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Once a month or so, I go through and read various reveiws, just to see what is going on here :) This morning, I was reading through and I found a couple of things that made me go "Hmmmm..."

I read several different reviews where the gent said something along the lines of "I have already been back to see her, which is unusual since I never see the same provider twice!" Is this just a matter of always wanting different? If you have an incredible experience with someone, I would think you would want to have more incredible experiences with that person again! Also, at least in my Dominatrix role, the more often I see you, the more things become available to you. Once I know you,  your reactions, your fantasies, etc. I can begin to create even more experiences for you. Maybe it is just because the BDSM realm is different, but I don't see the advantage of girl hopping like that.

Also, I see a lot of "When I got to her place, something told me I should leave" or "I was not impressed with her place or the neighborhood" or "All the other people in her apartment kinda put me off" but they all stayed, did their thing, then were unhappy. If you aren't feeling good about the encounter from the start, why stay? Is it simply a case of the little head controlling you, even to the point of not caring about the environment you are in because you are gonna get laid?

Just some of the things that make me go "Hmmmm..."

;)

K

-- Modified on 5/17/2012 12:15:47 PM

I think it all depends on the person. When I first started in the hobby it was all about variety. Now that I am little older and hopefully little wiser, I prefer to spend time with someone that I connected with and have a comfort level with.
Regarding your second question, I think you hit it dead on. Sometimes you are so damn horny and have prepared yourself (a fantasy) that your brain doesn't work properly. Also we don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by saying I am out of here

Posted By: MistressKiley
Once a month or so, I go through and read various reveiws, just to see what is going on here :) This morning, I was reading through and I found a couple of things that made me go "Hmmmm..."

I read several different reviews where the gent said something along the lines of "I have already been back to see her, which is unusual since I never see the same provider twice!" Is this just a matter of always wanting different? If you have an incredible experience with someone, I would think you would want to have more incredible experiences with that person again! Also, at least in my Dominatrix role, the more often I see you, the more things become available to you. Once I know you,  your reactions, your fantasies, etc. I can begin to create even more experiences for you. Maybe it is just because the BDSM realm is different, but I don't see the advantage of girl hopping like that.

Also, I see a lot of "When I got to her place, something told me I should leave" or "I was not impressed with her place or the neighborhood" or "All the other people in her apartment kinda put me off" but they all stayed, did their thing, then were unhappy. If you aren't feeling good about the encounter from the start, why stay? Is it simply a case of the little head controlling you, even to the point of not caring about the environment you are in because you are gonna get laid?

Just some of the things that make me go "Hmmmm..."

;)

K

-- Modified on 5/17/2012 12:15:47 PM

I wonder why gents hop from girl to girl.  If they had a great time, why not go back again for a second, third, etc. ?
I believe that the experience gets better with each appointment due to connection and comfort levels.
Althoigh, I do understand the need for variety.

If I have a great time and believe that the provider also enjoyed it I will most definately see her again. Hence the meaning ATF. I do see others from time to time but usually because the Atfs aren't available. Also I have found that I do enjoy some variety but its just a matter of enjoying certain things with one provider and certain things with another and so on. For example I may see one because she is petite and lightweight and I may see another because she is tall and athletic. I won't go into specifics but there are things that I can do with the one much easier than with the other and vise versa.

I had two occasions where the one I had been seeing over and over blew up in my face.  The first she got very possisive over who else I would see and would call anyone I reviewed and threaten them. the second and much worst experience was she got attached started inviting me over for steaks wanting to go out to dinners movies she even mentioned she goes to Hawaii every year and thought i would be fun if I could go being married I began to pull away seeing her less and less often. till one day I get this email from her listing my real name my address my wife's name and my kids names. told me if I didn't give her X amount she would be coming to my place to show her a video she made from a hidden camera and telling her what we have been doing. Well I was not going to go down that road figured if I paid once well them wouldn't I pay again .... and again... so I told the wife then told her that I had just told her everything and what she was doing was illegal and that if she came to our door we would not talk to her however if she would still like to talk with us we would meet her at the attorneys office to hear her out and give us her tape.. We went through so very unpleasant times and took me awhile to get back into hobby but ever since I have never let the relationship have a chance to develop into anymore more than it was intended to be and I have become much better at hiding my real information.

Wow...just wow.

You poor guy! I cannot imagine ever, ever allowing a business relationship to get so out of control like that (I am talking on my part, not the guy's part). I can certainly understand why you would be hesitant to see one girl regularly after your experiences!

K

I have had two similar experiences and it frustrated the heck out of me.  I have been threatened multiple times and still wonder when it will come up again.

When it comes to staying when things are not ideal, it is a combination of little head thinking and not wanting to hurt feelings.  I don't know of a way to tell a girl that her breath was horrid, or that her interpersonal sucked, or that her room was dirty and her animals stunk...to her face, when I am there to....ya know....do it.  I have gotten better at walking out but it is not an easy thing to do...

Ditto on that.  There have been times I felt like turning around and leaving and stayed.. Then I have talked to a couple that were crying because a guy came said you don't look like your photos and walked away.. or one that came said oh I thought you were someone else and walked. Left them both crying feeling inadequate.  It is hard to do to someone.  I am sure it happens a lot and yes it is my money I am giving for there time and if I don't think it's money well spent I should go. But if is different than buying a car or even something someone made.  When she is the person I am rejecting not the item its a big difference at least for me.  

The only time I have walked really so far is when something didn't feel right my little this is dangerous or a bad Idea feeling hits my gut. Once I remember seeing a guy sort of just hanging out a shot ways from the room and when I get we begin talking a little and she suddenly takes a call and says no he is fine.... I left.  one other I had seen photos but when i get there she is looking sick run down and basically drugged out of her mind and I excused myself.

Here's my two cents...

Although I have walked away from women because they didn't look like their pics, people in the house made me feel uncomfortable, or my "spidey sense" just told me to go, more times than not I stay.

If you look nothing like your pics I have no problem turning around and going home. But if the house is a bit messy or musty I usually try to look past it...

I would rather not have variety, but a woman who I thought was attractive, cool, and could get to know her (not because I want a relationship, but to put us both more at ease as times go by)...

My big issue, and this is more a personal one, is that I love to get two rounds off if possible in a session. I find that most women don't seem really into that (at least in a first meeting). I never really understood why that was. If we agreed on an hour and I can go a few rounds, then shouldn't I be able to...

I'm sorry, I'm getting off base...

I've met a few women in my day that I would call an ATF. Sometimes I'm out of town on business so the woman cannot become a regular, another time the woman has moved or left the biz...

I may be just picky because I've seen women who are reviewed well, who I've seen, and although I was not unhappy with the session, was by no means blown away like other men have been...of course this is life...sometimes we just click with a provider and sometimes we don't...and I do get that...

So for me, if I could find a woman who had a clean location, was cool, attractive, and an a voracious libido, I would probably never look for another...

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