I recently broke up with a man I met on TER. It was great while it lasted, it was fun, mutually beneficial and more. We traveled together, we spend quality time together, we even went to swingers club together. Although there was 25+ years difference in our age, we were like real couples in love.

In recent weeks he seemed to have gotten tired of me and/or our relationship so we decided to each go our own way. It did hurt when it happened but it is a reality of life.

So my question to you out there is the following:

Would you date someone in this life style or would you keep it all within the rules of engagement of hobby lifestyle?

I can think of at least 2.  Great, great ladies.

If I liked the person and connected with her and of course trusted then yes I would.

I dated a girl who worked in Florida as an escort. It's certainly not for everyone but it worked for us. In the end, I followed my career and she stayed in Florida. The distance eventually did us in but no hard feelings. I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

Did that for 10 years and should have married her. Was tough when we were apart but together was amazing. We lived a long distance apart but she would meet me any where on short notice and what fun we had when together. His loss my memories are outstanding ! ! !

Absolutely. Why are you offering?

I have met some cool ladies I would date in a civvie context. I'm not too sure I could date a provider unless we were strictly about the benefits.

I think I could deal with a lot of the issues, but I think the imposition on personal time wold be a deal breaker for a serious relationship.

There are extra caveats, as some have mentioned, but I would have no qualms in the right situation and the right person.  Getting to "right" can be difficult, but that's part of the fun, and occasional anguish.

I am not a swinger so unfortunately it would bother me if my GF would be sharing intimate moments with other men, especially swallowing their cum. I have gotten close to a couple escorts but the end result was always the same. I would say to her that I just cant bring myself to kiss a woman who just sucked some random dude's cock. One girl that I got particularly close to would counter my argument by telling me that she cant kiss a man who just rimmed some random girl. Needless to say, that the relationship was doomed from the start.

SO to answer your question I would say Yes I could and would date a provider. However, while we were dating she would have to put her "Job" and I would have to put my "Hobby" on hold.

I've never been one for traditional relationships in my personal life so dating another provider is something I'd definitely do (if she and I clicked and everything worked out, etc.).

I'd never date a client though. That's cuts WAY too close to mixing my business and personal life and I like to stay far FAR away from that.

It's pretty tough to find a civilian who is open minded enough to date an escort. I'd rather date a hobbyist or a swinger any time.

Been there, done both more than once and have had great and not so great experiences. There is always a chance of pain when you allow yourself to reach for pleasure. I'd rather have both than go through life feeling numb.

Your Very Naughty Girlfriend,
Anneke

If the connection was strong for both her and I then.....yes

I would have to have that mental connection with that special connection as well as the physical attraction. But at my age and condition that is not going to happen. Youth is wasted on the young.

My best friend is a provider. I love her, she loves me, but we are not bf/gf. Being a successful provider requires shelving personal plans for business demands. I do not want her worrying about breaking plans with me for an appointment, and then resenting me for making her stop and think about taking the appointment. She worries about my feelings too much as it is. The last thing I want is to be an obligation. I am very happy with our current, and quite rewarding, relationship.

+1!  Why not??

I would definitely date a provider again, I was actually involved with an agency girl for a little bit, can't say which; but she was definitely unique and funny, and I loved being around her.  I guess she realized it just wouldn't work out due to all the traveling, so we stopped.  I haven't really seen any new providers since January so I haven't had a chance to meet anybody new yet.

to be perfectly blunt i am very picky. i am so damn picky that the ladies i see here also are pretty damn picky too. they can do so much better than me.

to be perfectly frank in addition to being blunt:

i am too old, too poor health, and not rich enough to get "picked".

the only thing i have going for me is that i am usually the smartest guy in any room that doesn't have multiple Nobel winners in attendance.

oh, i am also not falsely modest. so you can believe all about my objectively being too old, too unattractive, and not rich enough.

i'd need some convincing that the negatives above really didn't matter. the age difference is the easiest one to overcome. i've never believed age was more than a number and i've dated women nearly twenty years older as well as thirty years younger.

without the strings, expectations and subtle manipulations.

You get to fall in love (or lust) for an hour or 2 then go back to your life, why mess with it? I know movies and TV, romance novels have conditioned us to find "the one" but that is not the answer for all of us.

I've done it three times in my 40 years of hobbying and each was special with memories to last a lifetime. You have to look at what they do as a job like any other. They provide a service for others but you get their heart and soul. That's what really counts. Half the time they forget who they've seen. It's just a job.

Now having a good time and being friends is fine.  However any kind of commitment for more than a day or two starts taking the fun out of why I am in this hobby.  Yes there are some necessary rules.  I prefer to be with open minded people who can make there own "rules of engagement".

1. Never any other men in our bed.Lady freinds are OK as long as I am not trying to sleep.

2. Never  tell me about anyone that was mean to  her, unless she has bail for me, and attorney fees. I get riled up enough when I hear about someone being rough with a provider I don't know. If it was my GF getting pushed around I would take it much more personal.

3.Never come home without flossing, brushing,, and mouth wash before kissing me.

I don't see the issue ..Same rules with civvies.
Always remember only floss the teeth you want to keep.

As a few others here have indicated, hobbying is dating.  I don't do traditional relationships, so I would never try to engage in a "traditional plus hobbying" relationship either.

But yeah, sure, I'd let a provider give me freebies and also just hang out every now and then and get to know one another as people.

Never,
Or, at least she would have to stop after we start dating.
I cannot accept my woman being in this kind of business

This is an interesting enough topic for me to delurk....

I've dated women from the hobby, so I have no problem with it.  I've met some suprisingly cool and interesting women I would love to have gotten to know better along the way.

That being said, the ones I've dated I've met via online personals or other such things.  I just happen to recognize them from their advertising.  None of these have turned into full-blown relationships (for the usual reason why things don't work out), so consequently things never got serious enough for me to bring up the hobby.  It just wasn't an issue for me.  

I'm just wondering if there is a good time to bring it up?

Yes, and I have . Many of the ladies I've had the pleasure of sharing cxompany with are outstanding individuals.I often schedule a 2 hour session so that I   can get to know them and them me. As a result,I wish the opportunity was there to get to know them better on a social basis.

I have in my life dated a couple of providers, although oddly enough I hadn't had a business relationship with either of them (just a happenstance, not a condition).  I've also dated dancers, teachers, bankers, administrative assistants, businesswomen, one psychiatrist (I'll never do that again) and much to my personal embarrassment, even a couple of lawyers...

Truth of the matter is that the people I choose to have a relationship with, whether they be friends of lovers, aren't generally defined by their occupation.  I've always found it difficult to be judgmental about how anyone chooses to keep heart and soul together....

yes, if the conection was there.  I'd date my ATf in a heartbeat, but would never be the one to suggest a date or anything off the clock - She'd have to volunteer/open the door first - I think one of provider's biggest beef's is guys trying to get freebies, so I'd never be the one to suggest it.  But if she did, I'd love to spend extended time with her - well beyond what i could afford to pay for.

We all play a role in this hobby.  We are all in it because there is something we want (or, worse still, something that is missing) in our lives--ladies and gentlemen, both.  If you both find that something in each other...it would suck if either side held the other accountable for a lifestyle choice both have made, just on opposite sides of the transaction.

If, as a guy, you were uncomfortable with a lady continuing in her profession--then guess what?  You might need to ante up to give her some options.  If you didn't like a girl being a waitress, would you tell her to quit without helping her find another gig (and supporting her within your means until she did)?  

Just my humble opinion.  Most of the ladies I have met in the hobby would make someone a great girlfriend or wife...CHEERS TO THEM!!!