I would like advise. I enjoy this hobby and try to share my experience as honestly as I can if I do a review. I am not filthy rich, however, I only enjoy high quality providers. Of course, in general, their time is costly. I don't mind spending the money, but given my preference of women, I have to save my cash. Recently, I saw a visiting provider who averages between 9-10 on the TER scale. I was very excited about the prospect of meeting up. Ultimately, I was disappointed with our date. I don't think the details are necessary for this venue, but I ended up doing a review as honestly as I've done every other review. When I look at the TER scale and the verbiage the defines the number, my time with her was a 3. My review points out that she was friendly but we had no chemistry, and I was the only client that rated her less than 9. My actual review basically blames the low score on me and her. I did not write anything horrible about her. She PM'd me and was pissed off. She pointed out that she is in the top 10 on TER and she is going to black list me. She will tell other providers that I see them only to right untrue bad reviews. Basically, she threatened me. My question is, did I do anything wrong?
You provided a review as you experienced it so I think your fine. Even top tens have bad days and bad outings.IMHO. Please pm me her name. Just curious because I have had a similar experience and wonder if it might be the same Lady.
" My actual review basically blames the low score on me and her"
Sounds like you need to be rating YOURSELF then. I'd be pissed too. If she did everything she could to make your time together special and enjoyable rating her low is not only wrong but completely useless when it comes to helping the community. To me, the correct way to handle this would have been to contact the provider afterward and ask some questions...perhaps you'd get the golden "do over"?
Ultimately, I just wouldn't have reviewed the provider since the basis of the score is because of you and, quite frankly, I'm never fucking you.
This is entirely correct.
I personally wouldn't even offer a " do over" If you didn't click together, what would have been the reason to try again ? If she was polite, friendly, accomodating and tried to please you during your session. Then she fulfilled her end of transaction. We all have sessions that aren't memorable or where fireworks just don't happen. Giving her a low rating because the chemistry wasn't there, is ridiculous.
" My actual review basically blames the low score on me and her"
Sounds like you need to be rating YOURSELF then. I'd be pissed too. If she did everything she could to make your time together special and enjoyable rating her low is not only wrong but completely useless when it comes to helping the community. To me, the correct way to handle this would have been to contact the provider afterward and ask some questions...perhaps you'd get the golden "do over"?
Ultimately, I just wouldn't have reviewed the provider since the basis of the score is because of you and, quite frankly, I'm never fucking you.
If a client does have a bad experience with me I would like to know before they post a review so hopefully I can make it up to them. But if they did post the review and it was not great I would still reach out to them to make it up. We are in the customer service business. No, I do not think you did anything wrong. If you were honest in the review then that is want counts.
Um, two things. I emailed you a while back and received no response at all. My fault?
Also, when I go to your site, it kicks off my anti-virus software, blocking an attack.
Hello!!
Very sorry I did not respond to your email!! Please PM me here. I have not had anyone else ever comment on issues with my website. I know the site does try to track your location, so that may be why the anti virus is not letting you on the site (?).
I look forward to hearing from you!!
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Scarlet
Hello!!
I have posted here and also sent you a PM.....I have not heard back from you.
Based off of the information provided, you stated that "she was friendly, but we had no chemistry". If I'm not mistaken, TER has added a feature where you can rate the "chemistry" between you and that provider. If she has done everything within her power to be friendly, accommodating, and to please you, and you just didn't feel it, that's a chemistry thing. While I get your perspective because reviews are subjective, if I had been you, I would have rated low on the "chemistry" ranking, not the actual performance. However, that's the intriguing part of this world... one person's 10 is another person's 3.
I am like this when it comes to my own reviews =
I want clients to be honest in their review, while I try to make the session totally awesome on my end. Sometimes I have something distracting me psychologically emotionally in my personal life , which might bring the whole quality level down a very little bit . This sagging level of bravado may or may not be noticeable for my date . Something distracting in my personal life = my pet just died . for example
I ask everyone to review me , but I ask for candid honesty , never demanding specific numbers , and I defniitely never turn into a scoring bully ! That is trashy tacky
I try to make everything super nice on my end but I also believe YMMV is built into TER meetings . and . I never promise anyone that things are PSE 10 10 for everyone who crosses my path . I think promising that to people is fake misleading etc even if it turns them on to hear that from you ?
You were honest and honesty does piss people off.
Keep being honest, keep being you.
The blacklist is a safety tool, not to be used to get revenge on someone. That does nothing for safety and is immature.
Reviews don't make or break a provider. I don't read mine. The review system is so abused I can't take it seriously anyway. My service speaks for itself, I don't give reviews the power to hurt my business or control me. A lot of providers do. It's all personal choice.
You have to live with you, do nothing outside of honesty no matter who it pisses off.
And if she is a quality provider one bad review is not going to break her. There are lots of providers out there with consistently bad reviews and they are still in business!!! lol.
The Blacklisting threat is very childish on her part. This is not what we use the Blacklist for.
At any point during the visit, did you tell her that somehow you weren't clicking with her or there was something else she could have done to improve your experience? Did you feel as if she was making a true effort to make you a happy boy? If it was no to the former and yes to the latter, then dont give her a damn 3! If she was uninterested in pleasing you or horrible to you, then give her a three, but not because you didn't "click".
Do you know what you should have done? Explained to her the issue during the visit, then she could do something that you would like and would have pleased you (we are very resourceful women), and perhaps things would have changed. If was simply a lack of chemisry, there is only one answer:
DON'T WRITE A REVIEW
You are obviously an anomoly, and that is perfectly fine to be an anomoly and is is perfectly fine to not click with someone. We are all different. But don't go and eff up her average because you didn't click. Many others did click with her - obviously.
Just be a gentleman and don't write a review if it were partly or mostly or whatever your fault. We all make investments that don't always go the way we want them to and this is all a part of life. Let it go.