1) Domination- It totally depends on a) the chemistry, b) where the client is on the scale of dominant or passive in relation to where I am on that scale and c)what the client has asked for.  There is no right answer to this question that you can go forward with to please everyone.

2) Assuming the client is screened and I am comfortable discussing details that might incriminate me with the wrong person, some discussion is good so that I can get a feel for the pace, intensity and overall tone of what's about to happen. Like an artist, I want to create as I go... process and flow is important. Last night I did a double with Kiwi. It was his first time. I asked him if in his fantasy he saw a slow, soft seductive affair or two vixens having their way with him. I didn't need to know the specifics, just the mood.

3)Some verbal interaction is good so that I know if you prefer harder/softer, faster/slower or if you are about to come so that I can pace myself. Armed with that knowledge, I can give you the best possible experience. I do give that same feedback.

4) I try not to book myself in such a way that I would arrive to see a client in a dragged down state. Still, sometimes I'm in a particularly mellow mood and may ask to have some lotion rubbed on my skin just to ease slowly into the session

5) Has it ever happened that I wanted the client to "get it over with"?  Only if we were seriously incompatible. It's rare, but it happens. IMO, you have to denuinely like people to be in this business. Unless, of course, you are an ice queen.

I agree with your statement that older men enjoy pleasing and your asking of these questions is proof of it. I expect you'll get different answers from different providers. It's so individual, I don't know if you'll find agreement.

... for every woman, there's a different answer.  Lillian alluded to this in her post.

So rather than asking that question in a general forum, what you and every guy needs to do is find out what the answer is for the woman he's with at the time.  We're fortunate in p4p that we have sources to give us insight as to what a provider enjoys in intimate encounters: reviews, web sites, blog posts, tweets etc.  But I think the best way to find out what a woman appreciates/enjoys in intimate encounters is to do "field study" with that woman.    It may well take more than one date. But as you get to know her, you'll get hints, cues, requests, even directions as to what she likes and doesn't like. Just let her know you're open to learning about her desires and acting on them--she'll let you know.

One thing I like to do with providers, once they get to know me and have a level of trust, is ask them at the start of a date, "If you could do anything during our date, what would it be?"  I've gotten some interesting answers. (And fortunately no one's said "go shopping!" yet).  The last time I asked my ATF that question, she gave me a deliciously wicked smile and said, "Make you come four times."  She knows that will never happen in 90 minutes, but it illustrates that some (many? most?) providers really enjoy giving pleasure to their clients--they're "Pleasers".  So if you want a provider to have a good time, be willing to surrender to her desire to please YOU--even if you're a Pleaser yourself.

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And *this* is a brilliant point. Something I particularly need to keep in mind.

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Just having fun here.  There's a lot more to it than that;  good communication and respect I'd say.  But I'll let the ladies answer.

My experience has been with submissive men who love to please me.  I love to talk dirty!  I see a client when he provides a deposit to book.  My time is very limited, and I prefer to spend it with those who we share the same naughty interests.  I do not book appointments back to back, and would never spend my time with a man who does not interest me, so I never secretly want a guy to shut up.  In my younger provider years maybe, but now that I am older I just want to enjoy my time always.  

Great post!  Have a fantastic weekend.

+1 on this sentiment. I like to approach time with a woman as a mutually enjoyable encounter -- I want her to enjoy herself as much as she wants to please me. I've found great rewards in letting her "drive the bus" during an encounter, asking her what she likes and what she would like to do.

If I approach an encounter with a set "play list" of boxes to check off, then I'm setting us up for disappointment. The best times for me have been as a result of a woman going "all in" for the time we're together and me being all in, as well.

I believe in keeping it 100 so here it goes:

1. Do you like it more when the client is more dominant and aggressive?  

Like someone else stated: 1. It depends on the client and my chemistry with them and 2) Where they fall on the BDSM scale relative to me.  

I will say that I, in my day to day life, am the Alpha Female. When I say I call the shots, I mean it. Half the time my boss just wants to know how I'm leading our team... and him. Outside of that, I'm the "Golden Child" of our family which has it's own set of pressures along with the responsibilities of being an active member of some organizations. Being a provider is my escape from all the protocol of the real world (though I still follow our world's protocol). I enjoy a client that likes to take charge and dominate. When the pencil skirt and the blouse comes off, I don't want to have to think, I just want to feel. I think that's why I connect so easily with my clients because we both want the same thing. Don't get it twisted though. I know how to turn on my bratty switch side and I'll top from the bottom (or peg you) in a heart beat.  

2. Do you prefer discussion about what is about to happen, or do you prefer to just let it happen?  

I will only discuss things once a person has been screened. Before then, I have no idea who I am talking to so I keep it as PG as possible and ask they do the same. If after one warning they can't figure it out, I'll cease contact until they contact me appropriately. Once screening is done, I either send a questionnaire (I like to do special things), or if we are friends on a social media platform, I'll discuss things there. I don't want to know specific things but I want to get a feel for what we are going for.

3. Do you enjoy verbal interaction during sex?  

Yes. I think feedback is good between two people. If you are in a spot and it's not doing anything for me, I'm going to gently and sweetly direct you in the right location. I don't want to  fake it. I would hope a gentleman does the same. In addition, I enjoy some good old fashioned dirty talk.  

