Sometimes I think they are trying to make us feel special when they stuff like that like "I never pay for it but you're worth it" or something. Kind of a backhanded compliment.
The idiot's probably paid for it his whole life just not directly - I'm sure he's taken his dates to dinner, bought gifts and so forth. All guys pay for it in the end, just some more directly than others.
He's probably a newbie Ava. Just doesn't know how to get past his locker room stuff. I do admit it was a pretty stupid way to introduce himself. He needs to learn how to say, "Hi, I just saw your profile and would love to meet you!"