Got the address for an encounter. Turns out she's in my building. I don't think it's a temporary situation as the HOA doesn't allow airbnb or short term rental. (Technically they don't allow commercial activities either lol) Building is large and I'm sure I've never seen her, I'm single, so for me it's not an issue.....might actually be convenient if we click. But what's the proper protocol? Let her know before in case she does have an issue with it?

let the cat out of the bag until I have been properly approved.  Then delicately approach the subject. You really don't want to be in a situation where you end up seeing someone and it comes back to bite you in your ass because your were not completely transparent..  

That's kind of my thinking, I'd hate to withhold and then next day running into her in the lobby or at the gym or pool. Chances are slim but not zero. But if it does happen it'd probably be better if she weren't surprised by it.  

Unless it's an issue for you, which I don't see why it would be, keep it playa and keep your mouth shut.  Obviously she's hot enough for you to reach out, then that's even more of a benefit to just mind your own business and have a provider always within adequate distance for visits.  

Why don’t you go over and ask to borrow a cup of sugar? 🤣   Joking aside, unless she becomes your ATF  and you session her frequently, I wouldn’t tell her.

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...to tell her, just as she has no obligation to tell you.

This possibility usually comes up under "he wanted my hotel 2 days before the meet" kind of stuff. Some Providers only give out general location info ahead of time and final specs (room number, etc.) the day of the meet or even just 10 minutes before.  In urban settings with a high density of hotels, some Providers feel safer giving out the name of Hotel A which is across the street and 20 seconds away from Hotel B, their actual location. So, is there a chance that she gave you an address (the exact same street address as your building) but might actually be hosting in another high rise to the left, right, or across the street? Did she pin down the ID of the building with more detailed info (e.g., detailed instructions: "there's a doorman at a green marble front desk; nod and ignore him; walk at a 45 degree angle to the right and there are mailboxes in a hidden alcove; cut through the alcove, turn left to get to the elevators; ..."). Is there a chance that her actual location is CLOSE to your building but NOT your building?
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Does your potential hostess actually LIVE in the building or merely host there a few hours per month?  A shared location: Some Providers (a small group of friendly indies or a small agency) sometimes keep a luxury location that they share for their encounters. Possible in this case? That could be a good thing! ... or a bad thing.
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I had some other possibilities ... to be posted later, if I have the time.

I live in the suburbs of Philly in a large upscale apartment building.  I used to go to this Asian/Korean place in Philly.  They are good, rotating girls and all get pretty nice reviews.  I decided to visit a few months ago and they told me they moved to the suburbs.  I booked an appointment, and it turns out they are not only in my building but in the apartment directly over mine.  I didn't say anything, and she didn't either when checking my ID.  

tell her you had to park two blocks away and ask her to recommend someplace closer for next time.  You accomplish a couple of things here.  First, she will not have a clue you live in the building unless you slip up by telling her about the sushi place a block away.  Sessions can go either way, and if it doesn't go well, you want to move yourself as far away as possible IN HER MIND.  There is really no good reason to ever tell her you live in the same building unless you are planning on moving in together, in which case, you could tell her, "Surprise, I just moved into the building.   This way we are close, but I won't interfere with your business."    

And hope you have a great time and want to repeat. This is the ultimate in convenience. Don't blow it by scaring the shit out of her.

My thought - tell her "OMG. We both live in the same complex. I'm ok with that if you are."  

then he just wasted his money, because she is going to be paranoid through the entire session wondering if he moved in BECAUSE he found out she lived there.  Got Stalker?    But some guys thrive on drama, so go ahead and you do it first and tell us how it works out for you.  Lol

That logic was my initial thinking. But I just canceled saying something came up. Figured this way no one will be the wiser, ignorance is bliss and all. Cost me a few hundred bucks in deposit to not have to think about this.

Instructions about parking definitely were for my building. I didn't get apartment number yet. Plus guests have to check in since our FOBs are for our own floors and common areas only. I just canceled.

You gave her your name,  she did some sleuthing and found where you live.  

8 members so far agree with what she said and how she said it.  You have one person who agrees with you besides yourself.  News flash . . . .  this is a fuck board.  You can use most dirty words here.  If it offends you, put your tutu on and dance to relax.  

FOB? Freight On Board? Key fob? Whatchoo talkin' 'bout, Willis?

Key fob to operate the elevator

Are you the top of person who has sex but leaves their pants on? #nonude

DISCRETION....(every second!!!)

Fuck You

I generally agree with Mya even if I might phrase it differently. If you click, it is your secret, but keep it secret. If it works, you have a very convenient date.

if I understand your post,  
1.  you’ve seen photos of her, so you know what she looks like.
2. You believe she may live in your building… but this isn’t certain
3. You’ve never seen her in or around your building.

1. Yes but face blurred 2. My building for sure. 3. Correct.... you're probably right about the rest but I don't regret my decision.

All of what he said. I rent a unit for a month at a time or more and this is allowed because it's not short technically its corporate rentals. Then I offer the place to ladies I know. I also sometimes an address near by and once they are there I direct them to me. She probably already knows your place of residence if you inquired that far into  an appt. But either way better to say something then to think you are stalking her later. That could end very badly for you.  

She’s probably seen you. I still wouldn’t bring it up until she does because maybe that’s her preference.