Many ladies have either a suggested or required minimum booking time for new friends/clients. However, I have heard more than once from gentleman "X amount of time is too much time for a first meeting. What if we don't get along?" I have also heard "$XXX is more than I want to spend for a first meeting," when speaking of only an hour.  

I'm definitely a fan of "breaking the ice", and if I'm interested, or feel some chemistry, a longer date works, but I'm reluctant to invest a car note into an hour with someone I may not necessarily have a vibe with, so shorter dates are an option.  I'm also a fan of flirty emails/PMs, just to gauge the temperature...there is no exact science, but I've only had a handful of bad dates, and usually those were only for the half...I'm very selective, so once my interest is properly piqued, it's on lol

I think certain people just like to bargain, even after a commitment is made.  I personally think its annoying as hell.

If she offers discounts as an incentive, that's another game entirely, but bartering is tacky and classless- if I really want to see someone, I have no problem with saving up lol

I agree that the rate should be the rate.  First timer discount is kind of silly.  Repeat discount makes more sense to me.  But this begs my question... how do you "break the ice" with emails and figure out compatibility while avoiding all the things you can't talk about? And how many emails are too many emails with the ladies in the "getting to know you" phase.  Just looking for some help as a newbie...

First of all, I never book more than an hour for the first meeting. Too much can go wrong and I am stuck with a girl that i have no chemistry with for 2 hours at $600+. Not gonna happen. The most I will pay for that initial hour is $400. If she has lots of 9s and 10s then i can go as high as $500 but as you know that 9+ average is a rarity in DC. Once I have seen the girl at least twice with positive results, I prefer to start expanding to overnights.

and gauging the lady's personality...Also you can judge the looks without the veil of photoshop.  

I hate to sound like a broken record, but the three most important things in this hobby are research, research, research. If you do your research on selecting a lady for a date, then you know what she likes and what she does, and a good measure of what her personality is like. Take the aggregate of her reviews. And her board presence and website as all are clues as to how she would be on a date. That is one reason my reviews are all pretty good - I have yet to go on a bad date. Some better than others, but all good so far. Yeah, I know karma will catch up to me one day, but I try to minimize the risk with a fair amount of research.

I don't know about anyone else, but once we've passed the screening phase, and we've exchanged a few flirty, possibly deep emails to gauge personalities and interests, we're free to talk about whatever we want.  

I have a budget and usually do not exceed that except in very limited occasions and that is usually for a return visit.

I think long first dates (ideally meeting for a both BCD time and a dinner or lunch date) are best to break the ice and get to know each other. I am not interested in a one-and-done relationship, so I see the first meeting as a bit of an exploration or investment.

Thats a good question.  I'm pretty laid back and am more worried about them being a legit provider with 'legit' services and which services.  Pretty vanilla, so my requirements are easily met.

and book either 90 minutes or 2 hours, depending on my mood, wallet, and time constraints.  One hour is just not enough time for an old guy like me!

I personally like 90 minutes for the first encounter.  Sure, it can be a big waste if we don't really connect and 60 minutes seems like a "safer" bet monetarily, but a little bit of research (reviews, emails, etc) goes a long way.  I have yet to regret 90 minutes with some one I met the first time.  I have had a few providers offer up discounts on future visits (God Bless those ladies!).  It does make a difference on if/when I repeat, and they usually get the discount back as a tip.

In that I REQUIRE a brief public meeting beforehand. Maybe we just meet up at the Starbucks down the road and chat a bit while heading towards the room, maybe we get a meal, maybe we grab a drink at the hotel bar - whatever it is, we are most definitely chatting publicly before we go anywhere privately. And that's the way my favorite clients like it. I don't have fun if there's no chemistry, and that means my clients don't have fun. My philosophy is that I build a relationship with my clients. Not that I don't see the merit in a one-off encounter, (and believe me, I enjoy those too) but that's not my primary target for clientele. It's so much better when you get to know someone, what they like and dislike, and I don't think you can do that in just one meeting. It also heightens the anticipation - thinking about what might happen next, over a drink is the best foreplay in my opinion.

God, Jenn, this is so freaking hot. I would love to contemplate such a thing in general, but the time/price constraints with other providers make that pretty difficult, as you point out.

I am such a fan of the public meeting first!!!Thank you and I'm checking you out right now.

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In that I REQUIRE a brief public meeting beforehand. Maybe we just meet up at the Starbucks down the road and chat a bit while heading towards the room, maybe we get a meal, maybe we grab a drink at the hotel bar - whatever it is, we are most definitely chatting publicly before we go anywhere privately. And that's the way my favorite clients like it. I don't have fun if there's no chemistry, and that means my clients don't have fun. My philosophy is that I build a relationship with my clients. Not that I don't see the merit in a one-off encounter, (and believe me, I enjoy those too) but that's not my primary target for clientele. It's so much better when you get to know someone, what they like and dislike, and I don't think you can do that in just one meeting. It also heightens the anticipation - thinking about what might happen next, over a drink is the best foreplay in my opinion.  
   
 I don't have a time minimum right now, but I'm going to institute one shortly. I'm finding that my one hour dates are just not enough time to enjoy my client's company. We usually end up chatting for 20 minutes, which doesn't leave enough time for much else. On the other hand, I do understand from the guy's perspective that there's no sense in wasting money on a long date if there's no chemistry. This is why I think my public meeting is to the guy's benefit too - if he's not feeling it, then he gets to walk away too. Frankly, I'm a little uncomfortable with extremely long dates initially, unless those dates include a full meal.  
   
 And to the people who don't think you can get a sense of someone's personality over email - you're just not doing it right. It's not a matter of being able to read tone of voice, or seeing someone's face (but that certainly helps), it's a matter of seeing how respectful someone is, how professional, whether they have an appreciation for boundaries, and how they're approaching our relationship. To be successful on either side of the aisle, I truly believe you must pick up a strong sense of who you like with minimal information. You have to develop the gut instinct, see what the ladies/gentlemen you have really hit it off with all have in common, and begin to search that out. Anyone who's done online dating knows that pictures and written words can tell you a lot about someone. Hell, even the pictures should show a girl's personality. They don't necessarily tell you whether there's perfect chemistry, but you can get pretty damn close with that profile.  
   
 And, here's the standard disclaimer I have to put on all my posts these days - yes, I know I'm new, I know I don't know everything yet, but I think I know enough about this topic from online dating and other things to offer my 2cents.

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Jennifer's website explains the public meeting requirement in more detail on her website, under "fine print".  She removed my worry that play time would be reduced because of this requirement in an outcall setup.  She's on my short list of new experiences I want.

I love all you sexy ass ladies.....................

That's why she's fast becoming my ATF!

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Was a casual lunch with her and a (non-provider) friend...I picked up the tab, even though she offered to pay---it was so normal and casual, that I was hooked immediately

Re: Haven't had any complaints so far My reviews explain how I handle first meetings (e)

I like the idea of a short meeting to test the waters before you venture behind closed doors. I wish more would do it. Thanks Jennifer.

She prefers outcall and this system would only work for outcall.  A provider who has her own place or hotel room can't very well go out, meet with a client and lead him back to her place, repeatedly over the same day or a few days in a row without drawing unwanted attention from busybodies, hotel clerks and LE

....I've made it work just fine. You just have to be creative! Honestly - read my reviews. A few of them were of me hosting and you can see it works just fine.