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Excellent read!

I myself am not against having a single partner for life.  
I like to think going against what "nature" tells us is natural, defines who we are as the dominant species.

It's unrealistic to think one person can satisfy all your needs ( emotional, spiritual, sexual, intellectual, ect) for a life time.  

Some studies think more women may be cheating than men, women are better at deception. It's all about opportunity & options.

at what point is it just attachment because of years together and no longer love...?

I think most people (myself included) would have a difficult time even making the distinction. Love itself often comes from attachment.

i think you have a point  

I totally agree!  Prople are different.  I see a lot of people who are married with children, with only one sex partner, and are happy with their whole life.  Long term hobbyists like people here are minorities, and will always be.    Some people became a hobbyist only for a short time and never came back.  Sex is fun, but is not the whole life.  We are not just animals.  Life is more than sex.  I am not saying that this hobby is wrong, I am also doing it.  But to laugh at people who choose to be monogamous and say they are not happy is very very wrong.  

That's really depending on how you define "love".  If live together long enough, Married couple can be very attached, and won't be happy if seperated.  

Totally agree!

Maine lobster either.

Many of us are here for the variety.

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I can appreciate monogamy. But it's not for everyone. So I hear ur "yawn" and I double it lol.

 
I completely agree my man

I think monogamy is purely a social construct that works for some, doesn't for most. By most, I don't believe most are rabid hobbyists, I just mean that at some point, most people will want to experience something different.

There's actually science that says it's all in the alleles.  
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/why-do-we-cheat-studies-suggest-dopamine-and-vasopressin-may-be-responsible-a6716256.html
 

I understand about men losing their virility with age, Viagra notwithstanding.

But does anyone otherwise ever completely leave the hobby and not dabble from time to time? Somehow I can't help thinking that people don't ever really turn a complete 180 degrees.

At this stage  of my life, as long as I'm treated well and fed what I need,
 I feel  no compulsion to stray.
 
I'm accustomed to cooking and  thoroughly enjoy pleasing my Gal's palate, therefore  she has no need to work in the kitchen preparing my food, to keep me as faithful as my dog.  

  Everyone's different, I suspect the variety and abundance of Gals I could easily find in my youth, whether I was already in a relationship or not, allows me to be comfortable and satisfied with one Gal at a time now that I've found  my more mature years.
   
I actually feel bad  about some of my GF's  I cheated on in my youth, even a few of them that  never found out how easy I was behind her back.  
   
     Fortunately for me,  I've never been the moping type of guy who withdraws from relationships after  a great relationship  goes down the tube.
 
    I'll admit  if my GF decides she wants to move out tomorrow, I'd likely pay for time with ten different Gals before New Years, hoping to get over my loss as quickly as possible.
   
As she  stands today, I wouldn't trade her for any ten tens.  
   
   Later,  I have a quick and easy Spaghetti Carbonara  and Kale salad  to prepare before she gets home.  
  Fortunately I plan ahead, I started my home made bread late last night  
                  after she fell asleep.    

at about sums it up!!  
Thanks A5D!

when it happens to you.

My 2 year depart from the hobby was due to me finding the love of my life.

Until I found out she fucked some bar owner in the back room.

Now I get 15 messages a day from her..... LOL. Funny how the brain works!

I will just stick to this right now!

You sparked my curiosity...15 messages a day regarding...what?

Regret? Remorse? Rubbing it in?

Inquiring minds want to know!

It would be like having many partners before marriage, then staying true once married.

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Does anyone do that?