The hobby has its benefits. It is good for those that are already in a relationship and do not want to start a new one. It is good because there is no strings attached, that is, you do not have to worry about her afterwards. It is good for those that have busy schedules and do not have the time to go out to restaurants, take her out for for shopping, and spending more time with her than required for a sexual experience.

I told myself that I only saw civvies girls that understood my situation, and that situation was to fuck under my terms of conditions. My terms of conditions is that she does not spend too much time with me on a personal level because I am busy with work and have to spend the remaining time with my SO. However, I would be willing spend some time with her by taking her out, eat at restaurants, and do some shopping.

Within the past two weeks, I have met two girls that understood my conditions. However, I they have a hard time maintaining my conditions. They know I have an SO, and knew why I saw them at the beginning. I was not trying to start another relationship with them. My intentions was to have incredible sex with these young hot girls, have some fun with them in restaurants, and take them out for shopping.

I never thought that I would have to decline free sex with two gorgeous young looking girls before within my lifetime. However, it has gotten to the point that I had too. I would receive text messages for me to see them, my availability, and for me to come over and spend time with them. I do not have that convenience. I find myself being a counselor, a therapist, a shrink, and a psychologist when I am  with these girls at their homes spending more than I would like to.

The main thing that I forgot was that girls always wanted someone to talk to about their situations. It is difficult for me because I enjoy having sex with them. However, I do not want to invest in another relationship with them. I give them adequate advices and provide them with adequate resources. At the end of the day, I find myself spending more money and time with them than seeing an escort.

One of the girls I am currently seeing, I take her out to very nice dinners and shopping. I even bought her a very EXPENSIVE apple laptop because I believe in quality. She has been telling me about how her laptop is not good and has been bragging about how it just sucks. I kinda felt sorry for her, and me fucking her so many times, I thought it was fair that I did this.

Without going into much of the personal details, I want to tell you that it is difficult to find a civvie girl that just wants to only fuck without investing time with her. I thought I was able to see if I am still able to do it, which I can. However, even a sexual relationship can turn into a personal relationship, and that is why I would much rather see escorts.

BTW, both girls allowed me to have bare back full sex with them after the second visit. I did not partake. However, it does surprise me that these young beautiful girls would allow me to do this. I did not initiate it, but they did not even ask for a condom. I always find it amusing when I ask them, what about the condom, and their responses was, "just don't cum inside me", LMAO. Yeah, BBFS does feel good, besides getting an STD which is a concern, my major concern is getting them pregnant because that is where the money will be invested.

Thought I share this experience with you guys and if anyone else has any similar experiences and why you would rather see an escort than a civvie girl. A civvie girl gives you free sex, however, there is more to it and I had forgotten how much it takes to maintain those relationships.

and when you add up the shopping, dinners, gifts, and opportunity cost of working or spending time with your business it's more expensive to go the civvie route most times. I'm 28 and have a SO but I see escorts as a low maintenance means for sexual encounters as opposed to civvie girls my age who would tell their friends or ask me how their day was.

Most guys on here are successful enough to throw away $300, $400, + on some fun without worrying about it messing up their relationship with their SO. Many could find a girlfriend on the side (especially in the DC metro area) but escorts allow you to 100% control the situation.

I'm too lazy to deal with the BS of another "real" relationship.

a fuck buddy.  I have had a few of them over the last few year.   I still remember the first time I fucked my first fuck buddy because it was on Election Day 2008.  She was a GW student.  We did bare back.  I was not totally comfortable with it at first.  I asked for a condom and she was like I am on pills and I don't like condoms.  She even asked me to shoot inside of her and I did.  I actually can still remember all of them and each  time we fucked.  we just meet for sex and nothing else. No shopping, no fancy dinners. I would just go to their place and slept over and left in the morning.  I don't understand why some of you guys do that unless you want her to be a GF.

I have had some civies on the side. They claim to understand I have a SO at home, then they get mad because I am not spending all my free time with them. Like the other guy said you have to be a shrink and hear about all their problems. Then you have the huge time factor that you have to put in to cultivate the relationship. By the time you add the time and money invested it is cheaper to see a provider these days, especially at those 1/2 hour rates that are now available.

fuck buddy relations can be hard, women in the world out of the hobby do not know how to put themselves aside enough to just provide their vaginas as a means of sexual relief. they eventually over think kisses, slight touches and too much conversation and turn your once understood plan into this mess complications.

the biggest burden i would see would be your SO finding out bc one of the girls gets too out of hand. and trust me Im a woman, and when i want something badly i do anything for it - and every woman out there has the same mentality.

on another topic, i swing in my personal life with MY SO & i'll tell you what - ppl in general do not WANT to have safe sex, or simply do not realize the hazards it can bring. my so and i have part took in some swinging events and left early half of the time bc the men and women do not want to use condoms or "forget" to put on one - since I'm a pro I keep my eyes wide open during these events and at first sight of BBFS im gone. I refuse to risk my so's penis and my vagina for a second of satisfaction that may lead to 18 yrs of supporting a child, HIV or STDs.

so be careful with these ladies, i say you recommend for them to become PROS LOL so they can learn a thing or two before you see them next time


xoxo just my two cents

great post too though buddy! best of luck with your dilemma!

I have been doing the strip club thing for the past 2 months or so.

I hit the jackpot with one--but it ended up loosing its novelty after the second meeting.  $200 for 2 hours with a 9 face and body.

Another  One,  20 y/o, with a killer body and great face is taking up a lot of time and effort-- she wants sugar baby one day and then the relationship the next.  Haven't hooked up yet, as I am a bit busy.

Are you sure you just don't like the attention the civies give you?  Where you met them would say a lot about your situation..if you mind me asking?

If anyone wants to exchange experiences with sugar babies or civie situations feel free to email me at [email protected]

Very interesting post.. thank you for sharing!  I am sure that your experience seeking a genuine no-strings-attached sex kitten is quite common, although many are probably unwilling to admit to women what they really want.  

It's interesting that some of this stuff is still so taboo... after all, the escort service (and many variations) is an ancient tradition.

I do believe that women are becoming increasingly open-minded when it comes to sexuality and social relationships.  I myself have one "fuck-buddy" who I have been hooking up with for nearly two years, and yet we have seen one another outside of the bedroom only 3 times, when meeting at a bar or restaurant before heading to his place.  While I have met a few of his friends (who understand I am a fuck-buddy), he has two sons and other friends & family who I have never met, and probably never will.  

While I love being an escort, I do hope that American women truly are becoming increasingly open to no-strings-attached sexual relationships.

Long Live Lust!  

xoxo
Lela

I thought strippers would be kind of middle of the road when it comes to hobbying.  That is, they know the game.  They already know you like to pay money for pleasure.

They are just as difficult if not worse than civvie girls.  "Why do you think you have to pay me" replied one girl, lol.


Long story short, sex is indeed very expensive and time consuming outside of real genuine escorts.

You pay them to leave when you are finished.

I have done it many times.  I am not ugly looking but am no Brad or Denzel.  Sometimes people have this wrong perception about meeting people on the Internet.  I just posted  ads on CL stating exactly what I was looking for and chicks would respond.  If you don't look creepy and not super picky, you will get laid.  The ones I have met were not exactly hottie but they were all college aged and look decent and cute.