I can really identify with the first half of what you described.  Thankfully, I haven't had prostate problems, but my father has been treaded for prostate cancer and dealt with the some serious side effects, so I'm aware of the frustrations you might be experiencing.

To comment on your other observations about getting older, I've struggled a bit with the same things.  Maybe it was all in my mind, but there's a certain confidence, a swagger, that comes from being a young buck.  Whether fact or fiction, I always had the feeling that I could "take" any woman and show her a time she'd never forget.  I didn't think my work was done until she'd had several orgasms.  And it didn't matter where we were, if she showed interest, I was ready, willing and able.  

But now, I've lost the confidence that came from my physical abilities and it's taken me a while to reassess my role as a man and the way I relate to women.  That sentence has been a big one for me in the last few years and I didn't see any women for a long time as I was adapting to my new reality.  

I now worry about what happens if and when we get intimate, and will I be able to perform?  What if I've had a few drinks, what if the hot tub made my cock and balls go limp- I now have to think about situations and preparations that were unheard of 20 years ago.  It's just a different world when we age.

But even though it's changed, the desire is still there and so is the payoff. As I've posted previously, spending time with an attractive woman is its own reward, and it's always time well spent even if you aren't able to effortlessly give her multiple orgasms like you did in the past.

Maybe you'd call it part of aging gracefully, but I've now accepted the fact that I am what I am, and have the confidence to let women either accept that or not.  I won't kid you, I spend a lot more time alone than I did just 10 years ago, but I'm OK with that and it doesn't weigh on my mind like it did a few years ago as I noticed my sexual prowess declining.  

I used to be a stud, now I'm not.  I used to hang my bath towel on my erect penis while I shaved.  I don't even know why it was always erect, but it was.  Now, I can barely get it to salute even when I want it to.  There's nothing I can do about it, so I enjoy the company of women in the ways that are still available to me, and it's all good.

I'm still filled with the same sense of expectation when a woman smiles at me as I did when I was 18.  And it's still as exciting to unhook a bra as it was when I was 21, and women are still as soft and warm as they were when I was 25.  And they smell just as good as they did when I was 30, and they taste just as good as when I was 40.

So there's still plenty to enjoy, it just takes a while for your mind to adapt because I think our sexual self-image is formed when we're young and discovering sex in general.  But all of us on this board are old enough to know that life is about change and the better we deal with it, the happier we'll be.

As a younger or middle aged man you were fearless and never worried about performance.  Usually your thinking at least one of us is  going to enjoy this....!!!  As you get older you begin to worry about performance and also acceptance.  You wonder if a certain provider will accept you as an older man or just accomodate you while perhaps hating it... which doesn't help performance one bit!!  I know men ( like myself) who came face to face with Prostate C issues....had it removed and now willy won't work properly...  which is really awkward because you can have a dry climax but willy won't stiffen up.... All the desires are there....but what to do???  To me.... these issues and similar are what this Board could be most helpful with....

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This board is a nice home where we know we are unconditionally welcome and accepted, without consideration for our age, looks or ability to perform. Ladys, you have been great! Gentlemen, I can relate. It is nice to hear your stories and share common interests, concerns and even occasional fears with you.

This board is quite cool... no drama and only the occasional troll. And we all have a genuine interest in those unspoken topics.

Tell me more about the effects of PC. Have you tried injectables? One guy here tried an implant. i am sure you have done you homework. so what are your concerns with the available treatments?

Fabulous Photo Thread Days!  WoWZers!  LOL

But honestly it's nice to come to this board and not feel like your going to be attacked for every little thing you post.

Also, it's great that I can share with you that I've seen many gentleman who have had their prostate removed and the female condoms seem to always work very well for that.  I order them in bulk from condomdepot.com and get a much better deal on them and I always have some with me.  

Most every one I've used them with say they are the closest feeling to bareback they have ever felt.  The material is different not so rubbery and I definitely feel more body heat through them and clients will comment on that before I do.  FC2's are great to use!  

It's so refreshing!  Much like TER was in its earlier days.

Performance issues start cropping up.  or is it that up is not a guarentee.  How others overcome these issues.  And what the ladies know of how to jump start the putter.  I am interested is these type issues.  And the environment here, as others have pointed out is so very friendly, someplace things can be dicussed.

' Usually your thinking at least one of us is  going to enjoy this....!!!', unfortunately, when many of us were young our only thoughts were 'At least I am going to enjoy this' and didn't think much about our partner & his/her pleasure or well-being.  Hopefully, most of the posters to this board have matured beyond that attitude.  I know for me, I get almost as much pleasure out of watching a lady enjoy herself as I get from enjoying myself!

I must admit I never thought much about the person behind the provider.  Reading this board has allowed me to humanize you.  I always thought you led interesting lives.  No I know a little more about how interesting.

It's also nice to have a place to ask questions and learn about things that are on my mind.  This has been very helpful, and I thank you all for your contributions.  I really appreciate it. I loved the story of the lady who saw the 90 year old and now gets called by his friends.  There's hope for a long sex life.

I haven't met anyone here, but have a list for when I travel.  Meanwhile, Los Angeles is such a dynamic place some of you will travel here eventually.  Looking forward......

and there is no worry about being ridiculed for asking questions that may not be relevant to everyone here. Life throws us all different challenges and having an opportunity to talk about them with others can make them easier to cope with. Also finding others who share the same challenges can give you insight into other avenues of enjoyment. Also learning that your journey no matter how limited can be very fulfilling if you look at it a little differently would be a blessing for many.

Kisses Haley