire is to bang like an 18 year old... chances are, those days are gone. It's time to look inward and into deeper desires and fantasies. I began studying tantra. There is always something new to explore

Cock rings help me a lot! I have a ziplock bag full of different ones. The ladies I see seem to enjoy the fun of putting them on, or at least are very patient. They say they see this problem regularly and they are just happy to make it a good time. Some tell me that they enjoy the feeling of the ring as it hits the clit.

Anyway, the beauty of the hobby is that unlike with civilians, the ladies are providing a service to give us pleasure and are generally much more patient and tolerant with these kind of issues.

Generic name is alprostadil. It's a urethal supposity. It's by prescription and very expensive. I've had hit and miss experiences with it.

I tried it a few years ago and it didn't do anything better for me and I didn't like it.  YMMV.  Cialis professional has been the best for me.

here, or any place else. I stand corrected. Thanks!

Are the silicone wedding rings flexible and expandable?

I've had ED for several years.  I have consulted 2 urologists and both said there is nothing they would recommend for me to use or take.  I'm 81 and just recently have had wonderful sessions with 2 well-known providers in my area plus my ATF that I have been seeing for over 3 years.  I tell them upfront that I won't get hard and don't always have an orgasm.  They appreciate that I let them know and we proceed to have a fantastic time orally  and by hand.  After one of above-mentioned ladies came a second time, she said, "You sure know how to please a lady!"  Don't misunderstand.  I truly enjoy ladies playing with me.  I just want it understood that at my age I'm simply grateful that these beautiful ladies that are half or a third my age are willing to see me and give me so much pleasure.  And better yet that they want to see me again soon.

Most of them are. There are many different strengths and sizes. They aren't expensive and I just bought a bunch of different ones and tried them out. I have my favorites but that preference changes day by day. Sometimes I need more help, sometimes less. Sometimes I use larger ones around my balls and cock and smaller just around my cock. My regular ladies have fun playing with them. So do I, LOL.