Recently I met a friend who is over 60.  We had a fun time together.  He told me that everything we did together felt great.  The problem? He could not cum.  During our time together he kept feeling that he was "this close" to having a happy ending. He shared with me that when he tries to please himself it can take 1 - 1 1/2 hours to seal the deal.

It is not that he was not hard.  He was hard for over a hour.

Have any of you had this problem?  Please share how you dealt with this issue.  Please pm me if you don't want to share on the board.

Thanks for your input,

Madison

I have noticed that when I take the blue pill it takes me longer to cum. Not an hour but it does take longer. which I enjoy . longer is better but an hour is not good. I can understand his frustrations. So if he takes Viagra he may want to cut down the dose or skip it just to see what happens.

I have had several sessions where the guy's meds (not viagra)  interfered with his ability to cum.

Did your friend use his own hand at the end to help move things along?   Thats usually how my sessions like that end.   The guy knows exactly what it takes to get to that  point after all of my efforts have failed.

First, I would love to know what he is taking that keeps him hard for an hour. Maybe he has an implant?

Like the others, I find that Viagra seems to make it more difficult to cum although this is just in the last year or so. Of course when I start to worry about it then things just get worse.

Madison, don't think it is your fault and that there is anything more you can do. If he says he is having a good time belief him and go with the flow, so to speak.

i have never had that problem..but a lot of men over 60 do..viagara will keep you hard for over an hour but you can till cum..older gents are usually one shot guys who need days to recover and replenish the love juices..i had a friend tell me once 'just fuck , dont think' older men sometimes worry so much about their performance and worry about every little thing..nerves and overthinking affect the session more than younger guys whose only worry is how many times can they cum..any provider knows what needs to be done..the key with older gents is just to relax and let her do it..

I am 45 but maybe we are alike.
I've heard (and believe) that a woman has to "let" herself orgasm. If she does not mentally"let go" then it won't happen.
I can be with the most beautiful woman, doing all the right things ,but if I don't let go mentally it's not going to happen.
Macdaddy is right, I do exactly what he states and I can't seem to find a way not to overthink things.
If he is willing to discuss masterbating with you then just ask him if there is something you can do.

Guys that are erect and want to cum and can't cum may be tensing up some muscles 'down there'. Lightly massaging around his anus or even a little prostate teasing my loosen things up enough for ejaculation. Talk to him while you do this and for gawd sakes don't tell him to relax! We older guys can very easily get 'goal oriented' if things don't work for us like they used to or like we want. At the very least even if he doesn't cum it will feel good.

I have partial spinal cord injury...  I have altered sensations but is still fun...  But, it has happened, that after an hour of play & being "that close"...   a good provider will offer or I will ask, to finish me off.  With a HJ.  If he can cum at all, he should be able to finish.  I don't feel cheated in the slightest with a HJ finish...  my most intense Os are with a HJ.

At the same time, self pleasure...  masterbation...  teaches the body to respond to stimuius exactly right there & very instense.  In effect a "self HJ."   This came up a lot on The Erotic Highway & the suggestion was always to stop or cut back on the masterbation.  

There are studies that show Viagra & likely similar drugs SLOW DOWN orgasm.   The recommendation is to take the least effective dose.  When I was taking it, I found I could use half the smallest dose.  My Dr prescribes the 100s since it costs the same as 50s or 25s & instructs to use a pill cutter.  The coating is only there cause it tastes bad but if he swishes it down with a gulp of water, no taste.  

But your client says this happens at home and presumably without drugs.  So it may not be the blue V pill.    
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I used the blue pill once in Amsterdam at an orgy at a swinger's club.  I experienced what others have talked about.  I was rock-hard for the entire night.  But, I only came once the first time I had sex.  By the third & fourth time, I had no sensation at all.  So, I think that had a lot to do with it.  Compounding this experience was jet lag.  

For me, I think fatigue has more to do with my performance than anything.  Without pharmaceutical assistance, I sometimes get hard really quickly, but am nearly limp a short time later, even as the session heats up.  I concentrate on satisfying the lady orally, which I find very satisfying as well.  If she has multiple O's, that makes up for my less-than-nominal performance.

Like my dentist says:  "Getting old is a bummer!"

I have an implant, and reduced sensitivity.  I can literally be hard indefinitely due to the implant.  Most of the time I can orgasm, but not always.  I don't regard it as a big deal when I can't.  Everything still feels great.  Many guys with implants or other ED or sexual dysfunction issues have difficulty with orgasm.  The best response is to just not worry about orgasm and just enjoy whatever can be enjoyed.

I don't feel that my failure to orgasm (when it happens) is a failure on either my part or my partners.  And, it doesn't deter me in any way from wanting to have sex.

If your guy says he's enjoying himself, trust him, he likely is.  If he has a suggestion about what to do to help him, he probably knows better than you what works and doesn't. The last time I couldn't orgasm we switched to spoon position and variations of it and just maintained a leisurely penetration and cuddled.  The lady said she enjoyed it (hope she was truthful) and I certainly did.

Oh, and this is not just a 60 and over problem.

Sorta describes me.  I've practiced not cumming for decades, I'd rather have sensuous lovemaking and staying inside her than cumming and feeling drained.  Of course, that doesn't mesh well with the standard one hour time limit.  For me, that's way too short a time.

inquire about antidepressants......they are also used to treat premature climax..... paxill and others can make it near impossible to cum...

Positions & activities that don't put pressure on the head are the sessions that go on & on with no release.  Partners that don't get this...  that won't change positions or activities...  like my earlier suggestion:  a HJ or a BJ plus hands...   adds to the frustration!
With a manual type of release like this...  lack of lube or wrong kind is bad but so it too much.  No friction means no stim!  
Condoms, are an issue of course, and I bring my prefered premium thin ones which is some help.  A condom needs some lube and movement inside (balance because it needs to stay on too).
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ADHD drugs like Strattera will also make it harder for you to come

I can just talk about me - maybe you can generalize.  I'm 70 and don't take meds or enhancing pills.  Don't have an issue with first time, but have yet to achieve a second, though some really skilled ladies have tried.  I find that, after 30-40 minutes of testing the position alphabet and exercising self-control, I'm a little desensitized due to the cover.  Also find that the constriction of the cover can induce occasional softening.  I'm a medium length but fairly thick guy, and that may account for it.  When it's time to cum, I find that the increased sensation of BBBJ and the skill of the lady will invariably get it done.  For me, though, the trick is to start passively, let the sensation build, then the urge to thrust a little starts, the lady responds, it builds and I'm there.  I read a happy endings massage girl describe it as shifting gears.  Shift too early or start in fourth and the engine stalls.

I am only 45 but have that problem from time to time whether with my SO or a provider. I find that after a while it also becomes a mental block..Like I know I just won't be cumming that session...I have found that prostate play if done right works wonders,,,,,also blow jobs where its more held and tongue motion rather then jackhammering helps as well.

I also though have began to really enjoy the sessions themselves.  I love the tastes, scents, everything about  a session especially if I have a companion who is able to cum multiple times....I enjoy that a LOT and don;t worry about whether I do or don't.   With ladies I know well, I will now typically do at least a 90 minute session if not longer...there is a bonus to being hard for well over an hour.....A lot of guys fom what I understand cum in about 5-10 minutes and the ladies can't always get theirs.....

I do occaisionally have to take things into my own hands and that works great if she is sucking my nipples and the boys, some prostate play etc etc...it's about the overall interaction that does it, not just the cock,,,,,,,

BTW..I have this problem whether or not I am taking a blue pill, drinking whatever..i do have diabetes so I do think that factors in here also