I just started this thread in the main section but thought I would repeat it here , thanks for all replies!!

I was looking at my list of reviews and noticed that a providers name was in  my whitelist section. I didnt ask her to do that for me , so I was wondering what is the proper etiquette for the whitelist section?

I would think it would mean more if the lady did it on her own without us asking , but is it proper form to ask a provider to whitelist us?

When I first started I whitelisted a man who had no reviews and to my dismay he was upset. Why, because he didn't want to be implicated in seeing anyone if his wife found his account. I had to ask for help to take it off which takes only a minute.

If a man wants to be whitelisted that I have seen and can match him to his handle I will do it.

Everyone has a different view on who they will white list. Some think it's putting your seal of approval on a gentleman which I guess it is. I think it just adds credibility to a gentleman's time on the job. It puts a history of his travels for others to see. Imagine a man has written 50 reviews and not one white list. If he was validated along the way you would know he was for real and all those reviews aren't fake.

I wish the whitelist was used much more

Kisses Haley

Dear Greeneyedude,

I'd be thrilled to whitelist a friend from TER. It's a way for us to express our appreciation for their gentlemanly conduct. And it helps our sisters in pleasure.

I do think it's best to ask us. Some would prefer to keep their preferences discreet.

It's good to have this forum and I'm happy to be a part of it. I'll be back more often in the future.

Smiles and Kisses,
Anenke

however, I no longer ask. I have quite a few, and I have a few favs who will personally give references without me contacting them before I give their name to a provider I'm about to see, so it speeds up the screening process.  BTW, there is no way to indicate whether you asked for a white list reference or the provider did it on her own accord.

wasn't a TER member, so she couldn't do it. It's never come up with anyone else.

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One of my white list is from a lady that did it without asking. It was fine with me. I appreciated it. She was a favorite. I say was as she is no longer in the biz.
The other I asked for. I figured it would help with credibility. Since then I have read on here that some ladies pay attention to it some don't. I haven't pursued it. If a lady wants to white list me I take it as a compliment.

I see no reason not to ask for it if you want it. I don't object to the lady doing it without having been asked. As I said I see it as a compliment. For discretionary reasons I can see how it might be better to ask though.

Ladies, the guys can chose if we want it to be visible or not. Just FYI.

But maybe now I will ask first!

I think its up to the lady.  Should I ask for a compliment??? Cause that is basically what it is.  "I am a good boy"  I love getting them though.  Its a pleasant surprise.  But even with whitelist most providers will ask for references.

caught. Guys, take every precaution to stay descrete, unless of course you are totally unattached and do not have a job that would frown upon employees P4P.