4. How often do you see a client, maybe are just tired, and rather than TOFTT you would like a little TLC?  

I personally do not allow myself to schedule in that manner. I believe in self-care and as I call them "mental health days". As companionship is my avocation, I tend to keep my bookings low and spread out. I've been honest with a client after work once and told them that while I was in a good mood, work had exhausted me mentally and I would appreciate it if we moved into things a bit slowly. He eagerly obliged.  

5. How often do you secretly just want the client to shut up, get it over with, and move on to your next appt.

It hasn't happened yet but then again, I'm still in my first six months so time will only tell. I have declined an appointment once because of comments made that showed me we would be highly incompatible. As a woman of mixed race, I get that I can be fetishized but this was just... overboard and highly uncomfortable for me (and it takes a lot to make me uncomfortable). I have this thing now that I call my "Chemistry Clause". If after three dates, we just aren't clicking, then I will "break up" with you. Personally, I do not feel comfortable keeping a patron if it's not clicking when he could find someone that works better for him. Money isn't everything in my book.

What I have found is this: I have always loved older men and now as a provider it's only strengthened that fondness. Many of you are a gem to spend time with and get to know. I know it's cliche but age truly "ain't nothing but a number"... after all parties involved are 18. Anywho, thank you Sir for asking these questions and from what I can tell already, for being a sweet soul.

Five questions and so many variables! Primarily my answer to all is that I truly enjoy "going with the flow!" The one thing I enjoy the most is spontaneity and the challenge of anticipating a gentleman's needs, desires and erogenous zones. it's a sensual treasure hunt!  

I find with seasoned/older gentleman there is more of a give and take and a true GFE experience which is mutually satisfying. It took me some time to realize that there are some men that take more pleasure in giving pleasure than having the focus solely on them. A lesson well learned and thoroughly enjoyed guilt free!  

As for conversation...there is the connection piece that makes a truly enjoyable session. Verbal and non verbal communication are all cues for a provider to truly tailor the session to meet and typically exceed your expectations and leave you feeling satiated and fulfilled. I have not encountered a time when I wished a client would "just shut up."  

Intimate encounters happen when you go into a session intrigued and inquisitive about the person in a very genuine way and are open to giving, receiving, and letting the session unfold. The only caveat to that is if a gentleman has a particular fantasy or role play...that is always good to know in advance.  

At the core.... have fun and hobby on!

I enjoy being pleased...I love the social nature of dates-interesting conversations to catching up on each other's lives.  True connection is just that and no I do not bother seeing someone over (an over) again if I do not truly have a wonderful time while we are together.  Some of us, independent ladies, are fortunate enough to not have that pressure on us.  

I like verbal interaction during the steamy parts...or none at all.  It is not a prescription or a movie...it has to feel spontaneous and pertinent.  

and yes, I find that older men truly enjoy pleasing a lady in so many ways...I am not a baby anymore either and graciously treasure the sensual natures of older men.  

The ladies here are no fools. Of course they love their bald, fat, hairy backed and old clients. Without them it would be a lot tougher to pay the bills.

It's all about you man, you pay them to fuck you, suck you, spank you, dominate you whatever you prefer for them to satisfy you for the amount you paid them for your fantasies...If your intention is to satisfy, them bundles of Benjamins is sufficient enough to puts smiles in their faces and sometimes gives them multiple O's..but for sexual satisfactions too fucking bad, you don't qualify, most of them have two hands with fingers to play with, hundreds of toys, from glass, to plastic, vegetable and fruits, wands, vibrators and kind of devices, from pocket sizes to industrial size, the poolboy, mechanics and the apt security guards, and of course porn....they don't wait for you and get excited with your presence so you can satisfy everyone of them, pretty daunting task dude....they probably had multiple cocks before you arrive with your appointment...well good luck to you anyway.....

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First and foremost. My ultimate goal is 99% of the time, the same as yours. I am getting my rocks off, one way or the other. I purely enjoy the sex in this industry, it is what you make it- I always make it fucking awesome.  

Secondly. The clients I have met. And enjoyed, all share a single ultimate quality: Patience. It is VERY VERY difficult to make me cum. So, it becomes a little challenge, and I love the men with a little UMPH. The ones the don't give up- DETERMINATION.  PATIENT DETERMINED CLIENTs. The men that want me to enjoy myself just as much as I do.  

I let things flow. Take their course. Or I just announce what I wanna do. More than 70% of the time I go first. I get ate or I get a massage to relax newbiez  

Verbal interaction is not necessary, and I'm not a fan of being spoken dirty to. It just feels weird. Shhhh listen to me. I'm making these angelic noises and you're interrupting. Enjoy, don't fight it. Lay back, relax, do not speak- you'll ruin the ambiance.  

I kinda got lost on this one.. I'm a spoiled brat, TLC for me is happening regardless.  

Honest answer? In the beginning of my career YESSSSSS. The clients I had at that time were unworthy of me, took me time to realize this but I had to grow up from motels and Backpage. And I did, one small step at a time.  

I'm proud of my accomplishments In this industry, and God what would I do without all of these orgasms?

Not necessarily so for all of us. I actually enjoy what I do. Yes the envelope is a great incentive that assist with the turn on but the act itself usually excites me  
   
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I prefer a client who is vocal, more often than not I get a client who just wants to lay there not saying a word. I get it, let me do all the work...right? Lol. No. Make some noise,flip me around, do all the shit your wife won't let you do. I can never understand a man who hires me for a little excitement and ends up doing the same shit he does to his wife day in out. Just saying,make some noise,tell me you are having fun and try a new position or something. I truly enjoy a client that can have fun and show it.

Not offended at all....don't take me so seriously hun