So, I know that times have changed. Did any of you guys (in your youth) have a fun time that you think now might be called "date rape" ........seriously. Feel free to use alias.

If no one would admit to it there, why do you think anyone would 'fess up here?

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Me thinks Will has a very guilty conscience..

you seem to be obsessed with this particular unsavory subject..just because your childhood was a little perverse and fucked up..it is no reason to bring your baggage here..

No big deal ... but are you all being honest. Reposted because I thought this was the more appropriate board. Sorry

Being over 60 means we are more likely to have committed date rape??!!  That's offensive and a bit stupid....

Times have changed.

NO means NO  Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

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I agree with you Mr. Fisher. That statement was meant for OP I just posted it in the wrong place. Sorry FM.

and, here's your sign.

Ditto. Good for who ole days?

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I am open minded almost to the extreme. I have a hugely irreverent sense of humor and will make jokes and laugh about things that are pretty raw - as long as I am with people that I KNOW are like-minded, and I KNOW do not take me seriously. But you don't tell "dead baby" jokes on the maternity ward.

There are a few things that upset me around here. One is bestiality - not so much that I think it is "evil", but I just find it gross and twisted. A little twisted can be good, I find this far beyond that level.

Another, discussed ad nauseam recently on the GB is sex with children. This is evil. Most on this site will jump all over anyone who brings it up, excluding the drooling few who can't wait to fly to an underdeveloped country where it is easy to practice. I can only wish horrible diseases and plane crashes on those fellows.

And then we have rape. I plead guilty to having power fantasies that include rape scenarios. They will always remain fantasies for me because I am NOT a SOCIOPATH. The OP suggests that an era where women had somewhat less power and would submit to being raped on a date by someone they trusted and maybe even were interested in should be considered the "good ole days" labels him as a filthy piece of trash who deserves to get lots of sex bent over a prison cot.

Over the years, I've had occasions when dates seemed like they were going in to end up with sex, or something sexual (like second base) or there was an opportunity that could have been exploited.  NO, I never did.  I not only stopped but did everything possible to extract ourselves with some dignity intact.

An example:  I took a sweet blonde class mate (HS) on a date & subsequently we parked somewhere to get some necking in.  She was wearing a beautiful V neck cashmere sweater & a skirt.  After several minutes things getting hot & heavy, I teasingly reached around her back & through the sweater made a flicking movement like I was unfastening her bra.  DAMN!  It came undone!  I was shocked.  She was also shocked, somewhat upset & would not believe I'd only intended to tease.  The make out was over.   She sensed that I was more sexually experienced, which I was but perhaps not as much as she thought but she certainly wasn't ready for that (mid-1960s).  
I had her turn her back & hold the front in place while I lifted the back & refastened it. Funny it took 2 hands to refasten...   The spell was broken...  I took her home.          
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It's amazing how many people still believe that rape can happen because someone is so turned on that their brain takes leave while their body violates another's. And that that is even remotely excusable. That's some messed up reasoning.

Rape is about power- not passion. Once people get this, we can prosecute rapists faster.

shudaknownbetter, your case illustrates this perfectly. Your passion took a back seat to your brain.

Many men have found themselves in this situation, heavy petting gets out of hand and she puts on the brakes. Some men stop, reluctantly maybe; maybe we try to talk our way past the stop sign, maybe we beg and plead, and maybe we just go home and take a cold shower. We are called normal, horny men.

Some men just run the sign and take what they want. Chances are they knew exactly what they were going to do before the petting even started. There's really no passion involved. These are called rapists.

It still happens today, though hopefully less often. But I've still seen instances where women are held to blame because of the way they dressed, their sexual history, or just because they let things go that far in the first place.  And even if the legal system has moved forward somewhat, these women are often crucified by public opinion. Sad, twisted, and shameful.

Please get some professional help.  No is no is no.