Hi,  

I'm wondering if anyone has seen Jade lately? Last time I saw her back in September she was acting really odd. Real scatter brained, even doing shots during our session. I was wondering if anyone has seen her lately and if she's still acting strange, like she's on drugs.  

The first few times I saw her she was awesome. Really hot and lots of fun. The last few times were different. Constantly stopping to smoke some pot AND do shots. I'd like to see her again, providing she mellowed out a bit.

This is really ridiculous for a provider to act like that with a client. And it's even more ridiculous for you to have allowed that behavior to persist during your session with her , and even more strange that you would be willing to see her again.  

It's crazy how most reputable providers will go above and beyond to provide a top notch atmosphere and session for our clientele thinking that's what they expect and prefer yet I consistently see posts like this all over the regional boards. Like seriously this type of behavior is acceptable? So if I started not giving a damn if my clients had clean sheets and a clean incall or if I started doing drugs and drinking or smoking during our session, guys would still come and see
Me?  Hhhmmm maybe we are striving to hard to provide an amazing service when we got guys out here settling for way less. I don't understand  

Well, there could be a couple things here.  If the guy also smokes/drinks its probably not a big deal.  Another reason could be if he is a regular, he likes her for a reason.  Maybe that mattered more than the smoking/drinking.  Maybe other providers are even worse than his smoking/drinking regular, so he dealt with it.   I have dealt with this once with one of my regular girls I seen.  I did it just because her on her worst was still better than any others in the area.

You ladies shouldn't think like this.  You get the guys you do partly because of the way you act.  Even if your behavior changed, you would probably still have regulars, just not as many.  Just keep acting respectful, and your client list will remain and keep growing. Don't worry about the next girl, you should actually like girls like this as it sends more clients your way.  The guys that won't accept that behavior will be happy to see you.

Its because they don't want to pay the premium it requires to have a professional, not drinking or smoking and fun provider. They think we aren't worth it, so instead of spending 250-400 for an hour and getting a reputable provider that they don't have to worry about this stuff with. They'd rather spend 60-120 for a half hour with strung out girls who give them one pop, or don't do gfe (if they want it) or are in shady motel rooms they don't feel comfortable in etc. These aren't the clientele you want.

One of the most difficult things in science is to avoid confusing statistical results and anecdotal results. One guy accepting crazy behavior isn't statistical. Its anecdotal. One guy who puts up with dirty sheets isn't statistical. Its anecdotal. Can all guys afford 250-400? No. I can. But, I make 120K a year. I'm in the top 5% of incomes in the US. I don't confuse myself with a statistical model of all American men.

Your argument is the same as "Why would someone shop at Walmart and buy a cheap, crappy bookcase for 60 bucks when they could go get a custom bookcase that will last them forever?" The answer is obvious, if you ask me; either they can't afford the better bookcase or they value other things as being more important.

"They think we aren't worth it." You're taking something personal that isn't personal. I'm an accountant. Not everyone can afford me. Most, because they truly don't have the money. They still need accounting done even if they can't afford my services. I don't take that personally. Some, because they don't understand what I provide as an accountant and they value other things. I also don't take that personally.

There are so many anecdotal reasons why some guy would value something other than paying you an industry-standard rate. Perhaps he's currently broke but still horny. Perhaps he'll always be broke. Perhaps his income is under scrutiny by a wife, investors or an accountant. Perhaps they pop so damn fast that the moment they see a beautiful woman they already came i their pants and spending 250-400 is simply not worth it. There are lots of reasons that have nothing to do with you. Why take it personally?

And, as for valuing things like clean sheets and professionalism, the existence of this website proves thats true! Before this site, I dealt with crazy stuff. Now, I have a near-100% success rate. In fact, the thing I fear the most is if I'm honest in a review and the person doesn't like it. I recently reviewed someone and said "Their home could be picked up but I've seen far, far worse" and she completely flipped out! She reported me to TER and sent me three lengthy, nasty messages filled with anger and screaming.

But, I don't confuse her anecdotal behavior with how most people, statistically, behave. She's just herself. Most providers would either have a very clean incall location or ignore such a minor criticism. By screaming and cussing me out for saying her home could be picked up a bit (in one nasty message she screamed "I CAN DROP A COOKIE ON THE FLOOR AND PICK IT UP AND EAT IT!!! DON'T LIE ABOUT HOW CLEAN MY HOME IS!!!!") she guarantees that I now think she's crazy. My brain is built like every other human; my instinct is to associate her anecdotal behavior and extrapolate a statistical statement like "Why do providers behave like..." But, for twenty years, I've trained myself to identify that instinct and resist it.  

Her behavior is NOT common. It is extremely UNCOMMON. Most providers, probably close to 90%, have never behaved at all like that. So, the only accurate thing I can conclude is "Wow, she really doesn't like it when someone points out her home could be picked up."

But, will I mention this in a future post about another provider? I don't know...because I'm human and I really don't like being screamed at or threatened. But, to answer VictoriaVixen, clearly, this is (anecdotal) proof that I value how clean you keep your incall location. Your red sheets are always clean. Your bathroom is a tad cluttered but its very clean. You have a great place. Maybe the reason more guys like me don't talk about it is because a: most people are good at criticism but lousy at compliments b: guys subconsciously notice a clean place but forget to mention it because most of us are very, very sexist and we simply assume a woman cleans up a house (particularly here in the midwest and particularly if mom never taught a guy to clean a kitchen or scrub a toilet) or because we were so focused on the fun we didn't notice the decor. Its a bit like going to a restaurant and someone says "the food was awesome!" and the restaurant owner says "but, didn't you notice how clean and lovely the decor was?" For most people, the answer is "Only subconsciously and only when its wrong."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anecdotal_evidence

Don't take things personally that aren't personal. You're both great people.

Oh trust me, I haven't taken anything associated with this post seriously. More like trying to have a better understanding of the people involved with this lifestyle. I enjoy feedback and encourage commentary whether it's favorable or not so favorable. FYI constant reader, my sheets are not red anymore, bathroom may still be a little cluttered but yes it is always clean. I think I last seen you what close to 4 years ago so you wouldn't know that I have a totally different incall, not as big, did away with the red decor but still clean of course lol.

Sounds like you like to read your own writting and I am not sure if your reviws are real. And yes you will get alot of crazy behavior in this business and for as long as you been doing this you should have seen it many times.  But that's half the fun getting to understand what this life is all about and enjoying the fun crazy girls.

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