Hi guys,

I read your board regularly, although I don't quite qualify for the club yet (mid fifties).  I am a newbie, and so far have been seeing providers who are 30 or over.  I have read some profiles of several under 25 providers, but cannot bring myself to contact them.  On the other hand, their reviews look amazing, which makes me think I should give it a try.  As stated in the title, I have a mental block about this.  The kinds of things that go through my head are:

1. Have they reached a level of maturity, where they can make a well-considered decision that they REALLY want to do this?  I want to see providers that are 100% comfortable with the choices they have made.  

2. What will be the impact of a 30+ year difference in age on the experience for both of us?  

3. Will the girl not be somewhat weirded out by being with someone old enough to be their dad?

So I was wondering if any of you guys went through the same thing prior to your first experience with providers who are that young?  Interested in all opinions and advice.  

Ladies of all ages - feel free to chime in too.

I would have to say, it depends on the lady. Keep in mind, a majority of hobbyists are older then 40. If a lady can't find common ground and enjoyment with much older gentlemen she won't be around for very long. I'm not sure who started the rumor that younger escorts only see young hot studs. My advise to you is to read the reviews, and a true courtesan never has to label herself as that.

....... if someone interests you it wouldn't hurt to contact them to gauge their personalities of their reviews aren't enough. Some are more receptive to it than others. Maybe see some of their board/site history if they have any.  I like to think of myself as a smart cookie and mature enough not just for my age range but in general...... that might not matter at all to some anyways since i'm a "baby" to them anyways and won't bother no matter what until i'm at least 30 but I'm probably not going to be around providing that long.

IMO, actually it's USUALLY or more-so the pursuer (hobbyist) with the hangup about age (especially those under 30 LET ALONE under 25 lol) not the other way around.  I'm extremely comfortable being around men and women 20, 30 and 40 yrs older than me because i'm simply comfortable with myself. So would I be weird-ed out by someone old enough to be my dad (or grandfather) not even close.  

BUT either wait until you feel different and really want TOFTT so-to-speak even though the "team" is just you with one of these under 25 ladies with these amazing reviews that interest you or stick to 30+ and not jump into what's not comfortable for you.

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I have shared all those feelings and resrvations at times..... lusting for a lady young enough to be my daughter..... But sometimes....when viewing a smoking hot lass with a smoldering review.... one just has to give in...... its 50/50 we will both enjoy but 100% one of us will ........ Remember.... you paid... they accepted.... quid pro quo... Be a gentleman and just enjoy... and remember.

...I was past 55. I have seen providers ranging from 22 yrs old to 50 yrs old. I had no difficulties finding something to talk about with the ladies under 25. If they were going/had been to college we talked about college. We talked generally about where are you from, how did you get to here. (Here being the state we were in.) I like all kinds of music so we talked about music even if I hadn't heard about some they liked it gave me something to check out. I found some I really liked.

Are they mature enough to make a decision to do this? If not they won't be around very long and won't fit the well reviewed description that is recommended for newbies to see.

In regard to how they might feel about there being a 30+ year age difference, my experience so far has been it's not an issue. It's us older guys that hobby for the most part and if they have been escorting for at least a few months they will have seen plenty of older guys.

As stated above Newbies are always advised to see well reviewed providers and many of the reviewers should be guys with lots of reviews. There are plenty of young providers that fit this description so you can be assured they are accustomed to seeing someone your age. it won't weird them out.

I'll will mention here the YMMV factor that goes with everything in the hobby. All that I said above is true but there could be the exception. Doing your research including back channel about any provider you want to see will reduce the YMMV factor with an under 25 provider.

I do have my own personal age limit on providers I will see. I won't see any providers that are under 21.

I have seen a number of women in the 25 +/- range and they were generally wonderful, delightful dates. As long ad a woman is mature, warm, intelligent, and sensitive to your needs, you can have a lovely time. If a 40 year old doesn't have these qualities, you might  be disappointed. It's much more a function of personality than chronological age.

I agree. I have seen ladies from 22 to 51 years old . And have great enjoyable times with ladies of all ages. Its personality and chemistry.

chemistry is dependant on the maturity of the lady, and not her age. I always read the details in the reviews before deciding to see someone with a limited number of exceptions, less than 5 in my ten plus years of P4P.

Another thing...... if your 60+, most likely your beyond being a chick magnet for women in their 20's.  However, when viewing a young hot body and lusting for it as any normal man or woman would...how else are you going to catch that occasional experience.  If you  pass it up.... what did you gain... a higher place in heavan....?? Doubt it.....  I'd rather have the memory..... at least once in a while..

Funny,this topic came up.I have this gent I have corresponded with on another board who wants to see me but cannot bring himself to since I am under 30.I guess it is a mental block.
I am 25 soon to be 26 next month and I have gents say to me after meeting that they usually will not see a provider under 30.They took a chance with me and had an awesome time and some were surprised that they did maybe they did not have that many good experiences in the past with younger providers.
I prefer mature gents anyway in business and my personal life so I could care less about a 20 or 30+ age difference.I have gents that are much older than I we go out to dinner,shows,etc. we get looks from other people but who really cares?I certainly don't I am having a good time and could care less what some people think who are looking.

Just because a provider is in her early or late 20s does not mean she does not know she wants to be in this business.I could see that question being asked if the provider was 18 maybe.If you take a peek at some of the younger providers reviews you will get an idea of if a lady is really enjoying herself or going through the motions.You can only put up a facade for so long and if a provider is not into this business her reviews and service will reflect that at any age range not just younger providers.
I think a lot of guys over think the age difference I am completely comfortable in my skin I know what great service I provide so if a gent is not comfortable with seeing me because of my age that is his choice.
Just my .02

Thanks.Great to hear go for it and have a HOT naughty time.
"If you hear about some mid fifties guy found in a hotel room with a coronary, a smile frozen on his face, and a boner that is still living, that'll be me."lmao I am sure you will be just fine

Thanks everyone. What a great post Jaydalee.  I may come looking for you now.  I just made a booking with a sizzling 23 year old for next week.  If you hear about some mid fifties guy found in a hotel room with a coronary, a smile frozen on his face, and a boner that is still living, that'll be me.

18 to 49.  I have had good experiences with all ages, but I have found that I have tended to gravitate to ladies over 30.  I do my research on the ladies I'm interested in, so hopefully, at least so far, my disappointments are minimized.  I do not decide on a provider simply based on age, if I am attracted to her, age doesn't matter.  The attraction factor, along with her menu, determine whether or not I will pursue a date with her.  

As has been previously mentioned, most hobbyists are over 40, and I agree with that, so even younger providers are used to seeing guys that may well be old enough to be their father.  If that really bothered me, I would not see very young providers.  While I do have some deal-breakers, age is not one of them.

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