I’ve tried the pills etc but my age has finally dealt me the ED blow. With penetration gone how do you deal with this. What are your favorite activities now?

I'm still good to go, at least once anyway, but I would still see them even when that day comes when it's a total no-go situation.  I'm very lucky that many will spend a total evening with me for a very reasonable donation.

 
Beyond that, I love giving and receiving a good massage, so there is that to always look forward to.

Thanks for that reply. I thought I was crazy and the only one. Hopefully other guys will offer more thoughts and even ideas also

I don’t see a provider unless I get a clear vibe from her reviews that I’ll enjoy her company (and that she won’t mind my company either).  The sex is still great, but during a 90 minute to 2 hour session or the occasional overnight, it’s not going to be all sex.

 
Years ago I told my ATF that I’d pay her good money even if she never touched my dick.  She always does, but I was serious—I enjoy her company that much.  So if it ever becomes a no-go situation, I’ll still see her as long as she’s open to it.  And she’s great at massage and loves giving and receiving it.

I've struggled with E.D. issues for more than a few years.  Viagra and Cialis are friends, but sometimes even they don't help.  An erection may come and go during a session, or not happen at all.  Got over the disappointment of that a long time ago.  It's always been a big picture for me, so I just enjoy other aspects of the artwork I'm admiring when the wood doesn't cooperate.  Lots can be done with the tongue, and with touch.  I always tell her there's absolutely no pressure that I reach climax.  Most gals that I've seen tend to relax at that revelation and just melt into being pleasured.  I think most enjoy the role reversal.  Having her respond favorably to my servicing her sets off fireworks between my ears, and then I've got what I came for.    

I find that taking it slow and building a connection and intimacy is much more important as I get older. Mutual touch and oral pleasure can be much more sensual and exciting than sex with a condom. For me, providers who understand the art of seduction and who take the time to build sexual energy during a session are the ones who I enjoy most and see on an ongoing basis. Unfortunately they're hard to find and many of my favorites are laying low due to Covid.
Good luck to you on your journey!

I was in a long marriage with no oral, either way.  In my mind, I have a great deal to catch up on with BBBJ and DATY.  Orgasms have not been an issue, yet.  

I have been struggling with this issue for a while now. The end goal has always been the orgasm but if you take away that pressure the entire experience becomes more enjoyable  
To read your comments has been enormously helpful. (Not sayin I wouldn’t give my left pinky to be 20 years old again)

I'm now in my seventies and have experienced ed issues from time to time.  Viagara has helped but even now my erections are nothing like my youthful days.  So I've enjoyed mostly sensual massages ending in happy endings, but also some oral action.  I have no problem reaching orgasm.  There's also a cock ring which I've tried and if applied correctly can help maintain and sustain an erection.  

will be my sex life once I get the vaccine.

.... if you can find a provider who is experienced with sensual / erotic massage combined with oral skills she will rock your world.  

I'm finding that my regulars who I've had a connection with for years have either retired or aren't travelling due to Covid. Providers I haven't met are often reluctant to discuss session activities in advance for security reasons, which I totally understand. Reviews can help, but it would be great if you could let a provider know what you're looking for prior to your session. If she's not into it, fine, you can continue searching. If she is, that's awesome!

Any advice from guys or ladies on this issue would be welcome.

Low-intensity extracorporeal shock wave therapy is a safe treatment for men with erectile dysfunction and might work to improve, or even cure, ED in some patients.

I’m so glad ter is back
Where else would I get so much great info from guys  
In my same situation.
Sort of like a “misery loves company scenario “
Thanks to everyone

Where do you go to get that done?  Cost?  Have you had it done and what were the results?  Thanks.

I haven't had it done.  The mixed results are in the literature.   I am considering it in the future if the need arises sufficiently.  So far I am good with a pill or two.

Penis Vacuum Pump
Cock Ring

Been using them for years with a 90 percent effective rate.  Yes, they can be a pain and reduce spontaneity.  

I usually start with foreplay first, BBBJ DATY, Kissing, etc.  When we are both hot and bothered, I pump little dickey up.  Most providers will rub my back, my chest, lick my neck, etc during the process.

Once the ring is on, fuck ,fuck, fuck away.  If you want cum play, with the ring on you may not get it.  But that is okay, seamen flows into the bladder.  

If I want BBBJ with Cum, I take the ring off after screwing so my cock can be blown and I can shoot my load normally.    

Sometimes, when I am tired because of time of day, or travel, I forgo the pump/ring and just let the lady do her magic.  

TWO WORDS OF WARNING.

1) Ring cannot stay on more then 30 min, otherwise you could cause damage to the penis.
2) If you are using a cock ring with a lesser degree of tension, you will be able to shoot a load.   Early on in my experience this was the case.  HOWEVER.......be aware of where your cock is pointed when you cum.  Cock ring constricts urethra, making the cum shoot out harder and further.   One time I almost hit my own eye with the blast.  

Good luck.

I've seen elastic cockrings that have a shaped "gap" or outward detour apparently intended to reduce pressure just over the urethra.  Have you tried such a thing and did it work to allow ejaculation?  

Great question.  Yes, they work but are very uncomfortable.  The ring tube is thin and digs deep into the skin.  About 4 years ago, maybe more a thicker ring was introduced.  It does not have the notch, but the trade off is well worth it.

Plus, for whatever reason, my orgasms last longer.  In fact, sometimes I have multiple orgasms.  The ring holds the release so I can make the moment last longer.

Probably TMI.

JEI.  Thx.