With each passing year, the nerves in my penis become less sensitive. As much as I love BJ's, it's almost impossible for me to come, as I don't really feel anything. Ditto for intercourse with a condom.  The last time I had BBFS was with my ex a few years ago, and that felt fine.  

I had a two hour date yesterday, and wasn't able to come, despite the fact that she was gorgeous and pretty much did everything right. It's really frustrating.

Is there anything or any treatment that can restore sensitivity? I would bet that smoking post would help, but it's been nearly 40 years since I stopped that, and I won't be starting it again.

Wish i had an answer for that.  You never really hear anything to help out with that problem.    

I am kinda jealous actually because I am the opposite in that I am always very sensitive and haven't been able to find anything to actually help.

good luck in your pursuit.

In your 60's?  

I had that problem in my teens, and finally figured out how to hold back. Eventually I was able to control my point of ejaculation.

I know how to make myself feel good, and I've told providers what to do with BJ's. The problem is, they'll do what I say for a minute or so, then go back to their standard routine, then get frustrated when I don't come. One provider recently kept doing what I'd told her to do, I felt good, and I came.  

Still, I'd give anything to have some sensitivity again.

and I've had the same experience.  But for whatever reason, I don't consider it a problem.  I look on the bright side and focus on the fact that I can screw as long as I like now, instead of popping right away like I did when I was younger.  Sometimes a girl will do just what I need and I can finish with an orgasm, sometimes not.  I always tell the girl this is way normal for me, so don't be surprised if I can't come.  They seem to understand.  I don't know if this is helpful for you.  I just take it as normal for this stage in my life and no worries.  I can still get off by myself, or bb with my wife.  Dating a provider is for the realization of a fantasy, not just about an orgasm.

Where are you located?

I'm not sure one can plan something like this, but when I get sexually surprised, the old teenage sensations come flying back. We have access to all these beautifully sexy women, but that availability sometimes just isn't enough. Maybe because it's so readily available, it's lost the surprise? Sometimes spontaneity can be the surprise, and some ladies are wonderful in creating that over and over. Might you create that on your own? A wild fantasy if you will.  

I guess you could say I got lucky. Not too long ago the same thing happened. Beautiful woman, sexy, enjoys her pleasure, keeps me at full attention the whole hour, but no cum. We tried everything. I thanked her for trying, but my time was up. Obviously, it was frustrating not having that release, so I decided to set up a much less expensive fbsm. Well, isn't it surprising when a fbsm goes to the next level? It was thrilling, and I came so easily. I was so happy I gave her a huge tip. I spent the next two hours on cloud nine thinking about her, and the results of my big surprise. I was also thinking hard of when I might get to see her again. I was in the moment, so why not right now? My own spontaneity was another surprise. She was shocked, and happy when I came walking through her door two hours later. I teasingly told her I was in love. She couldn't stop smiling. The huge tip helped too. Not only did she take my 2nd massage to a new level, but she went further than before. I had no trouble with sensations, and this cum was a hundred times more powerful than the first. Of course there are many more details, but I'm still on cloud nine, and I don't plan on coming down for a long time.  

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Northern Alabama/southern Tennessee.

To the OP:

Nerve endings may or may not be the culprit, but we need to remember that the real sex organ that matters is the one between your ears.

To that end, think about what the most taboo and exciting sexual situation could be for you, and find a gal good at setting up fantasies to treat you to it.

I bet you will find some new spice will liven up that old dish you've been eating.

I know that a lot, or even most, of it is mental.

Interestingly enough, a recently had a session with a provider who was probably 10 years older than her profile stated, and her photos were probably ten years old. She claimed to be 31-35, but I'd say she was mid-40's. I was disappointed.

She was very anxious to please, though, and when I told her I loved BJ's, she just kept giving them to me. I came pretty easily with her.

I've thought about that a lot since then, and I'm wondering if the really hot chicks might be so beautiful that it's intimidating. I love looking at them and touching them, but there was something dirty about having that "older" provider giving me a bj.  

The other thing is comfort level, and that may be why the older provider was able to get me off, as I wasn't intimidated. I have an easier time with the provider I've seen many times, too, although it's still not easy.

The sensation is definitely just about gone, though. Even when I'm by myself, I don't feel much at all.

I'm 68 and certainly agree with the discussions that it takes longer to reach an orgasm then in my early years.  I tend to wait one or two weeks (without masturbation) and allow the need to build up.  I often myself walking with wicked hard ons and then I start to think it's time to see someone.  Usually FBSM and while it does take time, I believe my providers are understanding and patient.  I have learned to relax and enjoy the journey especially if the provider can do it the right way.  Sometimes with a prostrate massage, but often not and it is fun to enjoy the trip.  I still do have the same intensity when I reach nirvana and actually probably even a bit more intense then when it was slam/bang thank you maam.  Nice and slow with lots of teasing is the way to go.

A lot of tip sensitivity is lost if you are.  You may want to experiment with working the shaft, lift the balls and massage  your way down to the root.  If you still have your prostate, massage that.

You might also try some cock rings.  There is the kind that goes around the shaft and balls.  They're usually not stretchy, black neoprene ones are common and cheap.  The sales lady at the sex shop showed me how to "install" it. Basically feed the balls through one at a time, then the shaft.  You have to be soft.

Then there is the silicon cock ring that fits only around the shaft.  It is literally choking the chicken!  That one heightens my sensitivity for sure, though your situation and mine may be different, as I'm uncut.  

My other though was in reaction to your "2 hour date" comment.  Ironically, I don't last as long as I've gotten older.  By that I mean I can come easily within 5 or 10 minutes from the start, but after that its much harder.  The flip side is when I find the right provider willing to put in the work, the results can be stupendous.  I had a little blond straddle my face while giving me a vigorous HJ.  I relaxed and enjoyed the great view, with the occasional lick and suck.  When I finally came, it lasted a good 5 minutes, full body spasms.  The little blonde got concerned, don't think she's seen anything like it.  

Is my goal as well.. so I book long dates so I have more time to recover.. doesn't work very often though. ohh for the god old days.. sometimes the 1st one takes a long time and that drives me crazy too.. I reduced my Viagra dose from 50 Mgs to 25 and the issue went away.

Who knows?  He might have something in the black bag of his that could revitalize a nerve ending or two.

Another suggestion:  Type in "problems with nerve endings in penis" into a search engine and see what pops up (pun!).  

What have you got to lose?

i am the exact opposite..the head of the penis becomes more sensitive with each passing year..the orgasms also increase in intensity..if i had the same sensitivity and tremendous orgasms when i was in my 30's..i would have probably fucked myself to death for sure..

I've talked to the uro, and said there's nothing. I've done a ton of searching, and haven't found anything other than snake oil. Just confirmation that most men lose sensitivity, starting in their 20's.

One- It sounds like you need more build-up.  If the action starts before you're really ready, it will feel numb? in a way by the time you would've been there.

And two- If you do masturbate, stop.  Stop for a while, and then when you do, be more...gentle about it.  That would probably increase your sensitivity as well.

For as long as I can remember, I've put off coming until later in the action, whether with a provider or my ex. I'm beginning to think that I'm losing sensitivity by continued activity, and that I'm probably more sensitive early on. I'm going to test that theory at my next session. One upside to doing injections is that the erection doesn't go down after orgasm, so I can continue to do stuff.

I've stopped masturbating. I'll just have to save up more money to see providers more often.