I am a older married male getting starting in the hobby and one thing I have never seen in my life is a woman masturbate herself to completion.  Sure I have seen it on video but I would like to see and hear the real thing in person.  Question, are most providers willing to do this or is this something that is considered odd or requires an additional fee?  Are there any providers out there that will not perform this action and that I should stay away from?  Is this something that needs to be agreed upon before meeting OR can it be agreed to when I am actually in the room?

often while they watch me masturbate as well.

I'm pretty sure most would be willing.  She might even be able to really get herself off, rather than the standard acting.

Fingers, toys, another heaux to do it for her......
Bring it.  
Just ask and usually you will receive.

Years ago living in south Fl I had two ladies visit my house one evening. During the conversation and wine one of the ladies suddenly asked if I had ever "Fisted" a woman. I told her I had never even knew it was possible. This was lust the beginning..... Then she asked me to bring out the Vacuum cleaner?  Yep I heard her right. I let her position my hand for her comfort and maximum effect. First 2 fingers , then 3 then 4; by now I was so intrigued I was in for anything. She had my hand turned with my thumb on top and as we slowly worked it in the knuckle at the base of my thumb was right on her clit. This was bare handed with lots of lube. She then had me move my hand in a stroking motion and asked me to hand her the vacuum hose?  That's right the vacuum hose . She took the hose and laid it flat on her leg with the opening about 2 inches from her clit so that the airflow would be across her clit without sealing. This started her clit flapping much faster than any vibrating toy I have ever seen . She was getting into it so hard I couldn't believe it. Using the back of my thumb knuckle against her g spot and my whole hand inside moving in a circular motion along with the vacuum drawing this fast airflow took about 2 minutes to have her eyes rolling back in her head. Understand the vacuum hose was flat sideways drawing the air current across her clit without getting blocked. Sort of like a tiny flag in a Hurricane. That is one experience I will never forget.

That's what I want is for her to really get off and not just put on an act.  

I'd love to meet a woman like that, sounds exciting!

... is that some providers are too client-focused to do it. I guess they think if they masturbate, with or without toys, they're not being a good "hostess".  

The fisting episode was with a tall thin Blonde built for Sex and her friend who was also there was a pole dancer. Her routine was "Slow Ride" We ended up finishing off two bottles of a nice Cabernet while watching a meteor shower from the roof of my house.

I please myself daily.  lol

I need to find someone a little closer to where I live.  

....pretty tame request to me actually.
Happy to my date how I like to get off with my own hands or with my toys .

I do it daily.  lol If you can not please yourself how can you tell anyone how to pleasure you?

So tell me when might you be out my way (Metro DC)?

I agree, I've had clients as me to do that & it's fun playing with toys!!! Especially the ones that vibrates!!! Lol

So when you coming out my way (Metro DC) so I can set up appointment to watch a session?

The best way of finding this fantasy is by reading vip reviews of providers in your area that have done this for others and enjoy doing it. Most providers would probably agree to self masturbation on themselves with you however you may get disappointed by their true intent and lack luster fake show.  Find one who is comfortable with it and comfortable with you. The best real intended masturbation from providers on themselves is when they do it without direction. When they call the shots and you assist them anyhow they want you to. I have been lucky to have had a few. One of them would instruct me to masturbate on her face while she masturbated herself and used toys and dildos. Another one instructed me to play with her rear end while she rubbed her clit to completion.  Another got her thrills by me filming her doing her thing.  

I will indeed let her do it the way that works best for her.  I just need to find a provider as I am a newbie.

once you are behind closed doors just ask...sounds like fun

I will indeed check them out, thanks.

I LOVE it. I don't charge extra unless you want to film or video our endeavours.  I love masturbating...I do it often pretty much when ever I can. Addicted slightly maybe lol so if a client want to watch me more power to him. I think it's really hot and it's a great way to get started mutually pleasuring each other.

I see a sensual massage provider and on a number of occasions we've masturbated together!  It's the best of both exhibitionist-voreur worlds.

Bring a new toy with you as a gift. Always a great way to get things started.

Why wouldn't they ??  I've had many do it over the years... You have to AsK them though. They wouldn't just do it. They want to give you what you came there for in the first place. To get YOU off.

Me two with a sensual provider kind of a different twist. I find it hot.  I finger her and she strokes me off.  Guess that's not masturbation per say. But it's hot!

I have an older SB  who loves to pleasure herself. We'll make out, get naked, she'll girlie me a bit, I'll go down on her and when she get gets really hot she breaks our her vibratory.  As she's pleasuring herself she'll start stoking me.  As she starts to cum ditch she jumps on me or I on her for a wild, passionate finish.