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Re: Drag King Fetish
EllenDeGenitals 6325 reads
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Great post, and thank you- I agree completely.

Hence why I have a hard time with 'sissification' and the denigration of the feminine when it applies to male pleasure. I feel like BDSM both frees people from normative sexual roles and gender expressions, but at the same time often reaffirms them. :/  I hope someday people will be liberated enough and accepting enough to move beyond these binaries.

EllenDeGenitals7048 reads

I was curious as to experiences or requests for a Drag King fetish- are any clients attracted to a provider who can be more masculine during a session? I did this once many years ago but it was tremendously fun. I'm not talking about wearing a strap-on, I mean demeanor, 'costume,' attitude...  just curious if there was any demand for this type of fetish.

Short answer: Yes.

The fact of any fetish and specifically applied to this one: If you can pull the "look" off and it turns you on in a dominant way, there is a submissive ready to indulge you and the fetish.

I was a kid when the movie 9 1/2 Weeks came out.  I recall being really turned on when the female lead dressed (in a tux I think)  and pretended to be a man in public and while eating at a restaurant.  I think that's how it went down.  Anyways, I knew it turned me on.

Here's my $0.02 on this . . .  We are in an era where many men have discovered the intensely erotic pleasures of prostate massage/milking/orgasm, but they want to still scream from the mountains to reassure us that they are NOT gay.  (God forbid that men are allowed to embrace bi-sexuality.)  Even among women who should know better, I'm surprised how many ladies also think that if a guy likes strap-on sex, then they think that he is in the closet and will inevitably learn to prefer cock over pussy.  Not true, not true, not true.  Look, it's this simple . . .  The prostate is the male G-Spot, and it feels really good when it is stimulated (to most, but not all, men), and the best way to do that is with a strap-on.  Plus, that kind of power exchange is fun for most women who try it.

If men fear that "strap-on sex = I'm gay", then they've gone in a very weird direction to try to remedy that.  Many men can't wrap their minds around the fact that they enjoy this activity as much as they do -- and/or many men long to embrace their feminine side, or to understand what the female side goes through during sex -- so they've taken the kink one step further by including "forced" feminization.  (Notice how "forced" is always in air quotes?)  By "becoming someone else" (i.e., being dressed up like a whore), their fucked-up logic is, "It's okay now, because that's NOT me being violated in the ass with a rubber phallus."  In other words, it's happening to the character that they are playing in the scene, not to them; therefore, they can't possibly be gay.  It's just their alter-ego that enjoys that!

The Drag King idea is an interesting twist.  My sense of it is that most men aren't sexually liberated enough to embrace that idea just yet without freaking out further, unless they legitimately do want to explore bi-sexuality/homosexuality in a "shallow end of the pool" kind of way.  A Drag King scene might work better in combination with the man also cross-dressing and strap-on.  I have a hard time picturing it working as well without those elements.

EllenDeGenitals6326 reads

Great post, and thank you- I agree completely.

Hence why I have a hard time with 'sissification' and the denigration of the feminine when it applies to male pleasure. I feel like BDSM both frees people from normative sexual roles and gender expressions, but at the same time often reaffirms them. :/  I hope someday people will be liberated enough and accepting enough to move beyond these binaries.

I agree with much of what you've said, very insightful. One thing I want to point out though is that the fantasy of being "forced" is not always about repression. It is a lot of times about the desire to feel taken, the loss of control can be very erotic in its own right. It is also about wanting to experience feeling like the object of someone's insatiable desire.

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