Appears some of you guys have great success on the road--it takes a bit more game, no doubt.

I have found that if you start looking around ten days out--the SBs are looking at the bill stack, and just might think, "Well, once might just work."

Any approaches tend to work better four out of town versus local? (All locals think that you'll be smitten and be wanting to see them many times.) The roadies, not so much.

Going to Florida for 11 days. Have 2 ladies lined up. They know the deal. I also have a pro in sight for a backup.

NYC is very good, though a little pricey.  Much of Florida is very good and more affordable.  Smaller cities are problematic.

There is an optimum time to start looking and contacting the SBs.  I think about 5-10 days before the trip is best.  If you contact them too far in advance, they will disappear.  If you contact them on short notice, they won't be available and may not even get back to you in time.  

As you know, this is a numbers game.  I'd recommend contacting between 10 and 40 SBs.  You can copy and paste your messages, while still making them personal.  Some of those you contact won't read you message, some won't reply, some will be too expensive, unavailable, uninterested, or restrictive in terms of time or menu.  There is roughly 20% attrition at every step in the process.  I've had a couple of trips for which I contacted 40+ SBs and wound up discussing price and menu with 5-8.  By the time I was done, I found some real winners.

Be upfront about being a visitor.  Also say that you plan to be a repeat visitor.  Say that you are looking for a nice date with dinner, drinks, and some adult play.

Things work best if you are there for a while and have a flexible schedule.  If you are there only one night and have only a 2-hour window to play, I think you are better off trying for a pro.  But if you are going to be there for three nights, you'll find more SBs whose schedules will fit yours.  If your visit is longer, tell them that you are looking for at least one date, and more if the first one goes well.

With local SBs, I take a slower, more gradual approach.  I don't discuss menu or money until we meet in person, unless the SB forces the issue.  With SBs out of town, I want to narrow things down much more by email or text, so that the first meet is almost certainly going to go BCD for the right amount of time and money and the right activities.  Once we establish some rapport and are on the same wavelength, I ask them what they particularly like or dislike on the bedroom.  Some of the replies have been very helpful in my decision-making:  "I love to suck dick," "No anal or anything rough," "No kissing," "I don't like to do BJs," "I love to receive oral sex," "I'm fine with you cumming in my mouth."  Some will say that they are open-minded and like pretty much everything.  I then follow up and ask if they like to give and receive oral.  I tell them I like both.

What I did prior to my trips was favorite a bunch.  I grouped them roughly into dozens.  In Mexico, I contacted about 12.  In New York, about 48.  In Florida, about 60.  I wrote to about 12 per night for 4-5 nights.  The sugar bowl is definitely a numbers game, so you need to cast a wide net.  Be flexible, but don't lower your standards.

I rarely use the word "sex."  I think your choice of "intimacy" is a good one.  I also use "adult fun," "adult play," or "play in the bedroom."

With the out-of-town SBs, as noted, I am more direct, but always polite and tactful.  I say that I'll be visiting for a few/several days and am looking for a nice, fun, attractive woman for dinner, drinks, some social time, and some intimate time.  I try to make it feel like a regular date that leads to sex, not just sex.  Some SBs won't go BCD on the first date or don't have interest in an occasional visitor.  That's fine, but there are plenty who do seem interested.

After a few more messages to build a connection, I literally ask, "Is there anything in particular that you like or dislike in the bedroom?"  I'm tying to assure them that I will not do what they don't like (for example, anal or rough sex) but will focus on what they do like and what turns them on.  I try to present the sexual aspect as a win-win.  If I get a vague reply, I try to follow up.  I'll say, "I particularly like giving (list that first) and receiving oral.  How about you?"

Good luck!  Feel free to PM me.

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KL your advice is spot on. I've taken a similar approach on my visits to LA. I tend to start sending messages a bit earlier though, like 2 weeks out. I make sure they know I'll only be in town a short while, but will be a repeat visitor. Any of the SBs who are interestd also seem more open to talking about bcd actvitis, since they understand I won't be around for long. Also, since I keep 2 sailboats in the area I can offer to host them on the boats which they seem to like. And I always have a pro for backup.

Thanks.  If I want/need to message a large number, I'll start about 10-15 days out, so that I'm finished about 6-8 days out.  I think you and I are in the same ballpark.  For Florida, I did message a small number about a month out, but that seemed to be too long.  Some of the SBs went inactive during the month.  One of them was a top choice too.  

Regardless of when we start messaging SBs, unless we are absolutely sold on one, I think it's wise to continue to look until about 1-2 days out.  In all 3 of my trips, the ones I eventually saw were relative newcomers to my pool.  Once I decided on them, I felt more satisfied than I had with the previous leading contender.  My experience bore out that the relative newcomers were good matches for me.  They were 3 of my top 5 SBs.  Interestingly, the other 2 were also out of town.

Two nice things about seeing a SB while traveling:  (1) more freedom from the SO (I don't have one, but most guys do), and (2) you need a hotel room anyway, so it is not an EXTRA cost, as it would be in your hometown.  

When you converse with a number of SBs prior to traveling, what do you do if a bunch of them say yes, I'd love to meet you? I'd hate to tell them all ok, sure, and then flake out on all but one at the last minute.  So I tend to let them know I'm interested but my schedule for the trip is still up in the air and I might not know when I'll have time until the last minute.  I fear this approach may cost me a lot of dates since the girls may think I'm being too wishy washy.