Sometimes negative things happen, no one is exempt from this life rule.  What matters when we do experience negative things is how we handle them.  We can have a victim mindset and let it control us or we can turn that shit into gold.  I like gold.

I got into Milwaukee late last night and went to sleep right away.  It's a 12-13 hour drive for me to get here so I was pretty wore out.  I did check my e mail twice during the trip.  I do not use my phone like most people, I do not check e mail on my phone. When I have in call, I send the location the day of our meeting so this morning I did just that as I had an 8am meeting.  After sending the general location, I checked a few other e mails and the same gentleman e mailed me at 8:44pm asking for the location, a few time after that until 11:10pm in which his last e mail had 2 words "useless c***".

I e mailed him back however, I was nice about it.  I explained that I got in late and typically send the location the same day as our meeting.  I also said I'm happy to put it all behind us and still meet and have a nice time together. We all have our moments and up until this last e mail he was not disrespectful.  He has not seen me before so was not familiar with the way I do things.  I have not heard back from him.

Since it's HOW we handle things that make a difference and there is something to learn in every experience, this is how I'm going to handle this:

I'm not going to contact him again and I'm removing him from my UTR list.  I am not going to blacklist him as I have no reason believe he's dangerous.  I am not thinking negative thoughts about him, I'm going to treat this as a misunderstanding. I'm open to discussing it  with him with the right intentions of he wants to.

I don't remember the last time I got called a name however, people call names when their upset although it's not the best way to choose to handle a situation. I'm going to look at me, what can I learn from this to keep it from happening again? How can I grow?  What is the lesson here?

First, I could communicate better and let him know I will send the location the day of.  Maybe even let him know I when I will be unavailable to respond to e mails.  

Second, I can post clearer policies on my website and put a link to them in my signature line in my e mail.

Third, Don't make drama out of it.  There will be no arguing between us and this will not live rent free in my head. I like to live in peace and focus on what matters.  

I'm not easily insulted and it takes more than a nasty name to upset me.  I do have an open mind, willingness to learn and grow and I guard my peaceful life and happiness.  I wish him the best and let go of this entire situation.

Namaste
Becca Blossoms