I like when the Lady Companion doesn't go directly to the mouth. If she's tall enough, I'd like to stand perfectly still while she nibbles away on my ears, and nose, and neck, and above the eyes....everywhere but the mouth.
Lightly darting her tongue in and out of my ears while lightly exhaling at the same time. If she says something dirty or sexy? Oh shit. My kind of foreplay.  Pacing is critical. Softly, slowly, agonizingly slowly. And then begin kissing around my mouth. And then lightly trace my lips with her tongue. And then....well, you know. Gawd that is such a turn on for me. I don't know how to ask for that. The really experienced ladies, mostly MILF's, get it and they know exactly what to do and how to do it. They feel it. Or, at least give me the impression that they do. And they really seem to enjoy doing it. When she can start a session like that I know I'm in for the ride of my life. If I have to show them or demonstrate....either A) they don't get it, or B) the mood is ruined and we just move on to more primal stuff.

RE: What do you think is a good kisser

I would have to agree with everything you said, as they all follow my preferences! I think my favorite areas to be kissed & to kiss, would be the neck, ear & waist!  

I love the shiver it sends through my body

In a good kiss, both parties are alternating doing the active kissing and the passive kissing. It's a complex dance. A teasing flick of the tongue before full entry into my mouth. I like to kiss your bottom lip and then the top one and the corners of your mouth... to enter your mouth slowly and fully then release to let you enter mine. On the highest level, it is intuitive.

Soft,slow and sensual !
That what does it for me.

To have all the sides of the story as they say

I don't know about kissing. Nothing to do with it in the real world. Most of the cheap girls I knew were not into it.  
I don't know about kissing. I don't miss it. But I can't believe I'm the only one.  
But sometimes I wonder where kissing comes from. Who invented it and why? I also wonder about dancing the same way. But I might dance on the right chemical dose... I might kiss too if the situation happens. But still don' even know why

I love men that love to kiss!

are the ones who tell me I'm a great kisser.

Like a dance. I want to feel her melt into me and me into her. Slow and passionate