Since ive been in atlanta a more then usual amount of gentlemen i speak with dont want to go through the screening process. Is that just an Atlanta thing??
I myself haven't been in this business for long but that's what it seems like for me. My first client was a sweetheart and gave me everything I asked for including employment verification. But hobbyist are not as willing from what I've witnessed so far.
I haven't had much trouble getting clients from TER to provide screening information. But those who find me elsewhere... it's like pulling teeth. And I'm newish but come on, there have to be more providers who screen than not, right? So many have made me feel like I'm from another planet for asking for a full name.
In my case, if my first name, hobby number, hobby email, 2 reputable references and p411 account with lots of okays are not enough, I will move on. For some providers, that's not enough and they require a full name and work verification. Their pool of potential clients will be much smaller as many hobbyists will not provide that.
And then they seem to think because they don't have references (code for "no one I've seen would see me again or tell you I'm safe), or they aren't a part of a screening service (code for either being LE or being too cheap or knowing that due to their own behaviors, providers won't give them an "okay"), they think they get a free pass on screening.
Those are the kinds of people to avoid!
And if you don't have references or a verification site subscription, yes, you have to cough up that real world info if you want to see a smart and well-reviewed professional. Yes, some providers demand that anyway (and like you said, you can take it or leave it).
But I'm guessing the ladies in this thread are talking about men who fall under the category of "I have no references because I'm a terrible client/I'm blacklisted from here to kingdom come/I'm a cop."
Stay safe!
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A provider requiring that should expect a lot smaller list of potential clients. Just as the provider would not disclose personal info, her client would not want that out there either. Too many cases of being outed, either thru carelessness or maliciously to risk that.
Not screening is a definite danger for all. But asking for work and full personal info is also a major danger for the hobbyist. I understand needing it for a newbie. But once a gentleman can get reputable providers to vouch for him by giving references and is on a verification site, why on earth would some provider require personal info? And some do. The OP did not mention which is the case in her situation.
It's always the providers choice how to screen of course, as is the hobbyists choice to pass. Neither side should complain
Ms Tori with all due respect mam Id like to bring up another possible scenario. What about the guy that works a ton, doesnt have time to set up numerous references with other ladies, yet works in a job that doesnt lend itself to giving out ones info? EX. A College Profesor, Research Scientist etc. Are We SOL?
I myself have been out of the Country for 6 years. Very difficult to get the proper credentials if one cant find anyone to get you started.
Just a thought. By the way Tori I think your website is incredible
This is also an increasing problem for me as well (in Atlanta). I don't get it... It's better to be safe than sorry!
I noticed a lot of providers don't attempt to screen thoroughly anymore. I always tell them, that I only prefer to see ladies who do so and they oblige. Kind of backwards.
Feel no fear is passing by those who try to haggle with your screening process - if they don't respect your wishes before getting to meet you in person, they sure aren't the kind of someone with which you want to spend any kind of private time! Block their email/number and sail on.
There are several markets in Atlanta; and what's more, there are tons of gentlemen, couples and even a few ladies who will *value* the fact that you value your safety and discretion.
IMO those are the kind of people worth your time.
xoxox
Tori
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which they aren't, sooooooo.
depends on your comfort level.
I am surprised when I see someone new and don't get screened.
But at this point I see who I am comfortable with.
This is the reason my last trip to Atlanta was cancelled. I had a ton of interested gentlemen, very few would cooperate with screening. I thought it was the oddest thing. I plan on trying Atlanta again after New Years. I've been in the hobby for a while, the one thing I've learned is change is always happening. Hopefully this trend to not screen will change. I'm hoping to make it out in January, providing enough gentlemen are willing to be screened.
Until women quit outing guys for such minor transgressions as a sub par review or refusing to pay a cancellation fee, guys are understandably going to be averse to handing out their personal info to anyone.
For the record this type of thing seems to be more and more frequent amongst previously "well reviewed" providers. Bad "Tricks" make it hard for all the rest of us, and bad hookers make it tough on their sister providers. Plenty of blame to go around, but it is the reason a LOT of guys refuse overly intrusive screening.
Lastly, I am NOT talking about myself. I am already "out" and blackmail proof, I don't mind going through screening at all, as long it's not a matter of jumping through endless hoops that make me feel like I am "applying" for a session, but other guys with a lot to lose obviously feel otherwise.
10 years ago, LE wasn't so interested in what was going on online. There are cops everywhere now. They use fake ads and bust ladies after they've seen them a couple of times. I've even seen them sitting in unmarked cars at extended stay hotels. BTW, Alpharetta is the worst. I'm all about screening, since it makes everyone more comfortable, but I am very cautious. I wish it were easier on both sides. What is the preferred method of screening most ladies prefer? I'm looking to turn my social life up a notch.
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